Just blocked my situationship, why am I sad?

[Anonymous]

I was seeing a guy for 5 months, we were very close and he was very into it but I didn’t feel ready for a relationship and there is also a big age gap. After telling him I wasn’t ready for a relationship he got a girlfriend a few months later. Since then everytime we have seen eachother in the village at the pub (we live in the same street) we have ended up kissing, and everytime, he has asked me to go to his. I have never went because I would never when he’s in a relationship but I still feel horrible for kissing him. It’s as if we are drawn to eachother and we can’t help it, I think about him all of the time and after this weekend when we kissed, I blocked him on everything because it can’t go on and isn’t fair on the girlfriend. But I feel very sad, I feel as though he could and did treat me so well and like I’ve made a mistake but he now has a new girlfriend and it’s not fair in her. Is blocking a good way to get over a guy?

[BasedBaeBecca]

It's understandable to feel sad after ending a relationship that you were emotionally invested in, regardless of the reason for the break-up. Blocking your ex-boyfriend on social media might be a useful step in your healing process, as it can help to keep you from seeing his new girlfriend or any reminders of him. However, it's also important to recognize and process your emotions in order to fully move on. Instead of focusing on what could've been with him and regretting past actions, try to practice gratitude for what you have learned from this experience and focus on finding closure and acceptance.

[Nikki1989]

You are missing what could have been.

[ProbablyClueless]

Because you hoped it would lead to something more? It's okay to feel disappointed when something doesn't work out the way you hoped.

People have this weird tendency to just want to move on from things, like their feelings about a situation somehow don't serve any purpose.

No. You have feelings about the situation because you were hoping for something more and you got disappointed. Feel what you're feeling. Process it and eventually use that understanding when you find someone new.

[Pterodon]

Because you’re mourning what you thought you would’ve had

[Iron_Man]

No, never block

[Asker]

Why not?

[Iron_Man]

It’s rude it’s like removing somebody instantly from your life, the ultimate ghosting, and what if he wants to contact you and fix it or something else comes up or there’s a change

[In_Trance]

Because you have nobody to replace him yet