Would you stay if your partner told you you were a five?

[Brittanykeen88]

I think I'm fairly attractive. Definitely more then a five and men and women have said this. I was watching a movie with my boyfriend. They guys were talking about rating women. I told my boyfriend he was a 8 which I genuinely believe. He told me I was a five. I was applued and offended. I couldn't even finish the movie with him.

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I honestly don't think I can stay with him. He never compliments me now I know why. Most think I'm pretty hot. I know is not the only thing about a relationship but being attractive to my partner is important.

[Kaneki05]

If she called me a 5 I wouldn't be offended. I don't think I am that attractive anyway and would rather her be honest about it. And the fact she is with me yet not thinking I am high on the scale speaks a lot to how she must like me for me.
If you ask me, I love that.

I feel like people who would be bothered by this are pretty arrogant people who think they are a 10/10 just cause.

[Brittanykeen88]

I don't think I'm a 10 I don't think perfect really exist. For the sake of the situation it wasn't the best thing for him to say to me regardless. Even he didn't wan to hurt my feelings he could have just lied or told me I was beautiful and not rate me.

[Kaneki05]

Interesting so you like your partner to lie. Or like him to think your dumb enough to not see what dodging the question means, if he had just said that you should be smart enough to realise he just dodged the question.
Welp just tell him that I guess, you prefer him lying to not hurt your feelings and dodging questions if it means saving you from the truth. Just don't blame him if he hides more truths to not hurt you shrugs.

[Brittanykeen88]

Ok bro. Just saying why date someone you don't find attractive. I shouldn't date someone that doesn't compliment me or tell me I'm beautiful just that I'm a five. I'm sure someone else thinks differently

[Kaneki05]

No what your saying is you want to be with someone who lies to you. Literally your own words.

[Kaneki05]

"he could have just lied"

[Brittanykeen88]

I was just saying he could have lied. But your right now I know the truth and can find someone who find me attractive

[Kaneki05]

Point being if he lied you would of been okay with it lol. Well hope it works out for you, but don't be shocked when the next guy you get with is saying your a perfect 10/10 to only find out later he is cheating, because he was lying and once someone else who was more attractive showed him some attention he thought yeah I can do better.

Been with someone concerned about looks is the easiest way to be with someone who also cheats in my opinion but do as ya wish.

[Brittanykeen88]

Now if a guy cheats on me it's my fault. Lol the men on here on so on point today. Congratulations. I'm sure your mother is really proud.

[Kaneki05]

Way to dodge my point, and make it seem like what I said meant nothing when it's actually a good point that one should think about. Perhaps I now understand why if he had just dodge the question he would of got away with it.

[Brittanykeen88]

Bravo 👏👏👌👌

[RealMarek]

Sounds as if he’s “negging” or trying to play some sort of mind game. I think you should address it with him and see if he’ll cut the BS and discuss whatever issues are really bothering him. If he’s going to be a jerk, I would consider breaking up.

[jennifer_bloom]

I would never date a guy that likes me less than I like myself. I expect my guy to see good qualities and value in me and also values me as a partner and is good to me. I mean some people like me more than I like myself and some people like me less than I like myself, but of his opinion of me is low, then he has no chance with me.

[Apple1996]

If a man doesn't think I'm a 10 then he isn't worth being with

[Tim2nice]

Now that’s the attitude I wanna see from a woman.

[Pohjolan]

10:s are really rare you know so the vast majority of women would remain single by that mentality.
So far I've met two women whom I would consider a 10.

[Apple1996]

@Pohjolan some men tend to underrate women. Your probably just one of them lol
There are 10s everywhere just gotta open your eyes 👀

[Apple1996]

@Tim2nice all women should have this attitude

[Pohjolan]

@Apple1996
10/10 is the same as perfection, a lack of flaws in a aesthetic sense. So no they are very rare already in countries that don't have a fat epidemic.
Its less than the top 1%.

[Apple1996]

@Pohjolan fat women can be beautiful to tho

[Apple1996]

@Pohjolan your idea of perfection is too high then

[Pohjolan]

"fat women can be beautiful to tho"

Give me a example. Lizzo doesn't count.

"your idea of perfection is too high then"

Take a look at the definition of perfection in a dictionary.

[Apple1996]

@Pohjolan I don't believe any stars are beautiful or 10s so hard to give a example.
Stop letting media and beauty standards control your brain. You shoukd decided for yourself what you think beautiful is

[Pohjolan]

" I don't believe any stars are beautiful"
Look who's now has high standards.
It could be any public figure and I did not ask you to find a fat 10.

[Apple1996]

@Pohjolan public figures aren't people to look at for beauty. I'd rather look at everyday people for that

[Pohjolan]

@Apple1996
So of all the stars, pornstars, influencers, stock images, Onlyfansers, etc; you are unable to find just one example of a woman who is both fat and beautiful?
You have search engines available you know.

[Apple1996]

@Pohjolan I don't even find skinny stars beautiful

[Pohjolan]

@Apple1996
There are all kinds of stars in all kinds of roles and again doesn't have to be a star.

[Anemone978]

LOL never ask anyone to rate you if you don't want to hear the truth..
I haven't changed much since we got together except that I'm older.. but my husband said I am a 7/10, which is interesting but many other guys have rated me the same.. So clearly I ain't all that..
Though I found it to be kind of a betrayal because in the beginning my husband used to always call me gorgeous, beautiful, the most beautiful girl in the world, but now I am just a 7? Which I should of knew he was lying since his celebrity crush was Kate Beckinsale who is much prettier than me.. lol
Just know guys are stupid liars and if not, then they are just pure assholes so don't ever put your self worth on them because they will always diminish your light..

Now would I want to stay with him if he said I was 5? I don't know it would definitely make me feel bad about myself.. but no I probably wouldn't, because if he feels that lowly about your looks isn't he just with you cuz he can't get what he thinks is better? Or feels he can't.. It would make me doubt him and his love for me.

[bros26]

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[Lliam]

He was a total dick for saying that. If he doesn't defend you as his ideal woman, you shouldn't waste more time with him.
Leave that ass hole.

[Tim2nice]

He’s an asshole. Dump him and find someone who appreciates you. I wouldn’t be with a woman if I didn’t think she was a 10.

[Anonymous]

I think I'd need more context. I mean if I'm a 5 then why is she with me? I guess it would depend what precipitated it. Did I think she was joking? Was she mad at me? I probably wouldn't forget it. And if I met a woman who thought more highly of me that I decided to dump her. I'd probably say "well now you can find someone better than a 5".

[jahaims]

You get your self esteem from your aesthetics. He can be attracted to you for more than just your looks. If anything that is a compliment. You are just insecure due to immaturity. Looks are subjective get over yourself.

[Brittanykeen88]

I'm sure the ladies just swoon over your antics lol 😂☠️ some tells you you're ugly just accept it as a compliment got it. You're so wise master Yoda. I will get over myself master Yoda.

[jahaims]

A 5 is average, not ugly. You are lucky he puts up with a 5 with your personality.

[Brittanykeen88]

Thank you oh great Yoda.

[jahaims]

No problem

[Pohjolan]

*shrugs*

The gals interested in me seem to be the ones seeking a tender defender and looks don't give you any tactical advantage whatsoever.

Most think you are pretty hot? Who is most?

[Brittanykeen88]

I don't fully understand the first part of your statement. Tactical advantage isn't what I'm concerned about. Most women want to feel beautiful to their partners and he basically told me I wasn't. Other men compliment me and sometimes women.

[Pohjolan]

The first part was to answer the question in the title.

[rachel776]

he knows i'm not a 5

[Brittanykeen88]

If that's you in the profile picture you're a ten 🤩

[TallAnon]

No and I also wouldn't stay with someone I thought is a 5

[bradley142]

i mean i think if you are married your partner should know your a ten and want you at all times and im sorry he only thinks your a 5 i can't say cause i can't see you would love to though id be hones to you dm me?

[exitseven]

I am a five so it would not bother me too much.

[AngryCarl2]

If she was a five I'd have to accept it. Why else would she be with me?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

LOL. yes. I literally don't give a flip about such.

[Brittanykeen88]

Ok but would you tell your girl she was five?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

If she was then yes.

[Brittanykeen88]

Cold. Would compliment her though tell her she's beautiful

[Sunnybeach123]

No, that sucks. I'm sorry. What an asshole.

[Twalli]

Probably, because I don't rate myself much higher and then only when wearing a baseball cap

[Anonymous]

Totally get where you coming from

[OddBeMe]

Sounds like they’re manipulating you.

[RavVid]

I can understand your offence.

[aceleon]

nope

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t no

[Pete671]

Out of 5 I'd be very happy!,

[Yannae]

That means I passed!