Girlfriend got her dream job but she has to move to Paris should I let her go?

[kellytheman]

My girlfriend got a promotion but she has to move to another country but I don’t want her to cause then are relationship is over. She said the only reason she would stay if we got married but we both know we are not ready for that and it be selfish of me to do that to make her stay. I can’t go with her because if my ties in the states. Should I let her go or make her stay someway I just would feel selfish if she pass up this opportunity and her dream job? She leaves Monday

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+1 y

Well today is mine and my girlfriend last day before she leaves for Paris and maybe never coming back. I know we will probably f**k each other brains out going on hours and hours having multiple orgasms and cumming, best sex ever together as a goodbye but what else should we do for are last day to remember one another.

[Ozanne]

This isn't up to you, unfortunately. It's her life. Your statement "should I let her go or make her stay" sounds like you are giving yourself some control over her. If she truly wanted to stay and be with you, she'd choose you, but she's not. Therefore, you have no choice but to let her go. You can't "make someone stay".

[kellytheman]

I agree with I know it’s up to her and I not trying to control her and I feel if I do tell or make her stay it’s selfish of me and controlling and I want her to be happy and if let her go to make her happy I am ok with it.

[Simslover92]

Let her go. You could try ldr but if you feel that won't work then just let her go as hard as I know that is going to be. Don't hold her back from her dream job. She may grow to resent you for it.

[kellytheman]

Yeah I don’t won’t to hold her back and make her resent and regret no taking the job she has worked so hard for. Me and her agree the long distance never works even with cam/zoom

[catarecute]

why dont you watch emily in paris on netflix

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I am sorry about that.

Long Distance Relationship is extremely difficult and very painful, I hope you both realize, that it might be over.

Most LDRs fail.

[kellytheman]

Yeah we both know it won’t work that long distance. Maybe if we live a hour or two away maybe but when it’s 2 days away it wouldn’t work.

[OlderAndWiser]

You have a relationship in which you have the power to MAKE her stay, even if she wants to go? IF you do, how do you think she feels about you thereafter?

[OfMiceandMen]

I don't see any choice really but to let her go... it's her dream job!

If you truly miss or you both feel as though you can't live without one another, then go to Paris. It would be an awesome adventure.

I am sure she has ties in states, but, it's not stopping her...

[sheikalana]

Well, you don't own her and she's the one who has to decide what's best for her. If she's doing it temporarily and if you really love her you both can make this work, internet makes things easy and you could travel to see her whenever you have some free time but if she's planning to stay abroad permanently and you're not willing to move then is best if you part ways.

[DizzyDesii]

Yep prepare for ldr and visit one another or fully let go

[kellytheman]

Yeah we both know long distance never works even with technology where we can cam and we can’t to keep jumping over the ocean to see each other but thanks for your advice.

[Smashingdoozy]

I mean it's not really up to you. Its her choice and you should respect whatever decision she makes. If you can't go with her then don't hold her back from her dream job because you know she will resent you for it in the future.

[provokeesmokee]

Let her go.

If you really miss her, then move to join her.

But letting her go is the only good decision. If you don't let her, she'll leave you on her own accord and any chance you have is gone.

[DarkWinterNights]

Let her go. She has to make the choice to stay with you. If you guys aren’t ready to settle down she’ll probably pick the job over you. It’s just the way it is. As tough as it is, you gotta just accept it wasn’t meant to be.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Sometimes (many times) life takes us down incompatible paths. Let her go and hold on to the wonderful memories. You two can still be friends.

[4ngelic]

can't you have a long distance relationship and have one of you travel from time to time to each other's countries?

[RobT312]

Find a way to go with her, even if it’s temporary. I’d try and do that

[Nikki1989]

You don't own her, so of course you have to let her go.

[exitseven]

Let her go. She might come back. If you somehow prevent her from going she will resent you for it. This is a no win scenario.

[catarecute]

if you dont love her let her go if you love her propose to her and move to paris.

[LiamJHayden]

Let her go. If you somehow force her to stay, she will end up resenting you.

[boggboss]

Making her stay would be objectify shitty

[Anonymous]

i'd say bye to her

[LunarEclipse433]

Really it’s not your choice but hers

[Anonymous]

Let her go bro.