What do you believe would guarantee your spouse from refraining from any form of cheating?

[Anonymous]

[DaySpring]

There is no 100% way. But the only way to do it is to go to the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind controls behavior 96% of the time. If you can control their conditioning you can control them to a large degree.

The guy that is afraid to go up to girls is being controlled by his subconscious.
When someone treats you mean and you get mad, that is your subconscious.
That is the golden rule too. By treating others how you want to be treated you are attempting to influence their subconscious mind to react in a harmonious way.

Sex is tough because it is in everyone conditioning by nature. If you can make a person horny and they are attracted to you... You can pretty much get them in bed just as sure as the sun will rise in the morning. You may not get them the first time but at some point you can based on the fact the subconscious controls 96% of the behavior.

There is a way to stop this but I'm not posting it some random site.

[dynamicyandere]

Here is the best thing you can do:


1. Become the most attractive version of yourself, ideally the most attractive person in the world to your spouse (this goes beyond just looks). Present yourself well, charm your spouse, and be the absolute best spouse you can be. Give them no reason for being disloyal to you. Keep the passion and attraction between you strong. And if that fire is going out, figure out how to fan that flame and restore it.


2. Marry someone who has a strong moral code, a virtuous person that would not cheat in the first place. Marry someone with a strong sense of ethics and who can practice self-control. Marry someone who values and practices intense loyalty.

[definitelyNotHer]

You can't guarantee that. I was friends with my ex for almost 7 years before we started dating- he was a great friend and arguably one of my best friends. Our relationship lasted a year and a half and I recently discovered he cheated on me with five girls in a span of a month. What I'm trying to say here is nothing guarntees it, I trusted my ex with everything and he still cheated. Communicate to your partner that this is something you're anxious about and lay down a clear set of boundaries with them so there is no room for confusion.

[Dadass]

I think you can not guarantee anyone behaviour. Including cheating.

Knowing them for a long time can help you to know if they have cheated in the past. If so, it is more likely they can cheat again.

But they may have changed.

[AviatorTom]

It would be hard to guarantee that.

How about a prenup with the stipulation that if she ever cheats, she forfeits her life?

[Yazu-chan]

Valid

[DaySpring]

Lol. That would probably work. A bit much though.

[Jamie05rhs]

@AviatorTom I'm going to have a prenup KIND OF like that, except NO DEATH INVOLVED!! 😱

She will definitely forfeit financial assets, though.

[AviatorTom]

@Jamie05rhs That might work... though many states don't legally recognize prenups and even when they do, sometimes other guidelines apply (like splitting 50-50 and assets gained during the marriage) .

[Jamie05rhs]

@AviatorTom Then I'd say it would be wise to avoid states that do not respect contract law.

[MrOracle]

Nothing is a 100% guarantee, but most people do almost zero vetting of their potential partner before they commit to them, and more specifically, they almost never vet them based on their morals and values. That's an insane thing to do, but it's the norm today.

Imagine you were hiring a lifeguard without ever asking if they can swim, or an airline hiring someone to be a pilot and never asking about his license or experience flying? But that's what people do with their partners all the time - and then they are shocked when things go wrong.

[Finchie40]

You can’t guarantee that , You just have to treat someone the same way you want to be treated , if they choose to cheat on you , then that’s their own selfish decision , not yours , If they want to live their lives knowing they are a piece of shit then so be it , there is always consequences to our actions , if someone can look you in the face and tell you they love you , knowing they cheated on you? They are the biggest piece of shit on this planet and they will never experience true love , cuz they are living a lie

[bamesjond0069]

Financial, sexual, emotional, social incentives.

If my girl cheats, she will be thrown out the house immediately with all her belongings and left poor and destitute. I'm wealthy and owe her nothing tbh. Be a long fall after being accustomed to my lifestyle.

Sexual, I am an excellent lover and so she will end up with someone worse for sure. (I'm an ex porn actor)

Emotional. I'm cold as fucking ice. I would just never talk to her again. So even if she's not as into me at some point, I'm harder than her surely and it will hurt her more.

Social. Our friends are really my friends. So she will be the one friendless.

She got to be one dumb fuck to cheat on me. Her problem if she does. Not mine.

[Yazu-chan]

Let’s get married. I’m loyal like a golden retriever papi.😍

[Anonymous]

Nothing. There are no guarantees and there’s nothing you can do to prevent it. People who cheat have narcissistic traits and lack empathy and care for others. They can often hide it well until it’s too late though so there’s nothing tmyou can do other than try to see through them, to see who they really are. If there are any sort of signs of narcissistic traits, selfishness, lack of empathy, general degeneracy/lack of morals etc. But there are no guarantees.

[melanieeeB]

Nothing guarantees you that, either your partner cheats or he/she don't.
There is nothing you can do

[magiusX26]

to truly ensure any persin other than self would not cheat would require a very unhealthy action/s. basically you each have the other on a short leash and collar and in same room, same media device, everything 24/7/365

[magiusX26]

like i said, very unhealthy. otherwise build faitfulness and trust and roll the dice of life

[slatyb]

There are no guarantees. The person you have had a happy partnership with for 20 years may leave tomorrow.

[Agape93]

Because i tell them upfront, exactly what will happen to them.

[Reorx]

Nothing. She's free to-do whatever she wants to but there are consequences as I'm the one that establishes the boundaries of what I'll tolerate & what I won't just like her.

[FilmGuy93]

Prioritizing their feelings seems to be a pretty good way to do it.

[exitseven]

I would find somebody that would not cheat before I got married

[Jamie05rhs]

If she is a Christian and she truly believes in the Bible.

[DaySpring]

Great answer. Although you cannot guarantee someone else's behavior, you can predict it 9/10 times if you know their conditioning.

[Jamie05rhs]

@DaySpring Thanks!

[clampfan101]

Meeting my biggest requirement, which is simply being a good Christian.

[Anonymous]

Being able to get a nickel out of a Coke bottle with your tongue, a 12 inch dick, and /or a million dollar bank account.

[Anonymous]

Chasity belt? No way to guarantee that, open communication I guess would help

[TacosRAwesome]

Finding someone that no one else wants.

[magiusX26]

even that has been proven false in history

[BarryLiverstone]

Never can be 100% as everyone makes mistakes.

[noohair]

Besides death, I can't think of a guarantee.

[In_Trance]

You don't give them reason to