If marriage and children no longer seem to be the modern goal of relationships, what is?

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Vesuvius87 · Accepted Answer

It's either being single (out of choice or involuntary) or wasting too many years in the infatuation/romantic stage of a relationship, moving together with a boyfriend/girlfriend and it never leading towards marriage. Not being engaged or married is still just dating and wanting to have a foot out the dolor any time. Then a break-up eventually happens and you're single again.

At some point, moving in with Partner after partner sounds close to having a friends with benefits relationship with the only difference of calling them your boyfriend/girlfriend by verbal title. You're still having a good friend yo have lots of sex and all the benefits in a relationship without any real commitment. They're just a partner you like going to the movies, say your "I love you, miss you", have lustful moments, spend the time with but that's it. You're not sharing assets, morgage nor have kids with them.

provokeesmokee · Accepted Answer

For me, love and connection.

I don't care for kids. I'm sterile. Marriage I'm interested in, but only with the right person.

When I date, I'm looking for love and a deep connection. Compatability and good company.

It doesn't need to be more than that. I don't care about the financial or social perspective. Just me and my partner.

molonski2 · Accepted Answer

I'm not sure what the current goals are , but I understand , children and life is so expensive now , its not about being self centred , its about existence and expectation.

I have 2 daughters 34 and 31 years old , neither has a child , neither are married ( one living together long term , children highly unlikely ) , the younger one is completing a second degree , after finishing Science , and working her guts out as well , living in a share house , big hours , then study , then comes placement , this is opposite to my life at that age , and I had two young children , but things were far far easier , I was working hard sure , but not as hard as her.

So , I think its very reasonable ( culture dependent ) that the modern goal posts have moved.

BCA6010 · Accepted Answer

Sexual pleasure without the responsibilities of having or raising kids. I wish I was kidding but that's pretty much it- an active denial or phobia of the natural progression of a relationship. This is also a major reason why the overwhelming majority of these relationships and marriages (including homosexual couples) fall apart, and why some people are trying to normalize "open relationships" and polygamy.

epicsoundwaves · Answer

Companionship. Most people don't want to go through life alone, so finding a partner they care about that shares their likes and enjoys their activities goes a long way to making a modern relationship what it is. It can still result in a marriage and having children, but it doesn't have to.

SolitarySolace · Answer

There is none. Relationships are pointless. It’s better to be single especially now a-days. Some frown upon those choosing to be single though. Others consider it selfish. A lot feel bad for those who prefer to be single and wrongfully hope they find someone someday not knowing that they have a reason to want to be single. They just don’t understand.

Anonymous · Answer

Moving in together, making a commitment you wouldn’t have to make with a friends with benefits situation and risking your own financial well-being to be with a partner that you or them will likely bail out of at the first sign of trouble because everyone’s become so hyper-individualistic and extremely narcissistic to the point that their happiness is the only thing that matters. The irony being: No one is actually happy.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Relationship or not, its still children for me. In terms of a relationship, my main goals are commitment, endless love, having a safeguard/defender (someone who has my back and vice versa) and building a family together

ArabellaLady07 · Answer

None of the guys I have met so far deserved my respect and my attention. So I am still single and happier like this. Maybe I am not a beauty as they kept telling me and not their fist choice but I know I am a lot smarter than their dolls and stay away from them.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Mine is - marriage and having children. If I start a relationship that will be my ultimate wish, so that’s why I don’t hurry to hop in relationships and just enjoy being single.

Anonymous · Answer

I truly believe with most women today it's about filling her fantasies. I mean to be fair I think it's always been that way. But in the past women had to be more practical. Now today there is no judgement or social stigma for how a person acts. So neither gender has to live up to any standards.

Nikki1989 · Answer

It is all about love and companionship, but some guys are happier with cats and choking their chicken. It must suck to be them.

richardcory · Answer

Mutual happiness. Mutual trust - having someone you can rely on to have your best interests at heart

reds-noro · Answer

Having a loving partner that you live the rest of your life with without having to comply to expectations from society.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

1. an emotional bond  2. companionship  3. co-habitation  4. FWBs

cosmosis181 · Answer

For your gender, it's taking guys money. For our gender, it's avoiding your gender so we can have happiness and keep everything we've worked for. That's basically it.😊

Anonymous · Answer

Nowadays with women being promiscuous, only wanting to settle down when they're old and worn down and having little relationship value, most men should not commit at all and just date women for companionship and sex.

boggboss · Answer

What the individuals inside if those relationships want

Paul09 · Answer

Well I'd prefer to meet my perfect match. And spend our lives enjoying and sharing life till the end. Live love and learn! I need a partner in crime! Lol You'll have Mors money and time enjoying life.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Life partner to share everything else with. And sex.

Dargil · Answer

Sharing expenses and having a steady supply of sex until a better deal comes along. That's what relationships have become.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Everything that normally comes with marriage, but without the financial punishments if divorce happens.

rukus88 · Answer

for men sex, for women money, prestige, protection. thanks for feminism

DiegoO · Answer

It's only is when there's a stability. There is not much stability nowadays for 2 reason: Global warming and a deep economical crisis. Those are a gateway to WW3.

exitseven · Answer

Who can live in the fanciest house, drive the expensive car and go on nice VA c ations

Meropatrick · Answer

Just a human connection. Because people nowadays are drfiting in masses away from reality through their phones.

gothbxtch · Answer

for some people, marriage and children. for others, one of those and not the other. for others, just love without marriage. for others, sex.

Raaj4you · Answer

Both Men and women want no strings attached relationship with no love, respect and loyality towards each other. The only goal is to have lots of money and lots of  SEX .

Minahh · Answer

I eventually want to marry and adopt a kid but my goal is to find someone who accepts me for me, wants to grow as an individual and in the relationship. It's so hard to find someone like that tho.

Sasha0426 · Answer

Living life and stop going by what society wants you to do with your life.

Anonymous · Answer

Guys aren’t men anymore, they don’t even try. So much, that they have tried to be a female. Why would a real woman want a guy? And a real guy doesn’t want a woman because he can’t make her submissive more. I wonder why 🙄

jahaims · Answer

in my opinion it seems like want their cake and eat it too. Societal morals and values have shifted and that is one of the consequences of it.

Kinkyhubby · Answer

It because people don't one hour to work through problems, and don't respect the vows they take. I blame dating app

mommymommymommy · Answer

Affording the bills, without kids. The only reason to get married these days, is that it's a tax benefit

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

It is though. Plenty of people get married daily so this notion that it isn't the goal is false.

Anonymous · Answer

When was that ever the ‘goal’ of a healthy relationship? It’s a relationship not a business deal. They are just byproducts…

KrakenAttackin · Answer

What "relationships"? The goal is SITUationships AKA fuck buddy's. Have a roster of plates and keep'em spinnin'.

Anonymous · Answer

Travelling, experiencing new places, actives and cultures with each other, having fun without the responsibility of a child constantly being a worry.

marish01 · Answer

To me it is either celibacy or marriage. To me

monghjay2 · Answer

the point of children was for the seed war of the bible READ IT FOR ONCE IN YOUR LIFE

mandyfire98 · Answer

Love, Happiness and companionship

Agape93 · Answer

Whatever you want it to be

sunflower00 · Answer

Happiness, love & companionship

inhua · Answer

just fuck buddies

electromagnetic · Answer

Common law with a dog.

MementoMori777 · Answer

living happily together and make memories?

LiamJHayden · Answer

Companionship.

Ironic_Method · Answer

Uh... happiness? So far, it's working out great.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

To find your soulmate, duh.

peedy · Answer

Death and the grave for mankind

Reorx · Answer

Enslaving one's self to substance.

BLP11520 · Answer

Honestly I am dumbfounded with what is going on

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Companionship

4ngelic · Answer

love

slatyb · Answer

Companionship.

DJB72 · Answer

Avoiding dying alone

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Fuck and forget?

Christoff92 · Answer

Your individuality

Luopio27 · Answer

To have a companion.

Kathy1983 · Answer

Companionship think.

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