My boyfriend was recently caught cheating on social media with me, is it wrong of me to ask him to delete his socials?

[Anonymous]

[sage2021]

What makes you think the next guy you're with will cheat in social also? Cellphones are going to be around for a long time.
Guys are finding ways to hide what they're doing on social.
Mine was addicted to porn. Yeah, he would be in the shower 🚿 with his phone pleasuring himself while I was right on the other side of the wall in bed. But no, he liked it his way better.
He would do sexting, was on several dating sites. Lord knows what else he did with that cellphone. Apparently it turned him on more than being with me. Then he would come to our bed after his little fantasy phone life and want me to hug him. HUG him! Not sex, cause he already did it in the bathroom. So, when he wanted me to hug him with my body that actually has flesh on it and I'm not in a black box, I said NO! Go let your little plastic box hug you! That's something it can't do for you. Too bad, so sad!
They'll never stop. They'll just hide it from you.

[wolfcat87]

It's not wrong to ask, but as you say he is taking his time. That is a red flag. You are hoping he will change for you, and that is unlikely to end well. You two are incompatible. He is taking his time, and you are right in that meaning that he is reluctant and does not want to change. Forcing him to is not loving him. It's trying to force him to fit your ideal of what he should be.

[RoseySarah]

Yeah these two will break up he has her phone number saved as another name on his phone.

[wolfcat87]

@RoseySarah Really?

[RoseySarah]

Probably my loser brother loved bragging about the trick he used on his girlfriend

[Staximus]

Talking to other girls online is not cheating on you, but it's not good either. You can ask him to delete his social media accounts but you're not his mommy. That's useless and you're trying to control something you have no control over. If he wants to talk to other girls then maybe you should just stop trying to control him. Just tell him it's over already and stop trying to save a relationship that has already failed.

[Raaj4you]

How did he cheat online? Was he having a naughty chat or friendly chat with a girl online? If it was a friendly chat then it's not a big issue. If not, warn him that you'll end the relationship if he repeats it. I think if you are in a relationship then it's nothing wrong if you control each other and set some limits. Too much controlling and too much freedom is a bad thing in a relationship.

[Raaj4you]

Thanks for MHO ☺️

[Paris13]

Cheating? You Can Never Trust Him Again, Regardless. He Would Always Find a Way if He Wanted. xxoo

[Asker]

What if he doesn't want to cheat again?

[Paris13]

You will Never Be able to Be Sure for A Long Time until He Really Proves Himself. xx

[Asker]

I really think he wants to change for me. Im just scared all the time

[Paris13]

Go Slow But Be on Top of This Without Haprping. xxoo

[Paris13]

Oh, I am Having Problems in Logging in FB this afternoon, How about You? xxoo

[Asker]

Thank you. You were actually respectful instead of treating me poorly for a question and I appreciate it a lot

[Asker]

I log on through email instead so I'm not sure

[Paris13]

Okay. I Think I Did Read a Problem since After 2 Today. xxoo

[Paris13]

It's Now back on. lolxxoo

[Asker]

Lol 😂 I'm glad it's working again

[Paris13]

lol Me Too. xxoo

[Paris13]

Just Be No Man's Fool. xxoo

[Asker]

I know, I'm trying to be smart about my decisions. I just actually believe him when he says that he wants a life with me.

[DubiousIntentions]

If you get scared, then the relationship is not meant for you.

[Paris13]

He may Too Think He Can Have His Cake and Eat It Two but Be on Your Guard for Now... xxoo

[coachTanthony]

No. That isn't fair at all. I am sure he's sorry.

[genericname85]

yes it is. the right course of action would be to break up and leave him behind. like he already has shown to you that he can't be trusted. he's not a baby you can put in time out. you're looking for a dependable, reliable partner right? he isn't one. so why waste time with him?

[D_Bone_Steak]

My wife buys me baby socks so that my leftover coom doesn't mess up my underwear.

Buy him some baby socks.

[Miristheiss]

Yes.

You should just dump him and ghost him and never speak to him again.

Are you planning to keep him and try to play detective and cop to monitor what he does? You know you cannot trust him. Just move on.

[DubiousIntentions]

"Cheating with me" means you were the one he was cheating with. But since he was your boyfriend I'm not getting it.

[Asker]

I worded it wrong. He was caught by me

[DubiousIntentions]

OK, you can ask him to do it but he doesn't have to. What are you going to do if he doesn't? Trust was broken. Do you really want to stay with a guy you can't trust?

[crystalline0909]

Yes. It's wrong. You can control someone's life.
You should leave him. That's what you can do.

[blueonblack22]

So we need more details on how he cheated please.

Even though I am leaning towards you breaking up with him context does matter here. What exactly did he do?

[JacobJordan]

So if I understand your sentence your boyfriend was attempting to cheat on you with you? Meaning you subjected him to a loyalty test? I will post my thoughts once I am certain of the phrasing

[Asker]

No he was talking to other girls and I caught him

[JacobJordan]

Ah. Then just break up with him. Guy clearly has no respect for you.

[BoopBoopBeep]

As long as you delete yours too... and of course, you can ask, and he can say no, so don't ACTUALLY delete them until you come to an agreement.

[Asker]

I was just looking through my own and I have a significantly smaller amount then he does which I don't even look at. He agreed to taking them down but he's taking his sweet time doing it and it just makes me wonder if he wants to keep them or not.

It just makes me feel insignificant like I'm not enough for him since he has so many.

[Cl0core]

You should break up with him. Even if he deletes his socials, what’s preventing him from cheating again? You deserve someone who's loyal and respects you.

[spartan55]

Yeah, that'll stop him. So stupid... you are literally begging for him to cheat again by not dumping him.

[Lisia]

If he really wants to, he'll just do it again. And he'll start to hide it better.

[Radiate143]

Why don't you get a new boyfriend? He sounds like he sucks.

[Joshydavid25]

Nah, that's reasonable after what he's done.. Although he could find other ways to talk to girls..

[pianogirlmeow]

Why do you want to be with a man who cheated on you!!

[Anonymous]

If a man is on social media, you can guarantee he is at least flirting with women. Find someone who is more mature.

[Asker]

So I just dump him?

[NotInterestedSorry]

That is absolutely ridiculous. A lot of men have social and never once flirt. Jeepers what is with all you who assume crap

[wolfcat87]

All men with socials aren't flirting with other women.

[Danny_dan92]

Uhhh… cheating with or on you?




If it’s on…. i gotta ask. Why you still with him? Did his cock lobotomized you?

[Ironic_Method]

Sounds like he's just going to be slightly better at hiding it the next time.

[LiamJHayden]

Why stay with someone who has proven to be unfaithful?

[DreamLife7]

So your self esteem is do low that you'd try to stay with someone who clearly doesn't want you? Lol how much sense does that make

[Anonymous]

I say deleting him from your life is a much better idea.

[Nifrayu]

Sure you have a right to ask. Why do you you ask?

[Anonymous]

Don’t confront him, just leave, because he will always find ways to cheat whether you like it or not. A cheater will always be a cheater.

[jimmy2]

No it's time to get you down the road
One thing I know if a person chats she or he will doing it over and over
Therefore cut your losses

[HelpfulWoman]

wrong of you to stay.

[Asker]

It's wrong of me to want him to be devoted to me only?

[HelpfulWoman]

if he's "cheated", then he's already shown you he never will be.
So if you want "devotion", use a brain cell.

[Asker]

Very nice. Thanks

[lightbulb27]

no it's not unless how he makes his living.

[Asker]

No he doesn't need them for money.

[NotInterestedSorry]

Don't you think it is a bit controlling and quite wrong to expect your partner to delete their social media accounts, yet they themselves won't delete their own? She wants him to delete his account, yet when asked if she will delete her, she made excuses that she follows less people on there.

[Asker]

I actually did delete all of them so why are you being an assuming ass when I was just asking a simple question?

[MikeTheBartender]

Yes, instead save time and dump him.

[MikeTheBartender]

Relationship advice from the bar to die from, it is much much easier to start a new relationship than to fix a broken one.

[RavVid]

In what way did he cheat?

[Asker]

He was talking to girls even after they said that they were horny. And one sent a picture of herself that he commented on. He never showed himself though

[Alwayreckles93]

Don't stress yourself break it off.

[ThrillSeeker01]

No, totally understandable

[syncheart]

Sounds like he's discontent with you.

[Luckycharms12]

So you are having an affair

[Asker]

What?

[Luckycharms12]

You are having an affair

[Asker]

Um no? I'm in love with my boyfriend

[Luckycharms12]

He was cheating with you

[cherriibly]

you should break up with him immediately

[gorydetails]

he was cheating on someone with you?

[Anonymous]

Dump him!