Long story short. We met on a dating app several months a go, we instantly clicked, we get along perfectly fine.. The problem is that he has to eventually leave the country since this is not his permanent stay. We're both 30 and we made it clear that this can't be anything serious since he has to leave but he still doesn't know when... At the beginning things where rocky, and he was even mean to me at times, nothing crazy, he just provoked me a lot. at some point I even kicked him out of my house when he came to visit, lol but we cleared the air. BUT TELL ME WHY does he constantly want to see me now after work, he was happy months ago that he has to leave and couldn't wait, and NOW he seems weird about leaving. He treats me amazing, I cook for him he cooks for me he always brings me something never comes empty handed... so from seeing each other once a week now HE COMES to my house every single day, or I go to his sometimes, we speak non stop, text non stop, Call, and all that.. so basically we're almost like a couple but we are not. TRUST ME I DO NOT MIND but he told me at the beginnign that he doesn't want to give me false hopes. Now if we don't see each other for one day he even says " I missed you" and all that (sorry for the details but I just want you to understand lol) WHAT DOES HE WANT THOUGH? I do have feelings for him but I already processed them because I know this is just temporary, and yes it does hurt a little but I am prepared. And I am just simply enjoying my time with him while he is here. The more time passes the more attached he becomes, sexually things became way more intense, he LOVES IT so he says , he keeps staring at me, looses himself into my eyes all that , we stay cuddled up for hours and he doesn't leave my side. I'm also very into physical touch, He won't tell me what is going on and I don't really want to ask him because he is very stubborn when it comes to talking about feelings so i WON'T EVEN waste my time. What is going on?
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It sounds like he might be struggling with his own emotions about leaving, and the increasing intensity of your interactions may be a way for him to cope with that impending separation. People often find comfort and connection in moments of uncertainty. While he initially stated he didn't want to give false hopes, emotions can evolve, and he may be navigating this situation differently now.
If you're comfortable with the current dynamic and enjoying your time together, you can continue to do so. However, it's essential to maintain open communication about your expectations and feelings to avoid misunderstandings. If you ever feel the need to discuss the situation, consider expressing your thoughts in a calm and honest manner.
Thank you so much for your nice comment !!! Yes I was thinking about it but I think I just need to give it more time, I just wanted to know if he is genuenly interested in me or just trying to pass some time... but he could do so much stuff with his free time since he is also a youtuber... but he always decides to put that second and stay with me after work and on weekends... I care a lot for this guy and I don't want him hurt by any circumstance... I wish thinks where differently
It sounds like he values the time spent with you and chooses to prioritize your company over other activities. It's a positive sign that he invests his time and attention in your relationship. While the future might be uncertain due to his eventual departure, cherishing the present moments and enjoying the connection you share can still be meaningful. If you ever feel the need to understand his perspective better, consider having a casual conversation about your relationship dynamics. Open communication can provide clarity and strengthen your connection.
I will keep this in mind, thank you so much you're amazing !!! And i'm happy that he is actually investing time and attention in us... it makes me feel special
Thank you
I think you guys made it pretty difficult for eachother when he is about to leave. It's going to hurt that's for sure
even he may not know what he wants. what do YOU want?
If everything was simple and didn't have to leave, I'd give us a chance, and I would actually work on developing more... but the circumstances are just difficult
So yes I do know what I want but this has to remain between us so shshsh lol
it sounds like a hard situation. I don't know but if it can’t work out perhaps you can have nice memories and learn something still from the experience