I'm sure you've heard someone say, "I love you" a million times, right? But if they're not backing it up with some real action, it can feel a bit hollow. Like, it's great to hear those three magic words, but if they're not picking up the phone when you're having a rough day or remembering that you hate olives on your pizza, does it really count?
I had a friend, Jenna, who dated this guy who was all talk. He'd send these mushy texts saying how much he cared, but when it came to actually spending time together or being supportive, he was like a ghost. Jenna realized that his words felt empty because his actions didn't match up. She ended up with someone who's not as poetic with words but shows up for her in every way that counts.
But hey, it's not all black and white. It's about finding that sweet spot where what someone says and what they do are in harmony. Like, if someone says they're committed and then actually make an effort to plan dates, meet your friends, and be part of your world, that's the golden zone.
I think it boils down to this: words are the soundtrack of a relationship, but actions are the movie. You need both for the full experience. A relationship with just actions and no words can feel confusing, and one with just words and no actions can feel like a letdown..
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but some words should be said and heard out and are needed in some situations more than actions...
Yes, in anything, not even in relationships. But in anything actions speak louder than words. Because if actions do not match words, or there is a lack of action, there's always doubt. And, there's one famous saying, "talk is cheap".
So, if you're going to speak something, then you might as well back it up in actions. Because if you don't, society calls that a bullshiter. And nobody should be a bullshiter. Even though that being a bullshit or nowadays is very popular for a lot of people.
But, yes. Indeed actions do speak louder than words especially when I've heard a lot of women mention that their boyfriend thinks they're beautiful or this or that. But never wants to show it. Or, says he loves me and doesn't want to show it. Which, that's not only guys that could be women too. So, it's not just men or women it's both of us at times for some people. But yes. If that is said it should be shown. Because on the receiving end of being shown is a lot better feeling than just hearing it. There should be a mix of the both. And then the actions to back up the words. This is also what builds Trust to a certain degree
Most of the time YES, but my SO often gets hung up on the "tone" she says I use when I'm speaking (using words), even when my actions (and words) are totally different from her perception based on my "tone".
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That applies to life period so that would be a yes
Usually.
But life's more complicated than that unfortunately.
You could say that you won the lotto but no winning ticket to prove it. In that case, then yes, it does.
You could say that you aren't racist but you do things that discriminate on other races or treat them unkindly or exclude them from certain things or verbally assault, or are mean to them!
You could say that you are 6ft tall and you really are 6ft tall.
When in a relationship, you could say that you're going to be there at 1, but arrive at 2 because of an accident on the freeway or roadway. Your cell phone ran out of battery so you weren't able to tell your significant other that you were going to be late and you don't carry a car charger with you. That's happend to me a few times in my life honestly.
So yeah, it really depends! Words can convey so many things from intentions, to actions describing something or someone, to outright lies, but yeah, actions, usually they do convey the truth and at times, they are HARDER to fib! But yeah, actions convey something but not always the whole picture!
Someone could be driving a Ferrari and pretend that they are rich, but if you look at their bank account, they're not and they only RENTED the Ferrarri for a special occasion or a few days! So yeah, things aren't always what they seem!
Not always. I genuinely believe it's the thought that counts a lot of the time and you can tell how much someone loves you or the weight of their words when they're being real with you. Not everyone is a person that can put their words into action easily. It's tough sometimes.
An example is most people in the world love their parents deeply and a lot of people's dreams are to make a ton of money and make sure their parents have a great rest of their life and are happy. So why don't they work their ass off every day to become that millionaire and make it happen? Why not show how much they love them through those actions sacrificing some joy now so they can make their parents and their own lives better?
Actions do matter because if we all just sat around and didn't show love in relationships through physical touch, quality time, and acts of service, then it's not much of a relationship. But there's a reason words of affirmation is also a love language. Words have power and people can mean it when they say things.I definitely think so. Words are meaningful, but what you do speaks volumes.
Someone can tell you they love you, but treat you like crap.
On the other hand, a person might not say, "I love you. " But it's written in everything that they do for you.
In short: Yes.
In long: yes as well, but this is with everything in the world. How much worth are words when they are just empty? Its just like politics, friendship, family and everything in life. How much worth is a "I'll be there for you" when the person ain't there? How much worth is a "I love you" when the action proves nothing? there are a lot of examples of this. Ofcourse communication is important as well. But in relationships, action is evenly important. Bodylanguage and the eyes can tell a million things words cannot.I think the actions speak louder then words thing is often true. But that doesn't mean the words aren't important. I think it depends on the circumstances. If someone broke your trust then actions do speak louder if they said they were sorry and wouldn't do it again. If they show you with actions that they love you that's good but the words are still needed sometimes.
I think both are equally important really but I think it's all about the circumstance in if one is more important in a set scenario.I always thought so. I always had trouble expressing my feelings. I dated somebody in college and I used to really do a lot of stuff for her. When she landed in the hospital I visited her a lot and after she got out I took care of her. I never really told her that I loved her. She started seeing some other guy and finally I went and told her how I felt and she told me that that is what she was waiting for.
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I would believe so. Saying something as opposed to doing something are very different. What most people never understand is that people can’t change who they are, however that also means they can try to do something about it or turn negativity into a positive lifestyle. Words in general usually don’t do much when it comes to this. This is sadly why I believe relationships are going in a downward spiral.
Personally, I don't like noise much.
So I count on the silent things. Which can be both - word, or action.
yes, stop killing passion and movement of things with mindless communication crap and instead take action.
ABSOLUTELY... Talk is CHEAP.
You ARE only who You TRULY are, when no one is watching~Yes- always. Talk is cheap. That's why people do it (& lie) so much.
Actions matter more than words period. Nevermind in a relationship
Yes, they do. "I love you" means nothing. Loving behavior means everything.
ABSOLUTELY!
Doesn't matter what a person says if there's nothing to back up the words.Absolutely, but you don’t have to be a mute either.
Of course? That's true in everything though. Someone's actions always tell you more than their words.
the actuonw i experienced were all just abused pretty much! so now they can just go fuck themselbes
FUCK YES!!! Anyone can say what the other wants to hear. But they must either stay silent and do what needs to be done or backup their words with such actions.
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