How do you help people believe in themselves?

[caring__1]

Do you talk at people, spoon feed them or rescue them (lowering their self-esteem), or do you facilitate the other person’s exploration and discovery, so that person can determine what solutions might be most functional (raising their self-esteem)?

[MatthewA]

I’d recommend to them reading or watching some videos on the law of attraction or recommending some positive influencers. It might sound corny, but everyone is truly beautiful and capable. Although some people may have some true disabilities everyone deserves to be comfortable in their own skin. Let them know their worthy and capable of anything they set their mind to.


It is true only they can change themselves, but it is possible for others to guide them into the mindset. Everyone deserves abundance, love , and happiness but it comes from within. Recommend stoicism , one of the greatest teachings of all time.

[pervertedjester]

Observe them. Note the small talents they might be good at and encourage them to develop those talents. Set small achievable goals they can feel good about. Ask for their advice or their help with something. People usually feel better about themselves after helping someone else. Boost them up verbally where you can. Go for a walk with them. Walking and talking relieves a lot of stress.

That's all I can think of at the moment.

[caring__1]

Good start. Actually, helping them see themselves more accurately generally has more positive results than telling them what their talents are. When people tell us, we're likely to deny or minimize whatever they say. You can ask them what they see, what they can do to develop those talents and what achievable goals make sense to them.

As you said, seeking out their advice or perspective or help can definitely help them see more value in their thoughts and abilities. On a similar note, teaching something is the best way to show ourselves we have truly mastered the skill.

Verbal reassurance can be helpful, but only if they already believe what you are telling them. If you don't believe something about yourself, you won't want to hear it from others.

It is truly easier to melt away the walls when we walk and talk.

Thanks for taking the time to think about this.

[WhitneySnow]

The second one. You’re smart for an older guy.

[caring__1]

It's interesting. When we were young, our parents knew everything. As we got older, that knowledge drained from their heads, till there was nothing left by the time we reached adolescence. After we resolve adolescence, knowledge seems to slowly reappear in the heads of those parents.

Even in ancient times, philosophers complained about adolescents. The most difficult job anyone will ever have is going through adolescence. The second most difficult job is being the parent of an adolescent. This tends to be true for most parents, as they are more likely to think for their kids, which only creates power struggles and low self-esteem. I encouraged my son to think for himself from the time he could speak. There never was a rebellious bone in his body. He has accomplished much in his life, and everyone who knows him looks up to him. Though people tend to give me credit for his accomplishments, I point out these were his choices and actions, and he gets all the credit for what he has accomplished. All I did was to provide him with a stable basis upon which to grow and a never-ending variety of experiences, to help him discover himself.

[WhitneySnow]

That sounds awesome

[Senator754]

You can’t help others until you’ve helped yourself first. If you can’t manage your own life how can you helps others?

[Subflics]

Don't. If they can't believe in themself, you shouldn't

[sheikalana]

Words of encouragement.

[jahaims]

Build them up into someone that are proud to be

[caring__1]

What are some things you do to accomplish this, and what have been the results?

[jahaims]

It depends. Not everyone has low self-esteem for the same reasons. Some people are embarrassed to be poor, and some want to lose weight. Help them see the value they already possess while adding value in the area they lack in.

[muscles_glasses]

dont give them fake compliments

[caring__1]

This is very true, yet most people aren't aware of how fake compliments backfire. We put value on the statements of others only if we already believe what is being said. This is the main problem for people expecting others to make them whole. If they don't already feel whole, nothing others can say will make it happen. Trust is shattered when we withhold or alter the truth. People start questioning what else you are withholding or altering, if you choose to do it in this situation.