When should I tell my girlfriend I'm incontinent and wear protection we're staying over night for the first time?

[Shywetjamie21]

I have urgency incontinence daily and nightly bedwetting since a car crash injuries 2yrs ago. I usually wear pullups sometimes briefs aka diapers during the day and always diaper at night. We met at a coffee shop I work at on nights in the small town I recently moved to. Its a couple of first times since recovering from multiple fractures to both my heels and ankles and impact pelvic injury caused daily incontinence. I have been working for about 3 months and the people I work with are auwsum. I've ended up with noticeably wet pants from pullup badly leaked 2x so now I wear diapers at work and not had wet pants since. Everyone I work with now knows and I realize that they don't care about me having accidents or wearing BRIEFS/diaper. The girl I met at work she comes in for coffee with her friends and one of them is a coworker that I know she knows I wear briefs aka diapers and I was working with her when I ended up with noticeably wet pants there there a few hours a couples times a week. Now for a few weeks we've been dating and she has surprised me with telling me she booked a nice motel room and wants to go for drinks and dinner a week from now. I know that she's going to find out and most likely see I'm wearing diapers and sharing a bed I'm nervous about the best way to let her know. I have a feeling that her girlfriend probably has told her that I've had accident and wear BRIEFS aka diapers and she's patted my butt a few times with a smile so she might have figured it out. Any advice I'd appreciate

[SueShe]

If you suspect that she already might know about your health issues, then the sooner you tell her the better.

You can explain that following an accident with a crushed pelvis as a consequence, you have had issues containing your urine and that you are obliged to wear incontinence diapers. There is no shame to admitting that this is the consequence of an accident and not a kink or fantasy of yours.

If she finds out and you did not tell her beforehand, then I would consider this as a breach of trust and that is a very bad way to start a potential relationship.

Honesty is the best way to tackle the subject.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Avoid unpleasant surprises.

Tell her as soon as you can.

[mattthefatbat]

She might already know from the sound of it but most likely it really isn't that big of a deal to her. But you should find a private time between you and her and explain your situation to her and how the accident has changed you as long as she knows you do your best to keep clean down there im sure it'll all be okay. As long as she's compassionate and understanding of your situation. But I do hope you don't have to live like this for your whole life though and best wishes for you

[katiesmuff]

Tell her or not but if your going to sleep with her I think she will notice.

[Anonymous]

Good luck with her hanging around.