Why would you miss a person that broke your heart?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Because before they broke your heart you probably shared a lot of good times together and you tend to miss those good times because it’s no longer there. But understand an ex is an ex for a reason , Exempt them from your life and move on , if your ex truly valued you and loved you, then they wouldn’t have broken your heart to begin with or be your ex. Never go back to an ex if they broke your heart before and you both broke up with each other , they will eventually do it to you again if you fall for their shit again , so don’t kid yourself and think otherwise. Realize you deserve better than that and realize you deserve someone that wouldn’t break your heart at all , that will stand by you like you stand by them. I tried taking an ex back when I was younger and after her and I got back together , I realized things were not the same so I dumped her , from there on out I never took an ex back period

dynamicyandere · Accepted Answer

You have some good memories and moments mixed in with the bad.

In your mind, you can’t completely separate all the good portions.

They are memories and experiences tied to a particular person.

This person made you feel good and special at some point in time.

It leaves your heart torn, where you simultaneously want nothing to do with them, but at the same time you can’t help but cherish some of the good memories you had, no matter how little.

The heart and mind are complex.

It’s why you can love something that’s bad for you and hate something that’s good for you.

Both negative and positive associations can be linked to the same person, place, or thing.

ta-ra · Accepted Answer

Trauma bond.

You set goals and a future with this person in your mind and are devastated not to see it grow into fruition. You reminisce on the good/sweet things to justify why you miss them so you don't feel played or dumb. We've all been there. Time will be your only friend with this situation. I'm sorry you're going through it. It is an awful feeling.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

You loved them at some point, they made you the happiest in the world at some point, probably that’s why.  But I think I finally moved on, after a year.

coachTanthony · Answer

You don't miss the person you miss the future you created with that person in your mind.

AviatorTom · Answer

Before they broke your heart, there were good times... worth remembering. And you miss that.

ManOnFire · Answer

Because it's a psychological or even emotional response to loss. I'm not saying it's the right thing, I'm just saying that is probably the reason. And probably not so much that we miss the person so much as we miss the memories and all the good feelings we had when we were with them. I think almost every human will go through missing a person who broke their heart at one point or another in their life.

For me? I got passed that a long time ago. I stayed stuck in the place your question outlines, but over time I moved on so much that looking back I cannot even imagine ever wanting that person now, ever wanting to go back or reconnect in any way, shape, or form.

Excellent question.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Sometimes the person's potential will leave you missing the idea of someone more than who they actually were. Sometimes you just wonder what happened, even more than actually missing the person.

I once had a budding relationship with a woman fall through (just after she told me she wanted things to get serious between us) where she revealed to me that for whatever reason, she had been lying to me about a lot of stuff she told me leading up to our date.

Even though we had gotten on amazingly well during the date and even though she said she wanted a future with me, it seemed that she decided connecting with me wasn't worth the effort of fixing whatever lies she told me.

Sweetsurprize · Answer

Because you don't have brain damage.

No one is replaceable even if people like to say they are.

Everyone/anyone can make a difference in your life one way or another.

People are all about HATE and NEGATIVITY these days sadly. I don't know why.

thegreenyogi · Answer

Because for what it's worth you loved him and even if you were well aware of the red flags before he broke your heart the good moments is what you miss. That said the missing won't last long because you'll move on and start to see that he broke your heart for a reason and always a good reason that being that the break up freed you and led you to another person that makes you happier.

BadApple69 · Answer

Your question is the answer.
If they broke your heart that means you gave them your heart in the first place.
I easily give my heart to a girl… so needless to say I have had my heart broken several times.
It actually does heal although it might not seem that way now. Time is all you need.

bowenw · Answer

You are attached to them and have many fond memories. You miss talking to them and doing things with them.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Because you remember the good times. As a defense measure your body tries to block out the bad stuff in your life.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I would guess that there were some great times with that person.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Because I would have realized the part i played in the mishap as well

BLP11520 · Answer

Well that’s a good question. I miss people who hurt me and don’t understand why at all

sheikalana · Answer

Because of the memories you share together.

Anonymous · Answer

most probably because of - 1. good moments or memories 2. or being emotionally attached to them

Ava1993 · Answer

So when my life turns around they could kiss my a$$.

Luopio27 · Answer

Feelings are not choices we make!

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Nope

Elinnnor · Answer

Because You re used to it.

jimmy2 · Answer

Hell no

Fenerbahçem · Answer

No it finshed for me

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