How do I become more private with my life?

[Anonymous]

The judgements are enough to put me off from speaking to people about the issues going on in my life or what I'm currently up to. I'm beginning to feel the same even about my boyfriend because of a comment he made. I do feel that I need to address it with him but I also am questioning whether I'm overreacting.

Sometimes I think I say too much though and probably shouldn't talk about what's happening with me. I could vent online or write rather than speaking to the current people in my life.
I only really have my boyfriend, I'm not close to my siblings or my mum. My friend drifted from me and that's probably because I have changed (starting following religion) and so I don't drink or smoke.
I don't feel lonely to be honest, but sometimes it just would be nice to talk to someone without them making any judgements. I do currently have online counselling sessions, i told my boyfriend this ane also told him a little about my i am getting counselling (tbh i should've just kept my mouth shut but because im used to talking to a partner, it feels hard not to). I am not doing counselling because I am depressed, its more for self improvement. I don't even need counselling and I told my boyfriend this and he responded saying "maybe you could've done counselling because it's advertised everywhere and you're also studying counselling" he tried to say there might be some influence, yes I am studying but it's not because of advertisements or anything, I'm perfectly capable of making decisions on my own rather than being influenced. My life is so busy and there's quite a lot going on, I don't have that kind of time to be getting influenced with what's going on online.

I do need to not say a lot of things to my boyfriend though tbh, some things should be kept private but because of my past experiences with men, I always have shared literally everything. I don't want him to make judgements or even think that way and I know after I address this, he could apologise but then its the tho

[tfan1]

Don’t worry, I’m the same way - when I talk I give every detail no matter how tiny. I wish I could keep my mouth shut but it’s hard to talk and people can practically pull anything out of me except my ssn and address and financial information.

Sometimes I have to think about the movie driving Miss Daisy whenever people would ask hoke aka Morgan freeman about things and he would say now now. That’s between him and me. It’s a nice way of saying none of your business. I’m going to start using that 👍🙂

[Unit1]

You remind me of myself when i was a kid. Overshared instead of keeping my mouth shut and figuring things out for myself. As information sharing pretty much exposed where it would hurt the most.

My way however is the somewhat grim isolated way. Private. No trace on social media. Being quiet. I don't speak. I can go days without having spoken a single word. Stoicism.

But at least there is no pain or regret on being private.

[LiLee77E]

I’d suggest the problem isn’t how much you share, it’s who you’re sharing with. It sounds like they’re not respectful, hence you wish you didn’t tell them so much. You say you’re already doing counselling and that’s awesome because it should be a safe place to be honest and open without feeling judged or like anyone will betray your trust.

[exitseven]

I get it. The vast majority of Americans do not have one person they can talk about personal stuff with. You need to be able to solve your own problems. I know it's hard but the world has changed

[Sunnybeach123]

Nothing wrong with talking counseling. And never feel forced to share more than you're comfortable with.