How do you avoid committing adultery especially over a period of long time?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

[GOLDFISH_smile]

Take care of ur relationship.

Unless something is going wrong, u shouldn't be tempted without also feeling a strong urge NOT to give into it. The same way you would very much NOT want to hit your partner, even if ur angry at them and feel the urge to let that anger out somehow physically. Bc that would hurt them. & u care about them more than you feel angry.

If ur seriously tempted to do something destructive like violence or adultery, that's a huge sign to step back and figure out what's going wrong. Bc somethings going wrong & u need to address it & figure out a solution.

[wolfcat87]

Hobbies, lots and lots of hobbies. This is one area where the saying, "idle hands are the devil's playground" really applies. Making a list of rules for yourself to follow to avoid being in any situation where you'd be tempted. Like a recovering addict avoiding bars or parties. Making sure you marry someone you're afraid of losing or hurting, because you just might lose them and even if you don't you'll have to see the pain int heir eyes at some point. Your whole relationship becomes a lie from the moment you cheat. It's better to break up than do that.

[virtue2332]

But a t least talk to her before you end it for all you know she might be into it although she is not messing with any girl you pick it has to be her choice trust me she will find something wrong with anyone you suggest

[wolfcat87]

@virtue2332 True, she may be willing to compromise if it's done safely and respectfully.

[Jersey2]

I think you have to come to grips with the impact it will have on the relationship BEFORE you do it as opposed to so many people who only think about that afterward. Even if you are successful at not getting caught, it will eat at you. Just watching a movie or TV show next to them and adultery comes on as part of the storyline, that will remind you especially when the actors lines say it was a lousy thing to do and even you spouse says something about it.

[virtue2332]

Easy my brother don't get naked with anyone that's not your spouse. Don't put yourself in situations that have a higher probability that you fail. Temptation is nothing to play with or feed and ego with or just check in on. That shit will bite you fast.

[Anemone978]

Don't chat to people of the opposite sex privately.. if you are bored of your partner try to spice it up.. don't be boring or predictable all the time.. Try new stuff..
At this point I think my husband hates me, so I'm probably not the best person to give advice tho..

[YesterdaysChild]

Not getting involved with another to begin with.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

If it was that easy don't you think most people will do it yet fall into it?

[ObscuredBeyond]

Ego self-check. If you start having feelings like "I deserve to have a little slide," you've already begun to slide too far. An immediate U-turn is pivotal, before you truly reach the point of no return.

[Altheavas]

It’s simple
Make a list why you shouldn’t, and a list of what’s important to you, categorize them by its worth it or not. Then you would know your priorities. If your relation can’t be save, then leave respectfully.

[virtue2332]

I don't know women can be aggressive and are use to getting what they want. You could be making a list and she is unzipping your pants. Hopefully you wouldn't need a list anyway. Its easy just don't be in a situation where it's possible. It's not worth it at all if you have to make a list your too far inn. What would your spouse think if she found that list. Oh you wrote this stuff to remind you why you shouldn't cheat. So you thought about it as she proceeds to smack you with your list. Altheavas you would smack your man with his list. Trying to get one of my guys hurt over here. Women how many of you would be happy if you found this list. It goes like this damn that booty is thick and she said discreet but no I love my wife she is good to me. She takes care of my needs twice a week. This girl has me curious about all those things that she said she wanted to do with me. But my marriage has been great and my wife is perfect she still pays the same ant of attention to me like when we first met even though she has a career and a full schedule with our kids.

[Altheavas]

Lol @virtue2332.
You’re trolling, I see what’s important to you, thick booty, sex, net worth, full time mothering, career etc. 😃
I would be upset if a list of reassurance about my relationship/marriage is just that, at that point we would be just roommate. Goodness How thoughtful of him..!

If there’s communication in a relationship, even the thought of thinking of someone romantically than the person you’re committed with, that should be communicated. It shouldn’t be a secret, search and talk for the reasons why, and work on it with your spouse. Hope both are mature enough to overcome this. If there is secret between spouses about this subject, that alone is creating loopholes for disaster.
It’s not all about the materiality one can do and bring in the house, what about what they build together, what they invested in together, the family they build together their time, their selves. If there’s children in the family the decisions affect everybody all these are to take in consideration.

Unless there’s abuse, and unless it’s really best to separate and save everyone from emotional trauma.

I think it’s good to check with a spouse here and there and remind them why they’re important in one’s life, and what could one do to better their marriage and relationship. A list is a great way to start. It’s not necessarily too far in, unless one’s thinking skills stop there with that little challenge.

We’re all human we’re not perfect. Just because someone is committed to another doesn’t mean, they stop being human, and the other sex ceased from being attractive. The eyes are still there, the senses are still there, we still loves other people, it’s not like we started hating everybody else.
It all comes down to the decision ones take, their level of maturity, and values.

[virtue2332]

Ah that sounds like a great life thick booty with dead daddy money. I mean I'm a good guy i would treat her like a queen. Jk You're right I'm trolling but with bits of reality mixed of my worst nightmare. I have 3 daughters no boys. 27, 14, and 10 so I take everything back except I'm fully telling my girls if they ever find some crazy list to call me and ill help her get rid of the evidence. After she beats him with that list.

[virtue2332]

I've also been married for 20 years and have yet to cheat because I'm better than that and I hold myself to a higher standard.

[virtue2332]

Plus It would not be wise to have 3 daughters a wife Mother-in-law and Mom all pissed at me 6 Latin Women one would poison me for sure.

[Altheavas]

Yup for sure, don’t play with us with Latin Americas ladies. Yeah wouldn’t survive that.
That’s what’s up girl dad, help them get wide of bodies. Lol

[LazerBean]

I would think picking the right partner, treating them right, and avoiding situations that may tempt you would take care of that.

[Joshydavid25]

It's pretty easy, just don't put yourself in that position and those situations.. Limit time away from any member of the opposite sex that you might feel yourself finding attractive.. Think about who you're hurting, and who you love..

[Exterminatore]

For me it’s easy. I don’t think my conscience could handle both betraying my wife and offending my God on that level. I think the guilt would literally drive me insane. I’d probably never be able to forgive myself, so avoid it is easy for me.

[exitseven]

Every day I tell myself that I will not committ adultery today. Then I do it all over again the next day. Rinse and repeat.

[Iron_Man]

The word of God the fear of committing adultery I would not want that on my head. There’s so many single women out there. You don’t have to pick a married woman. Also the husband can actually shoot you from being outraged

[RealMarek]

It’s as easy as keeping one’s britches on when they should be on.

[HaleyCatgirl]

You know I was going to say I thought this meant like not having sex going to say grab a knife and chop it off but no I see what you mean now I am in no position to make a opinion educated enough on this cuz nor am I married or Christian

[NathanDavis]

avoid?

zero struggle... me being faithful is not conditional

I just am

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

You sound too arrogant.

[NathanDavis]

maybe you're just feeling less...

I mean, if you were to struggle to be loyal... you certainly would have the weakest of the characters

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Yeah yeah. Your character is impeccable. 👌

[NathanDavis]

not really, no... I know my shortcomings

but being weak of faith is not one of them

which is surprising coming from someone as religiously up-tight as you are...

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

God forbid I will do such especially touch another man's life sexually.

But you definitely come off as someone very arrogant as if it's impossible for you to fall into sexual misconduct.

[NathanDavis]

it literally is... implausible

tons of people in this world are just faithful, it is not a big deal either... it's just normal

just not for you... you're just on the side that is prone to cheat, which is also normal as well, common, that is

[Fireguy17]

piece of cake.
Simply do not do it.
Very simple.

[Anonymous]

It is up to your spouse or S/O to keep you faithful. It is when you are neglected in different ways that will make you stray.

[Alwayreckles93]

Go ask a catholic. You dont see this behavior is christians.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Easy. Fly a Swastika and all the women will avoid you anyway.

[SotiCoto]

By not fucking someone you're not married to, obviously.

[Worst]

That would require you to have a wife (that's never happening lol)

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

If I truly feel like I can be married by the end of December.

You are projecting something unto me that will never happen for you. 😂

[Worst]

Didn't ask

[Anonymous]

I don’t know, if you find the answer tell us please

[Anonymous]

I had an affair with a married woman. Not proud of it but the experience was amazing.

[Anonymous]

Surely it can’t be that hard

[RedInnocent68]

Keep yourself busy, by fucking your partner.

[jahaims]

It doesn't even come to mind