This female has kids by my husband brother but he doesn’t talk to his brother 🤔😵💫 I have fought this girl and was beating her up and her male cousin came outside and punched me in my side and told me to get off her and leave before I lose my life. Long story short my husband was just over there hanging out with both of them and as always no brother around. And ignored my calls and gone for four hours 🤔This is some beyond Jerry Springer (rip) ghetto stupid disrespectful and disgusting behavior that only makes sense to the fact that he has to have no love or respect for me or this marriage. Do you think it’s selfishness? Cheating? Disrespectful? Or what the heck is this weird mess?
He went over a girl house I fought and the male cousin that hit me and threatened my life when I was beating her up?
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In my country we consider it barbaric to use violence against anyone except for in self defense, and even then only a bare minimum is legally defensible (as in it's a possible defense in court and might get you off punishment but is still seen as ethically and legally wrong).
Even if she had killed your husband we'd consider it wrong to hurt her, even slapping her...
So no, fighting people like that is not okay.
And going over there to excuse your behaviour makes perfect sense.
I get that in your community there's less trust in the government or police solving problems for you.
But self restraint and use of non-violent measures still makes more sense.
And is the approach that the Bible that you Americans care so much about recommends.
"Turn the other cheek".
In his place I'd be apologizing profusely.
Because even if it's easier to deal with feeling anger instead of all those other feelings like pain, sadness etc, those are still the real feelings and the ones that must be dealt with to live a healthy life.
Instead with anger you end up with this situation.
And a husband that might be reconsidering the relationship.
I was attacked as I walked away and she hit me from the back, I was defending myself and unfortunately she started a fight she didn’t win. Every one has the right to defend themselves when they are attacked (especially in that way) I called the police and made a report. Thanks
*nods*
That's true.
Even so, wishing to patch things up makes sense, if that's what he did.
Well, he shouldn't hit a woman, but I understand also wanting to protect his cousin who happens to be his family. I get you being upset over the entire situation. You say the girl you were beating up has kids with your husband's brother? Ok, so why were you beating her up and fighting with her exactly?
You say your husband was over there hanging out with the girl you attacked? Were they hanging out alone? Do you suspect he's cheating on you with her?
Violence doesn't solve anything and just creates more issues. You could be arrested and charged with assault for beating the girl up. Her cousin could be charged with assault for hitting you and also face charges for threatening your life.
If you suspect your husband is cheating on you, confront him. If you don't like him hanging out with that girl, especially alone, talk to him about it. Tell him why you don't like it and why it makes you uncomfortable. If he still does it despite knowing you aren't comfortable with it, he likely doesn't respect you or your feelings.
If it is too much of an issue, get a divorce. That's what you do when you can't resolve issues with your spouse.
Very good advice and I would also like to answer your questions. Yes I have told him that I don’t like it. Yes it just be him and her. Yes I beat her up but I was defending myself after she attacked me when I was walking away. I also made a police report.
Good for you for making a police report. I don't blame you for being upset if it's just him and her hanging out alone. If he isn't going to respect you, leave him. You deserve better and you don't need all this drama going on.
Why did you fight in the first place? Go to the police if he punched you
From her description, he was only protecting his cousin. The Asker is the one who should have the police called on her.
@Red_Arrow Yes probably
@Red_Arrow the girl attacked me from the back as I was walking away, unfortunately she just couldn’t fight and all I did was defend myself and in no way a man should have put his hands on me from me protecting myself from someone who thought jumping on me from behind would be her benefit. And I actually did call the police and make a report on her. Thanks
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