When it comes to relationships there's always been a scenario that runs through my head.
A woman you date and eventually marry is revealed to have had a very sex filled past while hiding this from you and pretending to be something she isn't.
Now I'm sure some of you will be like "The past is the past, she has no obligation to tell you anything. Deal with it"
But no. With this scenario 3 issues come to mind.
- 1. A lie via omission is still a lie, she still presented herself to me as something she wasn't. If she was honest about this I might have been ok with it if she had been upfront with me, but because she hasn't that least's to issue 2.
- 2. How do I know she's not lying to me now? How do I know she'll stay faithful to me if we hit a rough patch or even if she's being faithful now? If she's willing to lie to me about that, what else is she keeping from me?
- and finally 3. How do I know she actually loves me? Was I someone she genuinely wanted to be with? Or was i simply the most convenient option at the time?
My greatest fear when it comes to relationships, is for the entire thing to be built on a lie because it was convenient for her. And I'm suppose to just be ok with it?
What Girls Said
Yep! You married her. My question to you is why does it matter (sexual experience) ?
Well her experience is fine as long as she's neither A a sexual burnout and/or B actively making every excuse in the book to avoid having sex with me.
Really I'm less upset about the fact that she's slept with a lot of dudes before me and more upset that she decided to lie to me about it. Sluts I can live with but liars are just terrible people full stop.
Explain your A, B? Lol … is she currently not having sex w/you? The lie part… Did you ask her about previous relationships, sex partners etc? Or did you assume?
Like all your questions above are answered easily. SHE MARRIED YOU! Not those other men.
Exactly! Why me? You had all those men you fooled around with, what the fuck made you decide on me?
Ummmm duh she loves you..
... See shit like this is why im convinced im aromantic, cause the idea that you could choose someone over anybody else based purely on sentimental stuff like that just doesn't make sense to me.
You obviously had something those other men did not have. You made her feel like a woman. I don't know only she knows the rest. It’s you buddy. Accept it and fuck the shit outta her. TBH