I fell in love a guy about 2 months ago. He is my friend from the college, we were preparing a semester project together. We spent time together sometimes in the dining hall or Cafe I also went to his house, but we never get close to each other physically. I came out to him a month later after that and he was rejected me (bcause of he had a crush another girl around 3-4 months). Later, he texted my bff on Instagram, and my girlfriend said, "I'm not the person you should write to, my bff has crush on you... don't text me. etc. kind of this things". I haven't been able to study for about 1-2months, I can't do sports, I can't even eat at all and I can't sleep properly. I lost 4 kilos in an unhealthy way. In the last month, on the contrary, I overeat. I sleep for 10-15 hours and I gained 3 kilos. I even had food poisoning 2 weeks ago. My bff telling me this made me sadder and I don't know what should i do now.
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You can't make someone love you. I suggest you accept that he is not the one for you and try to move on with your life. Find things to do to keep busy to help especially hanging out with friends.
If you’re feeling this bad, then this isn’t about the guy and is a deeper issue, he only triggered it. You must already suffer with self esteem or rejection, a deeper trauma must be addressed.
Why would it be a issue if I fell in love with he?
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Falling in love isn’t the issue, it’s how you’re feeling about yourself that is concerning.
You’re self sabotaging based on how you feel about this guy, basically.