How do I fix my relationship after this?

[Anonymous]

So me and my boyfriend have been dating almost a year and up until now everything has been perfect. But the other night we got drunk together and I must have drank too much and blacked out, I found out the next day we had sex and he seemed upset that I had zero recollection of it. The day after I had a bad hangover and had to go to bed early , I found out the next day his mum had come home and been sick and he’d had to clean up after her while I was upstairs sleeping. I feel so guilty and he hasn’t been the same with me since. I’ve apologised and still he is different with me I have no idea how to fix things

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang, that's super messed up. I can see why you'd both be weirded out by what happened. A few things you could try:

- Have an honest talk when you're both sober. Explain you care about him and didn't mean to make him deal with stuff alone. Listen without getting defensive.

- Really apologize, not just words but doing something nice like making his favorite meal. Make him feel your remorse is real.

- Consider skipping drinking heavily together again until this blows over. Alcohol clearly led to crossed wires here.

- Reassure him you care about his feelings and would never intentionally ignore his needs. Maybe give him extra affection to show it.

- Suggest spending quality time together doing an activity you both enjoy, like sports or a favorite show. Laughter can help ease tensions.

- Be patient - he likely just needs time to see you're still the caring guy he knows. Stick by his side and he should come around.

I'm sure once the initial drama passes, things will feel normal again. You've got this - communication and patience are key to getting back on the same page. You'll get through it stronger!

[Anonymous]

The only way to maybe fix that is for the both of you to quit alcohol forever and stop conforming to the world that promotes it. Both of you turning to God, prayer, scripture and Jesus is the only way of fixing any of that. You would both need to forgive each other too. If not, there will be no way.

[strateguy632]

help him take care of mum. working together will re-attach you.