I had a relationship with a girl that lasted just over a decade, it was a serious relationship where we were to get married eventually and our families, both kinda traditional, approved.
The girl was never really attracted to me and we fell out with each other within the first year, it soured the relationship and well sex? that never happened for 7 years.
During our relationship, after the 3rd year, she ghosted me for 3 months because she had to focus on finishing her teaching degree (her words).
During those 3 months I met a really nice girl online and we started an outside relationship. THAT. outside relationship lasted until now.
Was I wrong to have an outside relationship while I was stuck in a platonic dating relationship with a 30something year old who treated me badly and had near zero intimacy?
I'm missing out a lot of details but I want to know about being stuck in a platonic relationship when part of the reason you fell out with the girl was because she was having an ongoing sexual relationship with her ex-bf while I was still being coerced by my parents to take her out (and vice versa).
The problem I had was taking her out to dinners and movies and her being a cold but polite date who had a secret boyfriend and was using me like some kinda fake beard to throw her parents off her scent.
