I can't find anyone else ever since the break-up, does this make me a failure in life?

[Anonymous]

The break-up happened 3 months ago (the only relationship I ever had and I failed it) and I've been unsuccessful in finding someone else. I have gone out on a couple dates but it never progressed to a relationship. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I don't know.

My girlfriend at the time told me there wasn't enough chemistry anymore, she wasn't feeling the sparks and that it's better to go our separate ways. I learned from others that she got tired of nothing happening after 4 months into the relationship. She got bored with just hugging and making-out sessions. She just never communicated that part to me. Meanwhile I really thought everything was great and I was respecting her.

I have my reasons though. I don't know how to lead to be honest (I got shy about it; don't know how to start that) and didn't want to sound like a desperate creep or something. I failed that one relationship I ever had. So this makes me a failure in life?

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8 mo

I'm 29 years old and it's a struggle for me in the dating world. I really thought I was doing everything right in my relationship, respecting her boundaries, her space, not pushing for sex and spend quality time with her and her family.

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8 mo

I didn't push for sex because like mentioned, I don't know how to lead. I'm shy about it.

[Anonymous]

Darlin’ you’re not a failure. She should have communicated what she wanted, and she didn’t. That’s not on you, that’s on her.
This was your first relationship and it didn’t work out. Many people have firsts that don’t work out. Don’t believe for one second that you only get once chance in life at love, because that isn’t true. There will be other loves, give it time. In the meantime, give yourself some grace.

[Asker]

The break-up feels like yesterday. It's still kind of new to me but I'm going to continue moving on. We never did it though. I suppose there was indeed a lack of communication on her part. She never told me what was bothering her and why I wasn't making further moves.
If I get into my next relationship I hope the next woman accepts that I've never gotten intimate (sexually) with a woman before. This might sound weird but I'm 29 and never done it before.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m 29 too, and I’ve never done it. But I’m waiting till marriage:

[CallMeDave]

Most people have at least one, and sometimes a few, relationships that don't work before they find the right person. It's hard, but unfortunately that's how dating usually works. It certainly does not mean that you're a failure.

You just need to learn from that experience and move on. With each relationship, you learn a little more than can help in the future.

Keep trying and hopefully sometime soon you'll meet the right person!

[Anonymous]

Learn what your can from that one and move on. If she was the one, she wouldn't have quit on you. She did you a favour. Take time to reflect, grow, another will come in time. Don't be in a hurry.

[sheikalana]

3 months is still early. Keep looking or that someone and they will show up when you least expect it.