Why do men get freaked out at a talk about commitment & leave, but then always come back again?

[Anonymous]

It’s happened more often than not so us definitely a pattern. What on earth is going on?

[AmeerX]

If a guy does something like that he is definitely doing it for himself. It allows guys like that to use the privilege of availability unfortunately. And some girls think, "Okay so he is back, now he won't go away and we can make him commit". Thing is these will not bring anything good out of such a relationship.

A person both man and woman should understand that settling for someone vs reciprocating the feelings and doing it right the first time is different. If he is serious a guy won't jump and ghost and then come back. This means he treated you as a second rate relationship only good enough for flings.

Today a guy is with you, tomorrow someone else, and week later back to you, well it just doesn't cut it. You seem like a grown woman, shouldn't you know how some guys can be morons thinking a woman is their property 😡. Don't be desperate for someone who treats you like that.

I can't believe you are like someone I am talking to just out of a heart break. I am frankly upset for her. True love on her part but he didn't commit. Here is summary of things that will happen to you.

1. Your self esteem will go down just to get this guy.

2. He will probably hurt you over and over and again and again with these games. This is what I have seen in people too. Girl waiting for a guy for 16 years and didn't marry, another did same with another guy. The list of such incidents is actually on the rise and I can't believe how they always wait for that someone only to be hurt.

Heck I will tell you a story I saw with my own eyes okay. So my father's friend, his daughter, this happened to her. So, I know where I live people are judgmental and I kept quite about it as I had no interaction with her and it wasn't my position to speak. So, this guy honey trapped her. He was a Brain specialist and her parents thought she is good enough to marry him. So, they engaged her to him. Later on I found out he used to beat her for money (can't believe it myself as doctors make lots of money here) and on the day of marriage he ran away😡. Thankfully, it was not a total loss since we found out he was a fraud who had love trapped a lot of women. He wasn't even that good looking.

And what of the hurt women? Time wasted and lots of cases like this.

I can't help everyone unfortunately but this one woman here on gag I really love deeply. I don't care if she has a first or a second or a longest but I know I will treat her right. I want to wipe away her tears and make her happiest. She knows how to treat a man like he deserves. I know it's a lot of effort but seeing how we both want to live and share dreams I am willing to risk everything for her.

[AmeerX]

PS: if you think about it, leaving and starting all over again takes a lot really. That's where most people fail. So, if you feel you have no one but him then you are wrong.

[boggboss]

Because they didn't want commitment and come back thinking u will have missed them enough not to rock the boat again

[AmeerX]

Exactly treating good woman like piece of toilet paper. Can't believe how men like that see themselves in the mirror

[boggboss]

Thats just it they don't care to the point they just see it as having fun and getting what they want

[AmeerX]

I think I am going to be sick of hearing this. It's that bad. How can people raise man like that?

[boggboss]

Just people that lack in respect and only care about getting what they want

[AmeerX]

I hope she doesn't fall for a trap like so many other people. She can still get married but I think she is really thinking of making a mistake like that

[AndrewAzul]

There's more risk associated for men in marriage, is what I'm assuming

[Asker]

I have to disagree. Women literally put their lives on hold, reducing their earning potential and career success for years and years to raise his kids. That’s worth something.

[Asker]

I mean if she never raised his kids yeah, it can be cruel if some women to take advantage of a man.

[ThrillSeeker01]

They're wishy-washy. I'd avoid those kind.

[jahaims]

Men don't. Some men do. They are still immature.