How can I earn his trust back after a misunderstanding?

[Anonymous]

He said he misses me and wants to move on from what happened but he said he can't trust me and can't put a time frame on it. How can I reassure him and earn his trust back?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, earning trust back after messing up takes time and effort. Here's some things that could help:

- Be completely honest - no more half truths or keeping things from him. Open communication is key.

- Show him through your actions you care about rebuilding what you had. Little things like calling just to chat, planning dates, etc.

- Give him space if he needs it but also reassure him you're there when he's ready. Show patience.

- Suggest couples counseling so you have a neutral third party to work through issues. They can help you both understand each other better.

- Keep your socials transparent. Offer to give him access if it would make him feel more secure.

- Talk about what happened openly but don't just apologize - take accountability for your mistakes and how you'll do better next time.

- Be consistent - following through day after day to show you're serious. Trust takes a while to regain completely.

- Remind him of why he fell for you in the first place when things were good. Rekindle old feelings over time.

Trust and relationships aren't built overnight. Keep putting in work and he'll come around - just don't force it and give him his space when he needs. You got this!

[caring__1]

It's easy to legitimize a conflict by calling it a misunderstanding. What we actually have is a failure to communicate. Both of you probably insisted your perspective was right and the other person was wrong. No one likes to be on the receiving end of criticism. Rather than be insistent, show an interest in seeing things through the eyes of the other.

If you want him to trust you, show him what you've learned from this experience and what you plan on doing differently in the future. Make sure you prioritize the change and don't keep repeating the dysfunctional pattern. Accepting responsibility for our role in a situation, and showing a consistent effort to improve is what leads to trust. Otherwise, you're just like Lucy and Charlie Brown with the football.

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[Sasha0426]

Depending on how bad, trust isn’t easy to earn back. I know once my trust for someone is gone that’s it. They’ll never get it back.

[Anonymous]

I thin in this situation, you need to move on from him and try to learn as much as you can about why he lost his trust in you.