How do you deal with stonewalling in a relationship?

[surgent]

[wolfcat87]

If I tried to communicate a few times and they just kept acting childishly for an extended period, then I would just move on and date the next person. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. They have until I find their replacement to fix things.

[experience]

Dealing with stonewalling in a relationship can be super tricky, but definitely something a lot of us have faced at some point. It's like trying to get through to someone who's put up an invisible wall, right? Super frustrating.

First things first, it's important to understand why it's happening. Sometimes people stonewall because they're overwhelmed or they don't know how to handle the situation. It's not always about being stubborn or mean. It could be their way of coping with stress or avoiding conflict. Here are a few tips:

Stay Calm: Easier said than done, I know. But getting angry or upset usually makes it worse. If you stay calm, it might encourage your partner to open up.

Pick the Right Time: Timing is key. If they’re stonewalling, it might not be the best time to have a deep conversation. Wait for a moment when you're both relaxed and not busy with other stuff.

Express Yourself Clearly: Use “I” statements, like “I feel hurt when you don’t talk to me about what’s bothering you.” It's less accusatory and more about expressing your feelings.

Listen Actively: If they start to open up, really listen. Don’t interrupt, and show that you’re genuinely interested in understanding their point of view.

Give Them Space: Sometimes, the best thing to do is give them a bit of space. It’s like, if you stop knocking on the wall, they might eventually take it down themselves.

Reflect on the Relationship: If stonewalling is a constant issue, it might be time to think about the relationship’s health. Are your communication needs being met?

Remember, every relationship is different, so what works for one might not work for another. With a bit of patience and effort, it's possible to break down that wall. 🧱💔

[ProbablyClueless]

In my experience, all you can do is back up. Hopefully you aren't in too deep so you can just walk away.

My life experiences have basically been that the instant a woman starts stonewalling or otherwise shutting down communication (particularly when you're asking for an extremely reasonable thing); GET OUT OF THERE.

The more reasonable your request, the bigger of a statement it is when she doesn't comply.

[razelove]

You can't make someone like/love you. Just leave them.

[Tapeworm]

By making incel shitposts online.

Random shit.

[robhazelnut]

I'll try only twice to try to talk with someone. After that, they can try to talk to me or we won't talk again.

[robhazelnut]

Grammar error detected, overusing the word "try".

[In_Trance]

Leave

[FenixG45]

Please define your usage

[PinkSmoke]

What is stonewalling?

[Radiate143]

I don't.

[Tearsdropp2]

What's that mean?