My ex does this thing where he says something really disrespectful or does something that’s really inconsiderate and then if I would react negatively he would just get mad at my reaction rather than acknowledging his disrespectful behavior. And if he did admit to being wrong he would very nonchalantly suggest that if I wanted to stop talking to him because of it he didn’t care. We were on and off a lot but I decided to block him and leave him blocked because I know arguing isn’t going to solve anything with him. It’s been almost a week now and he has remained on the block list. For the most part I didn’t regret my decision and I didn’t attempt to contact him. However today the recent argument replayed in my head and I just got so angry. First of all, I acknowledge that I have done and said things that bothered him throughout our relationship BUT I always apologize and fix the issues and they never come up again. I always listen to his concerns, ALWAYS. Because I don’t like being lied to, its been my motto to always listen and respect whatever someone is telling me is a problem so that they don’t feel like they can’t tell me the truth. And so I know for a fact that I always listen and fix the problems to the best of my abilities. He on the other hand has never shown me that he shares this same sentiment. This particular argument he insisted that I go somewhere with him at 1 o’clock in the morning after I had what may have been one of the worst days at work that I have ever had in my life and I had to also wake up again and go to work first thing in the morning. I told him that even though I had considered going because he wanted me to, my final answer was no. We argued because the WAY that he insisted on me going was not only dismissive of my reasons but rude. He cursed at me and called me stupid before I finally snapped. It’s been a week now and I wonder if we can have a civilized conversation.
My ex tends to play innocent or victim in every situation and usually doesn’t acknowledge his mistakes or change them. Should I ask for closure?
