What do you think of the “orange peel” relationship theory?

[caitycat21]

The whole idea of the theory basically the idea that if you can trust your partner to do easy small tasks for you - (like peeling an orange) without asking or complaining then that means that you can trust them to have your back on the bigger things in life when you really need them.

I feel like there’s really some truth to this theory cause I remember in a previous relationship I was having a hard time and I had asked my partner to do something really simple - I just asked them if they could send me a little good morning text everyday since it would make me feel appreciated and they acted like it was the end of the world and like I was asking for too much and that honestly was a huge wake up call for me that this person is someone I can never trust when I need them the most and I broke up with them shortly after.

[WindAtMyBack]

I would say it's not true. It's easy for people to do easy things. You won't know their nature until they are really put to the test with something that is not so easy. I don't think doing easy things is any kind of predictor at all.

Some people might do the easy things, but totally drop the ball on the hard things.

Some people are the opposite. They don't do the little daily things, but will do the important big things. The total fuck-up in daily life might be the one who shines during an emergency.

I think it's completely unpredictable unless you already know the person well in all types of situations.

[dynamicyandere]

It’s a sign that they’re a giver.


The most harmonious relationships are when both people involved are givers.


If someone is just about take take take, then the relationship is going to be dysfunctional.


And worse, if there’s a taker in a relationship with a giver, the giver may end up staying in a toxic relationship for a long time because they just keep giving and the other just keeps taking.


It’s best to be a giver and find someone who also approaches relationships the same way, where BOTH of you want to make sure you’re treating each other right.

[Apple1996]

Yes I definitely believe in this theory. Your partner should be willing to help you out even if it's something that you are completely capable of. I know I don't even need to test this theory on my husband. He always offers to crack open coconuts for me so I know he'd peel a orange as well.

[LazerBean]

Not necessarily the "without asking" part. Because how is he supposed to know when I'm even in the mood for an orange? But not being that literal and strict, yes the concept definitely holds water. The personal example you gave is a good one as well, a better one than the orange.

[Summeroflove]

You know. I think so. As long as it goes both ways. It’s one sign.

[HawkPerception]

I'm sorry but I guess I'm not fit for any relationship in that case. If my partner asked me to peel their orange, I'd be like "Sorry what? You telling me you can't peel an orange on your own?" What kind of adult can't peel an orange? If they've never peeled one, I'd show them how. But they should be able to after that. Unless a girl is impaired physically and has trouble doing anything dexterous with her hands, I don't see why she shouldn't peel her own orange 😂

[BoopBoopBeep]

In theory yes. I was asked to do that daily good morning text once by someone who I couldn't even get to microwave my coffee if it got cold in a meeting, so I told her no. Before you decide the other person is crap for not peeling your orange, make sure you are peeling an orange for them as well.

[goaded]

It only works if you do things they want, too, and they ask you for similar things you ask of them. If they never ask anything of you, it's unreasonable for you to expect them to do everything you ask for.

I had one partner who had to go to work quite early, so I'd often get up as soon as the alarm went off to make coffee for her. Then she started setting an alarm just for me to make her coffee.

That changed it from being an act of love, to being a chore.

[Staximus]

I think peeling an orange is a dumb example because a monkey can do that, but it's kind of true. I was raised to do everything for myself because my parents were always working, so I expect everybody to do what they can for themselves. I don't mind helping somebody with something they can't do for themselves/something I can do much easier.

[Drewtate]

She won't make a sandwich she sint your girl it's just your turn.

[Gent207-2]

As a exercise in trust building its a great theory

[RavVid]

The orange peeling require mind reading. The guy has to anticipate you want to eat an orange. oh my.

[exitseven]

Yes, now that you bring it up I sort of agree with that

[AngryCarl]

if that was a test I just failed. Can't you do it yourself? And bring me a beer while you're at it.

[Crankor]

Sounds pretty ridiculous to me

[Liketotry]

It’s the first time I ever heard of it