Is it recommendable for teenagers to have long distance relationship? Opinions?

[Anonymous]

yes

no

sure?

[syncheart]

Long distance sucks! I met a girl on social anxiety support that I felt like I was falling in love with. She was from the UK, and me the USA. Finally she met someone locally to her, and got married. Next there is someone on youtube that I feel like I could fall in love with. It has been fun commenting back and forth with her. Again she lives in the UK area and moves around. No hope for me.

[exitseven]

No, you only get to be a teenager once. If you have a long distance relationship you will be miserable most of the time and will not have any fun. After you break up you can never get those years back.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[wolfcat87]

Yes, as long as they know not to send any inappropriate pics and verify who they are talking to. No teen pregnancies and STDs with long distance. I did it as a teen, and my daughter did as well. It can be a super safe way to date when no one local is suitable.

[RingOfFire]

Agree with this. Teenage romance is largely fantasy anyway since teens are too young to understand what real romantic love is. So by doing it long distance you avoid the possible downsides of having the physical part.

[RingOfFire]

I should mention that it isn't necessarily the "recommended" way that I think teens should "date," but it is acceptable. In this day and age of relationships being all online, it probably isn't healthy to only have online relationships. You need to be able to socialize in real life. But as long as it isn't your only source of socialization, seems to me that a little bit of online romance is acceptable for a teen.

[wolfcat87]

@RingOfFire Hmm, it's pretty interchangeable. Online socializing isn't really inferior to in person these days with video chatting.

[RingOfFire]

I don't know about that. It's well documented that younger generations these days have lost a lot of their social skills because they spend so much time on their phones and only interact with other people that way. I can notice it myself when I am with younger people especially teens and people in their early and mid 20s. Too much screen time and not enough real socialization in their youth has set them back socially. Studies show it leads to more depression and loneliness versus having real interpersonal relationships in real life. Humans just weren't designed to interact that way. A lot of the subtle interaction that you have with someone in person just isn't there.

[rosemilk]

i don't recommend long distance relationships to anyone of any age honestly

[antelope51]

If you're not prone to drama and realize that it will probably be more of a phone friendship than have potential as a real relationship.

Close-distance relationships are tough enough, and when those are solid, changing to long-distance can be a deal-breaker because you're changing the parameters.

If you start off long-distance, you both have autonomy and "freedom" and it's more of a pen-pal kind of thing. You may meet once in a while, make some bad choices, but your relationship is not built on being a daily physical presence with accountable actions, so it's really easy to fall in love with an "idea" and then have a hard truth hit you when you actually try to make it work as a "real" relationship.

So... it is certainly fun to have long-distance relationships... it is thrilling to meet them in person... and (speaking from experience) it could be something that burns hot and bright for a few years and then completely shatters you because so much of it is built on ideologies you both imagine to "fill in the blanks" of distance and not the reality of who the other person is.

My most stable and long-term relationships were always ones where we just spent time in each other's company on a daily basis and didn't even talk half the time. They just become a part of your family/world and not some "focal point" to obsess over.

[MysteriousDarkness]

In my experience and from talking to men and women most would prefer to date someone who is 30-45 minutes away. Most teenagers are going to date someone in the same school as them if they do date. Most teen relationships don't last outside of the teenage years. Now add long distance to it and ttheit is even less likely to las past the teenage years. Most likely would have to have someone drive them. Most parents would be against the long distance relationship let alone driving them to see the other person. I would guess at least 98% of their interactions would be by texting or video calls. To me that is not a relationship. To me teens should never be in a long distance relationship.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Just be careful if you use Social Media you can't trust people on the Internet just do background checks on anyone you talk to because they can do all kinds of things you could be a teenager and the person on the other end could be way older than you, yes people are not safe, and it's sad if you think.

[Blackbird4789]

Most of my teen years i was in a long distance relationship. My will be ex moved to my area for college after we had met a handful of times. There are many things I've learned over our relationship and things I've recently found out that had i known in the past, things normal dating would have weeded out, i would have never continued for as long as i had. So, no 100% against it in teen years.

[AaronKrieger]

Sure, you'll learn why it's not a good idea to do it 😂. In general its difficult to do and teenagers suck at relationships, so it's especially not recommended.

[BarryLiverstone]

Finding friends to talk to or play games with seems like the norm. But would suggest in any romantic relationships you meet irl and see what happens. Just interacting online isn’t the best way to build a romantic connection.

[sheikalana]

There's absolutely no need for a teenager to be in a relationship whether if it's LDR or not.

[lightbulb27]

Ones where parents know each other in person… yes we have that.


Some person met online mystery… no

[Alex-Snow]

I guess it could not hurt but as a teen guy (I'm 18) I would prefer a relationship IRL not a video chat girlfriend where we sext or video chat and watch each other do? things

[aceleon]

not just teenagers

long distance relationships are not relationships and this is final.

[wiltingrosepetal]

Definitely not 😭 I don't think can even handle the distance

[Nikki1989]

They are a pointless waste of time for anyone.

[laraWM]

I wouldn't recommend it but it can work for some time

[Jamie05rhs]

Only if it's someone you met in person first before you ever talked to them online. That way you can make sure they are actually the age that they claim to be.

[Anonymous]

Sure. I mean as long as the person on the other end isn’t a weirdo. It’s a good introduction to relationships without doing anything physical.

[Staximus]

Long distance relationships are stupid for anybody. Life is too short to wait around forever for somebody

[Crankor]

I don't think it's ever "recommended" it's not like you would be able to see them would you as a teen?

[TadBehaya]

I would never do it.