I'm a nice guy so she disrespects me?

[Anonymous]

I feel like my girlfriend is always disrespecting me because I'm too nice to her. I've always heard that there was no reward for being nice to women but it's really turning out to be true. I've done the very best that I could to treat this woman like an actually princess but there's been nothing for me but pain. She used to treat her ex a lot better but he was abusive to her and would yell at her. It really seems like she wants the challenge.

This girl is always brining up her ex and every single time that I tell her how much I care about her and just finished telling her how I feel about her, she will always do something to upset me by saying I'm not enough (in some way) or bring up her ex and talk about how much fun she used to have with him. I don't like this. It doesn't make me feel good.

I honestly try my best to be a good fella, but she's pushing me to be someone else. She did so much for a guy that didn't care about her and take care of her the way that I do but.. I just don't get it. It seems like they want the hard life. It makes me not want to be a good guy to her anymore. She seems like like the hard life, she can have it.

[smashleyy]

She’s a lesson. Being a good person doesn’t mean letting your partners or people in general walk all over you, set boundaries or leave if you’re being disrespected. We can’t be treated poorly unless we allow ourselves to

[Asker]

I agree wholeheartedly. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts.

[MzAsh]

There’s trauma. You should have known better.

[Asker]

You’re right. If this person has a past of being abused, I should have done more due diligence.

[ShesRad80]

you aren't happy neither is she, break up with her and don't turn into another person just leave.

[Asker]

That makes sense. Thanks for responding

[ShesRad80]

welcome

[SnowedIn]

Dump her.

And half of this is on you if you let it happen.

[Asker]

You’re right, if I’m letting a person disrespect/mistreat me, that’s on me.

[stepyo99]

Dump her stupid ass. There's being nice and there's being a door mat. You're her door mat.

[Asker]

This is my first ever serious relationship. It hurts so much because I think she’s a good girl but she’s struggling to treat me right

[stepyo99]

She isn't struggling. She has 0 respect for you. Reread what you wrote in the second paragraph of your OP. She treats you like dogshit. I get that it hurts, but you have got to dump her immediately and move on. A woman who is constantly degrading you and comparing you to other men she's been with is trash.

[EpicSnail]

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[LazerBean]

She disrespects you because you suck at picking women.

[Anonymous]

Break up with her. Do it fast and short