Have you ever believed you were an introvert and found out everyone else thinks you are an extrovert?

[Anonymous]

My coworker told me, “You are an extrovert”, when I asked “Really?”. He said “Of course, if there’s anyone, that’s you for sure”

He said I am undoubtedly an extrovert.

I guess I do come off as one to him.

But I also get tired after too much of social interaction and go home and cut all ties with people for a whole day. Once I am home, I am very much introverted and don’t like having my peace and coziness disturbed. And I love spending time alone. Can always find something to entertain myself with.

But he said, he doesn’t even doubt I am an extrovert and that he is sure I want to go to cooking courses, not to learn cooking, but to cook ALONG with other people and chat with them. 🤣

That’s right actually, I was hoping I would learn better along with other people,

but I now feel like all this time I believed I was thoughtful, introspective, a bit shy, mysterious introvert. I even liked thinking of myself as one

and figured out people see me as energetic extrovert instead. I am a bit upset hahahah

Updates

8 mo

I think I am an ambivert, can be both very extroverted and very introverted sometimes.

[caring__1]

Determining introversion or extroversion has more to do with people's reliance on structure than how outgoing they are. Introverts can be outgoing within their structure, yet feel like a fish out of water outside their structure. Introverts need to know where they belong and what their value is in the situation. They develop structures or routines that help them predict the outcome and allow themselves to feel in control of their situation (not necessarily in control of anything other than themselves, though).

[spartan55]

@caring_1
Thanks for providing a more nuanced definition to this criminally overused/misused buzzword. Don't get me started on the wily nily use of the term narcissist... ugh 🙄

[caring__1]

@spartan55 You're welcome.

[jshm2]

Nah, he's basically called you "classroom drama" in not so many words.

Most people who "think" they are introverts are usually the opposite. Just like the drama queens will usually be the ones who say "I don't like drama!"

[Asker]

If he thought I was drama he wouldn’t love spending time with me. We are friends.

[Potteplante]

Absolutely, I call myself an outgoing introvert.

When I'm in social settings - I shine despite being a calm individual, I enjoy it and with time it has become easy for me but I can't help that it can be extremely draining on me and I've created a home I enjoy spending time in.

[Bilboes]

I am an extrovert because of the nature of my job, and my social interactions are always healthy and productive. But unlike my extrovert personality, I prefer to be alone and isolated from social environments.

[AviatorTom]

Is a label really thst important? Why not just be who and what you are... and forget about labels?

[Pegases]

I am an introvert, but I thrive in large crowds. I'm a typical saggitarius in that way. But what most people don't realize is that I have a social battery. Without my time alone, I become an asshole. Most people don't realize that because I know my limits.

[Andres77]

Just because I prefer to be alone or don’t enjoy being surrounded by loads of people doesn’t mean I can’t adjust when necessary. My being an instructor for years got me used to the other side out of necessity but I still prefer quiet solitude where no one touches my stuff.

[Andres77]

Awesome book.
You’ll feel better about yourself after you read this.
www.goodreads.com/.../49322.The_Introvert_Advantage

[Andres77]

Both my mom and I had been accused of being arrogant and self centered our whole lives. Not true. We’re very humble and keep to ourselves as much as possible.
We just think differently.

[Guido]

I am mostly an introver however in the right setting I am an extrovert. A lot of people don't know I'm more of an introvert because of the way I interact with people at work but that is my job to be that way.

[scooogy]

I had twalked to three women at college due to maths course because one of them was quite attractive. Later on when once chatting with the other two, they confessed to me that they were actually introverts but I made them open up.

[Anonymous]

It's reverse for me
I considdered myself extrovert , but I talk only with few people I like
Then this guy that I hate comes and calls me introvert and I reply you don't call people who don't talk to you cause of your disgusting attitude as "Introverts "

[Bklynbadboy12]

I think you are to at least on gag you are. Here you have a very outgoing personality

[Asker]

I don’t talk nearly as much as here in real life.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Wow so you different in real life

[Grond21]

You are an outgoing introverted people person. Nothing wrong with that. My brother is the same way.

Also, outgoing ≠ extrovert

[LavLavLuv]

I'm.. I'm a situational extrovert. Lol jk I'm an ambivert

[Sevenpointfive]

kind of. i thought i was an introvert possible extrovert coming out. but instead i was just a pervert

[LiLee77E]

Yes. I’m an introvert but I have extroverted thinking. So I come across as an extrovert when I’m around others, but to recharge I need time on my own.

[Jennz6]

Yes, it started out that way but I really am an extrovert

[msc545]

Yes, I have had that experience.

[Sparkie460]

I don't concern myself with labels. I am who I am.

[lightbulb27]

yea that me.

[rigmarole]

Nope.