I’m a massage practitioner, client wants to be nude. Is that something I should run by my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

So I’m a massage practitioner and been doing it as a side thing for a while for extra cash for savings.

Recently a new client approached me (I’ve never worked on him before, he got my info from a former cliente) We spoke on the phone and he wants no sheet covering, as in him fully nude and exposed on my table. I’m curious to know if that’s something that I should run by my boyfriend, would it be something that would make a guy uncomfortable if his girlfriend did this.
Wasn’t planning on telling him cuz it’s part of the job, typically private areas are covered during massage, it’s not typical procedure to leave a client fully exposed.
Anyways just curious to see what y’all think.

[AviatorTom]

Let's say you run it by your boyfriend and he says no way should you allow that. What are you going to do? Turn down the client? Get a new boyfriend?

As a professional massage practitioner, you touch your client's body... all over... avoiding the private parts. Your boyfriend should already know that.

That's your job. Telling your boyfriend doesn't change your job.

Sounds like you're actually uncomfortable with a totally nude client. In that case, you need to have a discussion with your client, not your boyfriend.

[Asker]

I’m not uncomfortable with my client being nude at all. I’ve actually done this before but I was single at the time, i had no issues but this time when I was asked I felt like it was something I should maybe run by him. knowing my boyfriend I don’t think he’d ask me to turn my client down but I guess I think in telling him I’m more of keeping him in the loop. But is it better to not even bother telling him? Either way he says no I’m still gonna do it, he at least knows what I’m doing 😂 not hiding it

[Dinklex3]

I’m a bit confused. I’m an LMT. I don’t know what country you’re from and what regulations you have.

In my state, we would never do that, draping is a must, & it is not allowed. You don’t think the client will have the wrong idea if he’s insisting on being fully exposed? If a client wants something, you just explain the importance of draping. I would’ve told my boyfriend because I would’ve declined the client.

Sometimes men just want a women therapist because they feel uncomfortable with a men touching them, but there are some that totally misunderstand what our job is.

[BoopBoopBeep]

There's virtually no legitimate reason for the client to require that from a physiological treatment perspective. The ones that do exist I'd be willing to bet he doesn't have. Not only should you tell your boyfriend, you should tell the client no.

[Phoenix98]

I would run it by him if anything he’d appreciate the honesty.

if I were in your position I would personally do it and let my girlfriend know.

[Anonymous]

I think you should be honest about it. Because let’s say he found out some how, than chances are he’s going to wonder why didn’t you tell him. What are you hiding? Etc, etc. If he’s ok w it than I’d suggest you charge a little more for it.

[glennos89]

Definitely discuss with your boyfriend before doing it. Personally I wouldn't accept the client if he doesn't wanne be covered🤷‍♂️

[Asker]

I don’t get this request very often but when I have they do compensate me very nicely so it’s hard not to say no 😂

[glennos89]

Damn... that sounds like money is more important to you then your relationship? That's bad 🥶

[slatyb]

It's up to you to set the boundaries, and if you are uncomfortable with that, then refuse. I find it rather creepy. I very occasionally get a massage, and I just do as I'm told.

[Zestyassmf1997]

Hmmm…tough call. I think your boyfriend would appreciate the honesty. If you were in his shoes, don’t you think you’d want to know?

[Asker]

For sure! I think you’re right, I’m gonna just bring it up so he knows what’s going on and isn’t surprised or hurt later or thinks I’m hiding it for other reasons.

[Zestyassmf1997]

I also think @AviatorTom makes a point about you sounding more uncomfortable about the client than anything.

[Asker]

I didn't realize I made it sound like that, that’s not the case at all. I’ve done this before but never when I’ve had a partner whose feelings I had to consider.

[Tim2nice]

You must discuss this with your client. Leave your boyfriend out of it.

[exitseven]

You should ask this guy what kind of massage he is expecting

[tfan1]

Tell client towel or his underwear on or no deal

[nawtee_me]

Just don’t do anything that would cost you your license…. If it is considered sexual favors and you get paid for it, it is considered prostitution.

[Anonymous]

If your going to his home, then he's hoping for a happy ending. So yes, mention it to your boyfriend.

[Roudyrebel8]

I'd think it's an occupational hazard