Am I expecting too much girlfriend privilege here?

[Anonymous]

I’m 21 and he’s 26 and we’ve been seeing each other for 5 months and I’m not his girlfriend yet. I don’t know if I will be, he’s said stuff like oh I want you to meet my mom this weekend but this is only because I’m pregnant with his child otherwise I don’t think he’d introduce me yet. Yes I know it’s very soon how this has all happened. Anyway he does things that treats me like a girlfriend such as come to my house, sleep together or sometimes go out and do something but he’s a really busy person. I will be honest he is busy, he works all day everyday in the car but it upsets me he dosent think about me much while he’s doing this. The past week it seems to be me always calling when it used to be him and he has gotten busier but it’s Been like 6 hours and he can’t even reply to my text or call? He’s ALWAYS been like this since we first started seeing each other he used to take hours and hours but I’m starting to think about it more due to the circumstances. shouldn't he be replying quicker and calling me at least two times through out the day? I’m trying to cut back on calling him because I constantly feel so so needy. I get it’s his lifestyle but why can’t he at least reply or call me a few times throughout the day? I’ve spoken about this to him and he apolagises and says he will make it up to me and how he loves me but it never seems to happen? Am I expecting too much here

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11 mo

Honestly it’s more the calling and Texting it really bugs me because why can’t he at least check in more than once it just pisses me off

[Anonymous]

It's understandable that you would like to feel more connected and valued in your relationship, especially given the circumstances of your pregnancy and the fact that you're not yet officially his girlfriend. However, it's important to remember that everyone has different communication styles and priorities, and that it's important to communicate openly and honestly with your partner about your needs and expectations.

It's possible that your partner is genuinely busy and doesn't have as much time to devote to communication as you would like, but it's also important for him to make an effort to prioritize your relationship and make you feel valued. It's reasonable to expect some level of communication and connection, even if it's just a quick text or call during the day to check in.

It's important to continue to communicate openly and honestly with your partner about your feelings and needs, and to try to work together to find a solution that works for both of you. It's also important to prioritize self-care and to find ways to meet your own emotional needs, whether that's through spending time with friends and family, pursuing hobbies and interests, or seeking support from a therapist or counselor.

It's up to you to decide what you need and want in a relationship, and to make choices that align with your values and priorities. Remember, you deserve to be with someone who makes you feel valued and respected, and who is willing to put in the effort to make your relationship work.

[shades777]

your a mom your not "just" a girlfriend, thats that immaturity us older guys be talking about, y'all pretty but y'all dumb too. hopefully he gets you together

[catiecatie]

So I’ve know a guy that ended up getting a girl pregnant and bouncing. But it sounds like he is trying and who knows he could already think of you like a girlfriend. But if you are unsure then why not ask him? Maybe not that straightforward but maybe along the lines of hey I’m thinking about posting this picture of us, but if someone asks me who you are do I say that we are dating? Then that basically tells you that you are in the clear and you are boyfriend girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

Considering you're going to be the mother of his child, he should be making you a priority.