I guess I'm feeling a little unappreciated in my relationship lately. It seems I do all the kind gestures and my boyfriend... well, does nothing.
I gave my boyfriend a Thanksgiving card and he seemed totally uninterested in it. He saw it, asked what it was, I said it was for him and he was just like "I don't know why you do this card stuff. I don't". Then he didn't even read it and just sat it down. Last card I gave him before this was for our anniversary. He kind of did the same, but he did read that one. He seemed to like it and just told me he didn't have a card or anything for me and I wouldn't have had to give him one either. I said I understood, expected nothing in return and simply did it because I love him. The Thanksgiving reaction kind of upset me a little honestly. I didn't expect one in return. I got a simple card and wrote a nice message inside to remind him of how important he is to me.
I understand some people just aren't into mushy stuff, aren't romantic, don't like cards/gifts, etc., but I don't know. This just felt weird to me. I've always done cards for special occasions (and sometimes just because ones) for my partners and no one has ever seemed "off" by it. Even if that particular partner didn't give me any cards in return, they always seemed to like that I did it. They've always read them and said thank you. For the anniversary one, he did. The Thanksgiving one was just like totally discarded.
I don't get why it'd be such a problem for me to give him a card for a special occasion or even just a random just because one sometimes. It isn't like I do it daily and I never get overly mushy ones. I just felt a bit unappreciated when he just laid it down without even reading it or saying thank you.
I've never really gotten much from him and I never expect it. He got me flowers when we first got together but that's been all he's ever done whereas I've done A LOT of things for him (cards as mentioned, gifts when appropriate, etc.)
How would YOU react?
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