Should I stay with my boyfriend because I don’t want him to feel alone?

[Anonymous]

He’s currently working a very demanding job, has no friends amor family in the same city, is just not in a good place, I want to break it off but I also feel so bad that he’s going to be so alone. Is that dumb? He has said I’m his only source of joy in his life and I’m the only person he talks to daily.

[ohsheeT]

look at if you're not happy you have to get out

and you can't look at it as if you're saving him by staying there you're hurting him if you're staying there

because if you think of your happiness first and you leave

and if he gets lonely he's going to have to do something about it it's going to wake him up a little bit and he has to start living life again so don't do something because of him do something because of you you come first your happiness comes first you need to explore you're missing something and you need to find that same thing with him if he gets out and about and changes his life around a little bit he might find exactly what he's looking for

[KaitSyth]

Depends on why you want to break it off. Men don't usually work demanding, exhausting, awful jobs for themselves. They typically work them to either 1- get level up so girls will notice them, 2- take care of a girl they already have, 3- get over a girl that dumped them. And sometimes 1 and 3 take place at the same time.

If he's working a grueling job, he's likely doing it for you because he feels its something he can give you. If the reason you want to break it off is because you feel you two have drifted apart, then tell him about it and maybe he'll realign his life and your relationship will improve. If you want to break it off because you've decided you just don't like him and don't want to be with him, then you're just making him miserable by sticking around. He'll be a wreck for a while after you dump him, but eventually he'll find someone who actually wants to be with him. Especially if he's working a demanding job, because those usually pay well and the fruits of that will grab attention next time he can actually make it out to a bar or club.

[biabyblue9]

Hello there! I hope you feeling ok.
Here's my opinion... Look, if you don't wanna be there, then don't. Yeah it might be sad but either way he has to have self love and not depend on anyone. You're supposed to be happy with your partner not because of your partner.
I hope you guys find a solution and I hope if you end it, I hope he finds a way of feeling better.
Hugs and good luck!!!

[Summeroflove]

You want to break it off… If one persons miserable you both are. Do you think he deserves to be loved? And maybe you love him in a way. But you aren’t in love. Don’t you also deserve it?

The best thing you can do is be honest. If it’s meant to be maybe you’ll reconnect. You can be friends. You don’t have to leave him totally alone. You can be friends and talk and hang out…

you're not only hurting yourslef. But him

[Anonymous]

First off I give you extreme kudos for having that kind of consideration for him. Have you really considered why you don’t want to date him anymore? Is he just too unavailable and/or boring (given his work situation). Is there someone else you want to pursue?

If you have come to unequivocal decision this is what you really want then it’s not good for either of you if you are unhappy.

But this is sad. Very sad. I would make it abundantly clear that you really do worry about how this is going to impact him. Also if you are looking to get with someone else do all you can to keep that on the DL. If he’s alone and he sees you on social media with another man it’s going to devastate him considering his situation.

This is tough. But you are more considerate then most other women I’ve seen when it comes to this. Usually women see men as expendable once they lose interest.

[JacobJordan]

Why are you wanting to end the relationship? Have you ever bothered to talk to him about the problems presuming there are any? Or are you one of those modern women that run away from good men only to whine about not being able to find a good man? Clearly you care about the guy so perhaps you should talk to him instead of running away

[OtterMan68]

Take him to places where he can meet people. Ask him to invite co-workers over for dinner or drinks one night. Tell him you want to meet them. Then after he socializes more, break up with him, but if you are really not happy with him, you are under no obligation to make his life better. That's for him to figure out, but you can help him before you leave.

[bobalife]

No, don’t be in a lonely relationship and feeling pitiful. Believe it or not, they will pick it up on their own somehow once you leave.. 🙄 your happiness is important too.

[b_lova]

Sounds like you still have feelings for him. But you shouldn't feel trapped in a relationship. Time for him to make more friends.

[ImHere22]

No. He needs to learn how to reach out for help on his own. If you allow him to act helpless, then he won’t learn to take care of himself

[PeachyPie93]

No, totally bad idea. You will just be wasting his and your own time. He deserves to be with someone who actually loves him and same as you.

[Hanzyxw]

He will find another women in two weeks for for it 🤣

[HelpfulWoman]

yes, its dumb.
if you want to break up, break up. otherwise you'll forever find a reason to stay.

[Mado108]

Think about yourself. Break it off. Your needs are important too

[slatyb]

No, you shouldn't. His happiness is not your responsibility.

[DarkWinterNights]

I wouldn’t want someone staying with me only out of pity.

[jaskin777]

Why would u want to break it off?
Try to make it work

[JHAYES317]

Is the only reason you want to break it off because he’s stressed at work or busy? If so that’s kind of silly…

[SotiCoto]

If you want to do it, why are you asking us?

[DextroShade]

At your age there is a good chance he's your best option remaining.

[Iron_Man]

This is extremely selfish it’s not like it’s going to be for the rest of your life

[JonesT10Apr]

be with him.

time will change as you expect and like...
through diary u wrote and let him know your wishes and expectations

[SweetCountryGirl123]

Do him the biggest favour you will do anyone in your entire selfish thoughtless life.

GET LOST

[KymberliB]

No you have 1 chance at life

[laly520]

leave
better than staying unwillingly

[Zestyassmf1997]

Why do you want to break it off?

[Asker]

A few things, I feel like im in a relationship by myself. I understand how demanding his work is, he works about 70hrs a week. I just need more form a partner, i do things for him through the week to make it easier on him, I feel like I show up for him all the time and I’m starting to feel like I’m being taken advantage of. It’s hard because it wasn’t like that at all he had a different job a year ago. I might as well be single because I don’t feel like I have a partner anymore. And yes I brought this up with him already.

[Zestyassmf1997]

I mean, the relationship won’t always be easy. Did he at least say there’ll be a light at the end of the tunnel?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Doesn't sound like something to have good results

[JayBones]

Introduce him to other people and then bounce.

[Jmmmfi4]

HE SOUNDS LIKE ME

[TheSpaceGnome]

Break it off.