Can your girlfriend go out alone with a friend of the opposite sex?

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Stressyalaire · Accepted Answer

I can sort of see why a guy doesn't like it. But I am against the not allowing a person to go out.

If you don't trust your partner, isn't the relationship already doomed at that point?

I'll tell you where I'm going if there is an event going on. If we don't share the same interests and something I like, is happening, I am going. I'm going to let you know that I go. Don't get into a fight over something like this.

I will not let something I'm passionate about slip by, because my boyfriend isn't interested in the same thing and therefore doesn't want to join me.

Anemone978 · Accepted Answer

I don't know that seems odd to me.. like if I had a boyfriend why would I be going out with other guys without my actual boyfriend? Seems very strange especially if he isn't gay. Even with guy friends I have know forever I have never gone out just me and one of them.. Like I used to hang out with one guy friend at my house we would watch movies and play VG's together but we never went out alone somewhere. So yeah dodgy behaviour whether its your girlfriend or boyfriend that seems like a strange dynamic. I wouldn't trust it.

mobiusforniner · Accepted Answer

I used to think this was okay. I spent a lot of time alone with my single female friend and my wife was okay with that.

Well, that same single female friend was wanting alone time so she can step up from being just a friend.

Dont do it.

Angelo75 · Accepted Answer

I would just say "no".

Everyone has their own limits and "rules" in a relationship. I don't go out alone with a friend of the opposite sex and simply wouldn't want my SO to do that either. (no reason to argue about it. Just don't.)

OlderAndWiser · Answer

If she chooses to do that, I don't care. I trust her. If I didn't trust her, we would not be engaged.

AviatorTom · Answer

I can't stop her, even if I wouldn't like it. But we trust each other so what's the problem?

ImHere22 · Answer

She's my partner, not my property. If she wants to go out, then she should be able to do so! And besides, who am I to say who she can/not hang out with- most of my closest friends were/are of the opposite gender (I'm a guy), so it'd be totally hypocritical for me to say she can't hang out with someone who is the opposite gender as her when she's known me to have mostly female friends. And I know she doesn't even entertain the idea of having any physical or emotional connection beyond friendship.
If you're worried about your partner going out, talk to your significant other about your concerns and hopefully the two of you can come to an agreement / understanding.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Depends what it is... two coworkers grabbing lunch, sure. Sharing a horse drawn carriage through the park to a catered picnic and share a dance by the starlight, not so much.

TooHot2Care · Answer

Guys, if you think shit like this is okay? Just be single. I hate to be the one to tell you this, but in relationships? You kind of have to enter a new modality of being. . . . One where you have to consider your partners feelings before you do something? If you can't do that, then just be single.

Midnight_Kiss · Answer

If you're making those decisions for anyone you clearly don't see them as you girlfriend (or boyfriend) but instead property which is a massive red flag to get as far away from you as possible.

provokeesmokee · Answer

Considering I'm only interested in women who love women, yes. She can go dance with people of other genders.

Hell, she can dance with other women, too.

If I can't trust my girlfriend, then clearly we aren't gfs.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

No, if she wants to do that, we aren't compatible. I have no desire to go out alone with a woman I'm not dating, If I were dating someone, I'd want to spend my time with them.

richardcory · Answer

Of course. If she somehow found someone who made her happier than I did, she is welcome to leave me to be with him. I never want to be someone's 2nd choice.

safricanluke · Answer

Relationships are built on trust, and if you can't trust your partner you need to ask yourself why that it and why you're with them if you can't trust them.

Wraith_Cemetery · Answer

I wouldn't be with someone who thinks this is ok to begin with. Those ground rules would be set from the start of the relationship.

genericname85 · Answer

sure. for me a relationship is all about trust. and if i can't trust her to be faithful, then i might as well break up.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Yeah, she can, if she wants. I trust her to be firm in her boundaries.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Sure, as long as she dosen't try to hide it from me

exitseven · Answer

I would not have a problem unless it was somebody she used to date ir somebody she has had sex with,

Anonymous · Answer

The question is moot in my relationship because neither of us would do that. It's disrepectful.

DrKrieger · Answer

Sure, well as long as she sees no issue with me doing the same

Nikki1989 · Answer

Sure, why not?

Rajaenigma · Answer

Because boys are bad. Like even if you consider me, I'm bad. You may calls boys as opportunist

justabuddy · Answer

If you can't trust her... she shouldn't be your girlfriend.

VforVindication · Answer

Too many morons on this site it seems.

gothbxtch · Answer

my boyfriend could

SnowedIn · Answer

Of course!

shades777 · Answer

you sure thats your girlfriend

Kelly6 · Answer

Sure. She can go

Anonymous · Answer

She has a light sabre?

skyla_is_learning · Answer

I don' let

ButthurtGAGpeople1 · Answer

If he's gay

CreedOfIron · Answer

Absolutely not.

Provingdatruth · Answer

If the man was gay

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Lol no

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