There’s a lot to unpack but basically I was in a DV situation with my boyfriend, I got the cops involved due to the abuse so therefore we had a no contact order. we had the order for 4 months that was just lifted. He’s shown a lot of change but right now we are just slowly hanging out again, trying to fix the brokenness of our relationship. So it’s not like we are just going right back like nothing ever happened. There are deep wounds from both sides that need to be addressed but during this time being a part from him, I went in a spiral mentally. I didn’t know what to do, I was extremely lost and abusing alcohol and just the most depressed I had ever been in my life. I drove 2 seconds down the street to a 7/11 and as I walked out, the same officer who arrested my boyfriend arrested me for a DUI. Ever since all this, it’s been very hard financially and mentally. I am so upset and ashamed. I confided in my grandmother about what happened and she’s been driving me to work, helping me pay the fees, she knows my job has been screwing me over. They will say they don’t need me to come in an hour before I have to be there; they just have been awful to me which has also affected my performance at work. Ever since I’ve been physically seeing my boyfriend again, my grandma shifted in behavior. She is saying I used her financially (we agreed I would slowly pay her back) and just saying I’m a mess and I’m asking to be killed and no longer wants to hear about my life anymore. This woman is like my mother, she raised me when my mother couldn’t. My mom had me young. And I feel such deep sadness about everything and my boyfriend still yells and it scares me at times and I just don’t know what to do. He says I can’t be a good girlfriend, I’m lacking and that’s why he gets so mad and i know better than to believe the manipulation but I don’t say anything out of safety for myself. I feel my gma hates me. I feel my employer hates me I just don’t know how to stop this horrible sadness.
3 mo
I’ve never been this depressed?
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You called the police on your man, don't expect him to ever trust you again.
So a woman or anyone in that matter should have things destroyed in their house and beaten and hit in the head and not call for help.. ur part of the problem. Maybe you should go seek a psychiatrist asap.
For reference to anyone that wants to be like this psycho ^ I called the cops due to me being a tenant, having neighbors, he refuses to leave I live on my own as a young woman. He was jeopardizing my job by me being late to work, he was hitting and abusing me. I really don’t have to explain but I will for the simple minded people in here. There’s no excuse or justifying what he did and he knows that. So anyone that wants to take their time to blame me for why I called the cops; maybe put yourself in a situation as if it’s life or death and let me know what you do. Y’all are some weirdos and it shows.
Asker... if he is such a totally violent psychotic, why were you with him on the first place? Why take him back? I bet his story is very different from yours.
How do I trust someone that claims they love me but could fatally injure me or kill me. But I can’t call the cops... lol you are sus and probably an abuser too. fuck off
Asker... You are a mess. Enjoy being single.
I’ll tell you exactly what he said because it’s the absolute truth and you can take it however you want. He says he has a right to hit and hurt me by “the way I treat him” that right there is not taking accountability. I didn’t take him back as I stated I said we have been physically seeing each other and trying to work on things but it’s not the same. So don’t go over here texting to justify a man beating a woman cause that’s crazy. You walk away!
I’m strong minded and say what I want and that comes off as “attitude” to him. So he then hits me in the head several times very hard and calls me every name in the book just for sticking up for myself. So honestly he’s mad I’m independent and that’s what’s driving him off the wall and that’s unfair. He’s crazy insecure and jealous
You sound like a mess supporting abuse even ur username is a mess
Asker... "Strong minded" is a rationalization for "bitchy, rude, loud, obnoxious, and annoying".