How do you console your partner about their phisical insecurities?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

My wife used to be very insecure about her legs, in her opinion they were too thin and stick-like even though she likes wearing skirts. I would often remind her that I found them beautiful and that if people's eyes fell on them when they saw her, surely it wasn't because they didn't like what they saw.

She was also looking into breast-augmentating surgery at some point, but given she gained at least two sizes during pregnancies (I don't know exactly about those things, I never looked into sizes and whatnot) she more or less forgot about it, although she did ask me many, many times if they really had grown or she was imagining it.

As for me, when I mentioned I wished to be at least a bit taller she often said that "the best wine is in the little barrel".

[Rosexøxø]

I remind him:

it’s either:

• a present reality he can work to improve

or

• it’s a reality for humans in general, and has to be humanely accepted by himself, as well. I’ll also mention how much I love that insecurity because most likely it’s something I noticed but attributed to him 🫶, or overlooked and it seems to be not as evident as the major parts of him that I truly and fondly love, so I try to get him to ignore it as well.

- a lighthearted and (considered-before-spoken) joke here or there is always helpful.

- I always like resort to ‘aggressive love’ 🌚🌝. The more insecure he may become, the more ferociously my love and feelings for him become. I will not lose my heart! 🥰

[midnightmoon05]

There are so much more with my partner than the short comings…it’s so easy to compliment each other that we forget that we have these insecurities.
my honey takes great care of us, our house, car, kids, he takes care of himself, we work really well together…he looks great for his age…what is there to not like/love about him. He feels the same about me…certainly, I am concern that I have gained some over Covid…but still being healthy overall and eating well/better will help us fulfill our goals…travel, enjoy life together.

[JacobJordan]

I encourage and support her. My wife prides herself on having remained the same weight for the last 16 years. Anytime she starts to feel like she is getting "fatter" she asks and I can't tell so I say "well do you feel different? Cause you look the same to me" to which she will typically respond with "I feel bigger I don't look it?" And thing is she doesn't so we move to the scale and come to out find out she is a couple lbs higher than what her weight has been so she proceeds to change her diet, exercise etc until she loses it.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I don't... if I figure out an insecurity, I will make fun of her for it until she just doesn't give a shit.

Women are dogpilled anyways

[Agape93]

I don't, because I don't know how. I can tell them how I see them and how they shouldn't care, but that's not consoling them

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

The trick I learned is to compliment them on other things as well - physical and not - and if you appreciate you like the part they are insecure about, to demonstrate it.
However, be also careful to not discount their feelings about it and acknowledge them, otherwise they can see it as pity lip service when it's not.

[Anonymous]

Why would I want to do that? If she's insecure that's a "her" problem, not a we problem. Is she going to care if he is insecure about anything? No. If anything she's going to resent him and call him weak.

So I wouldn't console her. I'd tell her get over it. You aren't perfect honey. But I still love you nonetheless. And if she still has problem after that than insecurity isn't her problem, narcissism is.

[NathanDavis]

I have not been in that situation before, not with someone too insecure to need constant consolation like in this situation

[laly520]

support em emotionally with compliments n reasoning with em pointing out their good qualities

[HappyWoman34]

I usually point out that he’s still young, still good looking, then I leer at him and comment that he might be a pile of dust, but he’s MY pile of dust. Which makes him laugh.

[HouseMoat]

She wants validation from men she doesn't know. She'll feel like if the guys she doesn't know, will be more "honest" with her

[RingOfFire]

¯\_(ツ)_/¯ What women are thinking is always a mystery. I love thin legs on women in skirts. It's so sexy. Hate thick legs and thighs.

[jmsinaz]

Why would anyone "console" their partner about their "phisical" insecurities?

[Anonymous]

By dumping him. I don't date insecure guys. I'm not insecure myself so I wouldn't be around a guy that was and nagging 24/7

[blueonblack22]

As long as it they don’t do it too often.

[ienjoylookingatgreen]

Tell them straight up, if they can't deal with it then I'm gone