I have been in 2 long-term relationships in the past that were rather traumatic, and that as well as the experience of constantly being ghosted/first dates that go nowhere have convinced me to give up on finding someone or even trying. I just want to see what everyone thinks about is this the right way to go or not?
Whether it is wrong or not is up to you to decide based on your personal experience.
However, long distance relationships seldom work because of the lack of proximity. There are so many things that can (and will) go wrong when distance is the main issue. You lack the type of communication that people would have when long distance is not the problem.
Now, if you can only rely on long distance relationships, then I would agree with you that it is useless to try to pursue that kind of relationship. If you have the possibility to get together with someone local, then by all means, it is worth a try but I would rather go for the face-to-face meeting then those dating apps which are seldom working.
Your best chances would be to join a club or get a hobby where you can meet people that share the same interests. That would be the first step to take. Good luck.
Yes it is wrong, but also entirely up to you and not something people should judge you wrong.
Sounds contradictory doesn't it? Lets dive in!
So first of all I'm not judging either choice you make, its very personal and nobody should care about what path you wish to take except for yourself. The reason I think its wrong is because you do care. You want that experience where its actually nice for once, you want that dream girl and stable relationship. To finally obtain what you have wanted all along instead of the shit they gave you. And its out there, somewhere with someone.
So the reason I think its wrong is because you are going to deny yourself something you do want. I totally get taking a break, healing yourself, that sort of stuff. But don't give up because there is an incredible girl out there for you somewhere. You don't have to date around if you are fed up with it, but at least be open to the idea if fate decides its your turn to meet her.
u Bad experiences should convince you to examine what you are doing and make some changes so that you get different results.
Or you could quit, for the rest of your life think of yourself as a quitter, and die alone.
Doesn't sound like much of a choice to me.
Yes it is wrong! Pick your ass up and get out there and give it another try as long as it takes for one to last and give you the happiness that everyone deserves.
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I wouldn't say it is right or wrong, that is purely up to you to decide if that is a route you want to take. You are entitled to your feelings and your reasons are valid in the sense of protecting yourself, but also remember that one person will not be like the next person. So it wouldn't be fair to place standards like that on someone else due to past experience. I think you dont need to "give up" but take a different route, focus on yourself and you will eventually find someone along the way, but the key is that you need to make sure that you are allowing yourself to be seen. Love is just a numbers game nowadays so it's all just trial and error but make sure that you are learning from your previous experience unless it will all be for nothing. Love is not easy so of course it will be a little difficult but remember the best things in life are hard to get or else everyone would have it and it would be meaningless.
Take a break I think. It is ironic but wanting something can push it away. And wanting some one - any one - will see you in a bad relationship.
I'm guessing you are pining your hopes on this one or that one. When you are good by yourself I think it changes.
Recover and build up your strength first
No it's not wrong. The first time a guy is abusive with me, the relationship is over with. Period!
Self pity?
It would be wrong to attempt a ''revenge'' because your previous attempts had failed.
But if it pleases you to retract from dating, it's ok for me - because it means:
one competitor less :D
YOU ARE GHE PROBLEM. I suggest you stay single grt therapy to see why you allow guys to abuse you.
THIS IS NOT NORMAL! Stay single guys look at you like you are a dummy or something.
Love yourself already~
I guess it's a natural defense mechanism to abuse. Give yourself some time to heal and regroup your thoughts. Maybe after some time you'll be ready to give another chance to love someone.
Νo, it is not wrong. You are not affecting anyone negatively. It is your choice.
It is not wrong. If you burn your hand on a hot stove you will stop touching the stove after a few good burns.
Absolutely, don’t let anyone’s bad life choices and inconsistent perception of love define what you believe love to be. Work on your and find your happiness.
Giving up because of being ghosted if there is such a thing is rather childish.
You just need to learn how to handle women, I recommend watching Andrew Tate or Fresh and Fit.
Everyone gives up at some point.
I can understand you wanting to give up but hang in there
That really shouldn't be the reason.
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