Happy relationship turning aggressive?

[Anonymous]

10 months ago I met a guy. He was the sweetest and most gentle man I’ve ever known. After 3 weeks he told me that he loved me. He asked me to be his girlfriend right after that. One day he just gave me a key to his apartment. We haven’t been together for more than a month at that point. So about four months passed and he tells me he’s moving across the country …he asked me to come with him because he didn’t wanna leave without me. I agree to go with him but few days before we are about to leave we find out I’m pregnant. We were not using any kind of contraception. Plenty of times I suggested a plan b and he immediately shut it down. As if I didn’t need it cause I’m not gonna get preggo.. He promised he will take care of our baby and everything will be ok. So we moved and now we live together. He’s still sweet and calm towards me. Very loving and supportive. But he slowly became more and more angry. Recently we had a situation where he did become aggressive. he was upset that I was texting my ex. He lost it. Grabbed my phone , held it hostage , threw it on the ground attempting to break it , demanding that I unlock it so he can see what I’ve been saying and who I’ve been talking to. He was VERY angry. He started to cry tears and asked me if I still love my ex l. I told him no and my ex was only checking up on me cause my ex is still in the state that we left. He kept accusing me of lying because he says when my ex called I instantly lit up with a smile. He thinks I’m flirting with him and that’s y I didn’t unlock the phone. This is all not true and I don't know what to do. He is usually not like this at all. He’s usually chill and not letting stuff like this get to him. It was like a light switch that went off. I don't know who he is anymore. He says he is scared that he just loves me too much and scared of losing me to someone else. He says the thought of me wanting another man drives him nuts. He thinks I need to take accountability what do I do?

[ZiaCowel2000]

Wouldn’t stay tbh. Most people don’t show how they truly are completely till 2 years into a relationship. He’s trying to trap you, and if it’s as you say and there’s nothing going on with you and your ex he shouldn’t act like that. Jealousy is normal thing but if he gets violent you should just leave him.

[Asker]

What do u mean by trying to trap me

[ZiaCowel2000]

Sorry miss read a few sentences.

[ZiaCowel2000]

If you wanted a baby that’s fine. But if it’s as you suggest, it feels like a trap so that a child will keep you with him etc. If he’s that violent and doesn’t care about damaging your phone that costs money and is one of the only ways to communicate to others that’s bad. It’s isolation.

[Asker]

That’s what I was thinking cause I’m an adult I knew the consequences of having unprotected sex but I was willing to deal with pregnancy and take responsibility for it. But I also didn’t mind using contraceptives either so I suggested it and he wasn’t even open to it not even a little bit so I found that odd but I just went with it

[KrakenAttackin]

Texting your ex. You just destroyed your current relationship with the father of your child. Good job, girl.

[Asker]

So it’s my fault?

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker... YES.

[spartan55]

You need to pack your stuff and move home. This guy is abusing verbally. It will continue to escalate.

[slatyb]

You end this immediately. First you were love-bombed, now he's revealing his irrational jealousy and insecurity.