Sometimes I feel like I get bored when we when we do everything together... But when I tell her that, she is offended. What do you think I should do?
I have a great idea that may help!
Find a very specific activity you and your friends can get into without her where she is bored around, said activity. Some thing that brings you guys together for you guys to bond. Or maybe a group activity she might not be interested in. Like maybe playing basketball or start a fantasy league. If you have to tell her, you’re unavailable one day out of the week that you choose, and that day is legit the time with the Homies.
Another little idea you can do is that you can ask one of your buddies who has a girlfriend to bring her along and this will possibly make a new friend. If she’s not willing to make new friends with other women, that’s OK too it was just an idea.
Maybe telling her she’s boring or that you are bored when she tags along may hurt her feelings a lot. A safer way to address this issue; you can say, “ me, and my friends are about to do *blank … for a couple hours and we’re really into it, you should sit this one out cause I don’t want you to be bored.”
If she doesn’t let you, I would let it slide but if she never lets you do anything with your friends at one point you gotta tell her you want to hang with your friends. Plan a guys night! I’ll be a homey tell her it was my idea; it was.👍
I’m not telling you to lie to her, but definitely tell her what she wants to hear with some truth in there when it comes to boredom. I would absolutely hate if I was with somebody who thought I was boring at all. I do a very good job at staying away from boring people let alone I don’t wanna be around someone who thinks I’m boring. I don’t wanna waste my time boring somebody.
Good luck😉
Yes. I was once in a similar situation. A lot of people- I would guess that women are more prone to it, but I don't know for certain- expect a relationship to be constant 24/7 contact, but it's important for each member of it to have things they just do themselves, or at least without their partner.
I'd suggest sitting down with her and explaining that you needing some occasional time without her, emphasizing that you're not rejecting her; just reasserting your personal boundaries. It may help for the two of you to set some concrete limits, so you know what to expect from one another.
I'd also suggest that you try gently pushing her towards some groups or hobbies that she can do with others, so she's not feeling left out.
seems like your not that intrested in being around her or hanging out it was like my ex except he never took me pot anywhere or we never went out together about 4 times a walk 5th time a cycle in 3 years but went out with friends or then i found out he was taking another girl out but not me so it sounds like your not really that intrested in her u are lovers u love each other thats easier said than done try nd get into it more she is your girlfriend dont be bored thats no right you should enjoy urself with someone you love
That's not healthy at all. Most of times when people say this it's typically because they want to do something they aren't supposed to do when they are in a relationship.
It also sounds you hangout with a lot of single people because guess what usually happens? The gals in the group become friends and so do the guys. At least friendly. Honestly, it sounds like you want to have your cake as well. So end it if that's the case but like many if not all when you get older you will regret it.
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Yes, its 100% normal for you get bored if you are not really into the woman. Otherwise, if you think you are seriously into this woman, then you got to ask yourself if you are really or if you just think you are?
Focus on doing things you both enjoy. What attracted you to each other?
Yes its normal to get bored if you're constantly with each other 24/7 for an example. But that doesn't mean that you need to do EVERY SINGLE THING WITH EACH OTHER, sometimes I know I need my space even if I don't have friends to hang out with. Your girlfriend needs to understand that there's times you want to do things on your own, hang out with your friends or your family, unless you propose and she's your fiancè then it's a totally different story; but just dating right now then just let her know you care about her a lot, and encourage her to start a hobby of what she wants to keep her busy. Cheers
That's not a healthy relationship. You have to also have some social circle together and also apart from each other. She has to get some kind of social circle of her own too. And that circle is not her family. It has to be friends. She also needs a female circle too. It's a BIG RED FLAG, as to why she has no friends. You have to find out why this is the case. You'll will ultimately get on each others nerves, at this rate you'll are a ticking time bomb. Also what you have right now definitely is not a relationship, it's some kind of unhealthy union, begging to blow up.
Definitely. Two people spending too much time together can be strenuous and can definitely cause both parties to lose interest. There's an old saying, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder". Spending every waking moment together, you two are not going to appreciate each other was much.
Since she has no friends, the best thing for her to do is get a hobby. Be straight forward and tell her you need space, and a hobby would be good for her. It would be therapeutic and keep her mind busy. It could be anything from gardening, video games, hiking, just something to keep her busy.
My ex-girlfriend took up latch hook and she got very good. She taught me eventually. A hobby will take off some of the pressure though. Good luck!
When I met my current wife of 50 years I was a fingerstyle guiitarist (Circa 1968) We were very into one another but listening to a group of guitarist playing together bored her to tears. So that was a solo activity for me. Throughout out our lives together. I never bought musical instruments, She always bought them. She bought a Guild 12 string for me, an Aria 5 string banjo, A Mandolin, a resophonic, a Cuatro de Puertoriqqeno, and a piano. House remodeling was my task. When we lived in the New Bedford, MA area I was at my Zenith and was playing at open mic night weekly. My first open mic night was me alone. But I wanted her there at every one thereafter. She started bringing baked goods and developed a following of her own.
being with someone who doesn't have many friends is always a bad issue to have. because she will become dependent on you. it is normal to become annoyed of this as everyone needs their own friends and their own space every once in awhile.
on the other hand, it is normal for couples to always want to go out with each other or tag along. but every single time because they don't have their own lives? that's where it's a problem.
when you are with her, you are getting bored? usually not a good sign for the relationship anyways.
it’s about personal space and she NEEDS to understand that. try having a fr convo with her and let her know you need time for yourself or with your other friends ALONE. if she still wants to act stupid and clingy tell her you need to take a break from her and end it for it a bit. this only gets worse.
i feel like when i like someone i always want them to tag along wherever i go, ofcourse i have to invite them first
but if you feel like you need space maybe thats not the best thing? like wdym you get bored? when you like someone you like being with their presence even if you guys just sit and scroll through tiktok
but if she's tagging along onto guys night yeah that’s definitely unacceptable so maybe the right word to describe this is not boring but not having separate lives
Encourage her to develop some friendships with others. She can't rely on your for EVERYTHING. What about time alone? Doesn't she had hobbies? An interior life? How old is she?
I'm a bit worried for you AND for her. This doesn't sound like the best of matches, esp if she's close to your age...
Shit I don’t have many friends but I would have to respect guys night unless other girlfriends or significant others would be there. If she tagged around all the time then yes it could be boring but maybe set up some boundaries if you don’t want to get bored of the relationship.
Yes I think so. With my girlfriend she says she'd call me 50 times a day if I wasn't against it ^^. I can handle talking to her more than any other person but even so I get worn out and annoyed after a while. I need some alone time. I think it's totally normal and if someone wants to make you feel guilty about that they're unstable. You need balance.
Telling someone you're bored with them is not likely to go over well. It may not be so much that you're bored with her but rather that you need a healthier balance between your time with her and your other social stimuli/friends. There's probably some added pressure on you to be her everything because she doesn't have other social outlets. That pressure could be making you feel what you call "bored".
I'm not bored with my wife, but it is good to spend time with other men doing things I enjoy. If she enjoyed it as well, I'd be ever more pleased, but it's ok to have your own stuff. So I dont know what you are talking about.
She should have her own friends (girls) to hang with and you should be able to have your own space.
If you really are into someone, you want to be with them even after honeymoon phase (want to be in their presence, have fun together etc). At least that's how my parents have it, they've always been and preferred to be together and do stuff together rather than with somebody else.
I guess I'm an exception but if he find me dull and boring or me him, then you're not a good match.
Literally no lol I’m not too clingy but I’m also never going to get annoyed or tired of my significant other because before they were my significant other they were my bestfriend and I love hanging with them and/or talking to them everyday. It’s always fun and soothing
Set aside a guys night and tell her she's great but you still need male commodity. May or may not work. One of my friends was dating his now wife at the time and tried this. She'd call a few friends and show up wherever we were at and claim she was having a girls night and it was pure coincidence that it was always where we were.
You are so lucky. I wish I could spend all my time with my boyfriend. Just think of all the people who are in long distance relationships and can't spend that much time if at all with their significant others. You need to appreciate the time you get to spend with her. Don't take her for granted like you currently are if you truly love her.
But if it really bothers that much though I would suggest talking to her about it.
Do you know why you feel like that? Like is it too much time with her or not enough time alone/ with others?
I think I would. I think sometimes you can’t be around the same person all the time and you just need a break. I’ve never felt this way about someone I have dated but I have about friends
