How many of you believe that there’s someone for everyone?

[HappyWoman34]

I think it’s rubbish, but that’s my personal view.

[SecretsofKB]

My job is unique in a sense where I get to see people and families in extremely stressful situations, when you see their true colors.

Even when someone is being a vile human being, they still have a partner with them (mostly) being just as vile or completely sweet.

May not be someone for absolutely everyone, but for most people there is someone.

[Abhishek4444]

I also think it is nonsense because I feel in love with a girl at first I thought it was infatuation even after 2 years I can't able to forget so believed that it was love so I text her that I love but she replied and used bad words for me that you are ugly, hairy, skinny, dark brown and she also threatened me not to contact her again so I was one sided lover she was one sided hater the conclusion is that my life is ruined because it's been more than 2 years but I still I can't forget her so now I turned myself into a cold hearted person so that even if anyone tries to hurt I can defeat them with my emotionless face I will remain virgin and unmarried forever and earn money as much as I can so that I can live in Japan for my whole life

[HappyWoman34]

Ahhh okay. Well, I’m sorry she was so awful. There are other women.

[Abhishek4444]

sorry ma'am I know there are other women but I have decided to live a life alone

[HappyWoman34]

Fair enough 😊

[Abhishek4444]

Thank you for understanding me ma'am

[Summeroflove]

For the MOST part. But some people are degenerates, abusive, etc. So they don’t get someone. But however many people do have people they deserve out there.

[HappyWoman34]

I’m not a cynic. I just heard from a guy friend that his therapist said there’s someone for everyone and thought it sounded patronising. I also thought, if that were true, there’d be no more single people left on the face of the earth.

[Summeroflove]

Well. I think many people do have soulmates. But a lot of people never find them. Because they’re too involved in sleeping around or whatver. Knock someone up or get kncoked up and just marry the person. To end in disaster later down the road.

[HappyWoman34]

That’s an interesting perspective. That’s possibly part of the reason so many people are single or divorced. Or they marry too young, or they marry their ideal physical type, who they later realise isn’t compatible in other ways with them.

[Summeroflove]

EXACTLY! I don’t even think marrying young is bad…. If they marry the right person. But you are spot on.

A lot of things start out as physical lusts. Now it’s not wrong to find someone attractive. But when that’s all that matters it’s a problem.

And yes. Many people don’t relIxe they’re compatible until much later. After sex and sex and sex. Maybe babies come along and

[Summeroflove]

People looking for different stuff. Maybe a woman wants to be a stay at home mom and the man doenst want that type of marriage. Maybe they have differences politically or religiously

Or vice versa. Maybe a woman wants to work and the man doesn’t want that.

[HappyWoman34]

Yeah, all sorts of things happen. Like my great grandma said; ‘Marry in haste, repent at leisure.’

[Summeroflove]

That’s true.

[Summeroflove]

A lot of things happen. Unfortunately many people don’t last long

[HappyWoman34]

Yes, it’s such a shame. I think too many people value the wrong things. Then run away rather than facing things.

[HappyWoman34]

Not that it was great that people were almost entirely unable to divorce in the past.

[Summeroflove]

They ABSOLUTELY do do this.

[Summeroflove]

I do agree with you. There is times where people should divorce. But don’t. They don’t want to face it. They want to think the perosn they’re with will change. And the list goes on

[Summeroflove]

But yes. People have sex. And either they never want to pay child suppprt or they kill their baby before it’s born. People don’t want to deal with many other consequences or sleeping around.

A lot of people instead of feeling ashamed of it. Theh eitjer just enjoy it too much or just want to pretend it never happened. Instead of facing what they did.

Same with people who cheat.

[HappyWoman34]

I completely agree with you 😊

[Kelley1]

Of course that is rubbish and that is assuming everyone wanted someone. At the very least that excludes 1s and 2s because no one, not even other 1s and 2s will accept a 1 or a 2. And generally 3s will not accept other 3s.

Furthermore, some people will never marry. A new Pew Research Center analysis of census data finds that in 2019, roughly four-in-ten adults ages 25 to 54 (38%) were unpartnered – that is, neither married nor living with a partner.1 This share is up sharply from 29% in 1990.2 Men are now more likely than women to be unpartnered, which wasn’t the case 30 years ago.

The growth in the single population is driven mainly by the decline in marriage among adults who are at prime working age.

[Twalli]

I do believe it. But that there's only one person. With a world population exceeding 8 billion, you have a better chance of winning the lottery than finding that person.

I believe you know that you found that person by how your relationship is. I have been dating my girlfriend for over 5..5 years and we're still in the honeymoon stage. I can't think of a more perfect relationship. My parents have a relationship that is what people describe as perfect and they say mine is better than their's.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I think it's worth the search. Even if no such person exists, we develop a lot of social skills and can find many good lifelong friends socially networking along the way.

I don't like the saying when used to discourage the search as though we can just twiddle our thumbs and expect Mr. or Miss Right to show up at our doorstep.

[JacobJordan]

I think there is someone for everyone. However I also think that the choices people make can increase or reduce how many they have potentially to zero as many modern women are realizing when they can't find someone. Actions have consequences and the consequences of making poor decisions regarding your body can lead to a net zero number of partners. Goes both ways shitty guys end up alone and wonder why without looking in a mirror.

[Drew-1990]

Like a soul mate I do not, I don't think there is one special person for you out there. But I do believe there is always multiple people that would be great for you, everyone can find that person but not everyone does.

[KrakenAttackin]

I think this used to be true before women's "standards" reached delusional proportions.

[HappyWoman34]

My standards aren’t delusional. I get approached by hot people and cute people, often enough that I know it’s not unrealistic to have them. Why not aim higher, if you know you can?

[HappyWoman34]

However, I see your point that people can overestimate their own looks and seek the wrong things in partners.

[Billlewis]

Yes, ma'am, absolutely. I prefer to view your standards not as being delusional, but exorbitant, even outrageous -- but that's what makes you so appealing -- because if you're asking that much, you must be pretty damn hot! You can always negotiate down from the manufacturer's list price. If I were managing, promoting you, etc, and I could do anything I felt appropriate to advance your interests, I'd leave it exactly the way it is. Mr. Kraken is correct, as well, in my opinion. In this undertaking, we can all, theoretically, be right;)

[HappyWoman34]

@Billlewis lol

[LazerBean]

There are plenty of people that are so insufferable that they will never be able to be in a decent relationship.

[exitseven]

There is someone for most people. There are some people that for whatever reason are just incompatible

[laly520]

there is someone for everyone but it isn't guaranteed to find that someone

[DaBiggestBird]

Only for those who believe, and believe in more.

[jahaims]

It's just a saying to make stupid people feel better

[noohair]

There is someone, but that does not guarantee that they meet.

[Heolurt]

There definitely is not, I know for a fact there isn't someone for people like me.

[Alex-Snow]

U have to have faith. I believe it

[Kelly6]

It used to be true but not anymore

[Dongie]

Bullshit

[ab2shifty]

I believe it