Do you guys think that love (i don't mean sex) is not enough in a relationship?

[Sameone]

I have been whit some women they won't something more then love
But i never can't find out
What they are need in relationship

[MrOracle]

No, love is NOT enough. It never has been.

That doesn't mean that love is important, but it absolutely will not sustain a relationship if you aren't highly compatible in the areas that matter. If you want any hope of sustaining a relationship long-term, you MUST be compatible in the following areas (note that I said "compatible" and not "identical"):

• Morals
• Values
• Life-Goals

You will very likely have to give up other things that are "nice to have's" to get these things, because you almost never find everything you want in a single package (aka a unicorn). Those things you may have to sacrifice include looks, status, and income/income potential, among other things. If you fail to prioritize morals, values, and life-goals, then it's a near certainty that your relationship will fail. Looks, status, and money may get you through a year or two, but you rarely get much farther if you have a major incompatibility, and their looks, status, and money will not make it any easier to deal with that incompatibility, nor will it make you be able to overlook it.

It's also important to realize that you need to know what these things are from your potential partner right from the start - if you commit to them before you learn these things, then you've already blown it. You need to vet them thoroughly - probably over a series of dates and discussions - before you agree to commit to them.

Imagine you've wanted kids all your life, but 3 years in you learn that she doesn't ever want children. Or imagine the most important thing to you is that your man is home with you every night, and then he tells you that he's taking a job where he'll be traveling 3 weeks a month. I could give you dozens of examples, but these kinds of things are surprisingly common, and they're the kinds of things you have to work out BEFORE you commit, or you'll just waste years of your life on a doomed relationship, and LOVE will NOT solve these problems for you.

Divorce lawyers make hundreds of billions of dollars every year because lots of naïve people believed that love would solve these problems, so they didn't need to worry about them themselves, or vet their partners before committing to them.

[Sameone]

I agree with your opinion about what you said,
and I had many relationships with controlling and irritable women, but all of my relationships ended with them cheating on me because of my own sexual problems, but when I visited the specialist doctor, my condition improved by 60%

, and knowing that this current relationship does not have a problem. About sex, and Haya also has no financial problems, but in terms of mutual respect, I support her in her decisions, and Haya does the same thing.

And we always talk about details for future and we always match

[BoopBoopBeep]

Love doesn't put a roof over your head or food on the table. You can love someone and still not communicate with them for shite. You can love an unrepentant narcissist. You can love a junkie that steals all your money for crack/krokodil/whatever. Try saying "but we love each other" when the bank is foreclosing on your home afterwards.

[Sameone]

I, don't think about money problem because she already have life home car...

[BoopBoopBeep]

Ok what happens when that car breaks or you need a new roof?

[Sameone]

She have job and she make good salary
And for me i have a good job and house but she always call me if she was need help in her place or for fix something

[BoopBoopBeep]

Then clearly you two have more than "just love"... so what are you worried about?

[Nikki1989]

Love is just the foundation that you build upon.

[Sameone]

So aim in relationship whit this girl i really love her and i respect her and i support her in everything what else i have to do because i don't want to lose her 😅

[SolitarySolace]

Well in my past experiences love has been completely meaningless without sex and I'm asexual. 🤷🏻‍♂️ And it isn't worth combing the entire state I'm from trying to find a woman who is my type, is asexual, and not a feminist, leftist, Democrat, Misandrist. So personally for me it's best to just stay single 🙂

[Sameone]

I think she okay with my problem
But we do sex like 2 to 4 times in week

[exitseven]

It is more than enough. If you do not have it, you do not really have a relatioship.

[Sameone]

What do you mean 🤔

[boobliker]

balance of sex work and missing someone is love so many things are in the make-up of a relationship. it what works for you.

[imawfulatusernames]

You think sex and time apart is love…are you okay…?

[Sameone]

I can't do this because i have. Sex problem and she is okay with my problem so we like do sex 2 or 3 times in week and sometimes we sleep. Together without sex

[boobliker]

all these things are in your head love, lust, hope and how much you miss someone. you will never stay with someone with sex

[Sameone]

Aim doing my best for her and sometimes when i want to have some sex whit her she tell me don't force yourself if you can't

[elizamichale1]

Both love and sex are necessary honey

[Sameone]

About sex we talk and she okay whit my problem
She doesn't force me
And sometimes when i try to have sex whit her she always tell me don't force yourself if you can't i just want you not your peins
What do you think 🤔

[elizamichale1]

Whatt really? She must be an alien then...
Honestly i can never do tht... she must be madly in love with u...
If u hav problem having sex then u must make arrangements for her

[Sameone]

I am visiting a doctor who specializes in my condition and it has improved by 60%, but nothing has changed between us
Even when i get better she still doesn't force me for sex

But she always do some weird stuff to me when we go outside or in my place or her place

Last thing she did she call me 18 tims+ 10 massages

[elizamichale1]

Well i wish u gud luck honey
N wht weird stuff she does to u? I didn't understand tht
N if she called u tht many times she must hav been concerned for u

[Sameone]

Nup i told her last week day 21 and 22 aim really busy in work i didn't check my phone
Because we have a new supervisor when i finish my job i find out she call me 18 tims+10 massages ( she say why you don't pick up who is this woman wher are you...)
I was really taird and i said when i go home i call her whe i get home at 11pm i find her waiting me in my door sitting and crying and she was drunk
When i was try to talk to her she was just cry i pickher up to my appointment she slept in living room in morning i didn't find her she left when i call her she tell me come to my house tonight
And a looot of weird stuff...

[elizamichale1]

Well tbh u shud hav been there for her specially when u r not meeting her sexual needs

[Sameone]

Maybe we are going to have sex tonight
And one time i was sleeping on her bad and she was working on her pc i was playing with her feet i didn't feel my self when i kiss her foot next day we go to dinner she tell me if i take my heels and i put my feet in table will you kiss my feet i was like 😶😶 and problem she didt and everyone was looking 👀👀 to me and she was really happy

[elizamichale1]

Well thts alright to me... i also get naughty n kinky when i m out with my boyfriend

[Sameone]

If you don't mind i have questions
If your boyfriend was 10/10 but he can't give you what you want (sex) will you brokup whit him?

[elizamichale1]

Sure u can ask anything honey
N yea i will

[Sameone]

Check your Dm

[laly520]

love alone isn't enough

[Sameone]

What more whit love...

[imawfulatusernames]

No it isn’t. You need a lot more than love

[Sameone]

For example what

Aim in relationship whit this girl and i really love her and i support her i respect her i give her details about my day i talk to her 2 or 3 times in day
What i have to do more because i want this relationship work

[imawfulatusernames]

@Sameone Are you best friends with her? Would she say the same? Do yous trust each other? Are your life goals, priorities, values and practices similar? There’s a bunch more but that’s a baseline.

Unfortunately it’s not really about what you should or shouldn’t do 100% of the time it’s often about compatibility

[Sameone]

I trust her 100%. Even she know my phone password and my visa pin code
We have same goals in life both of us want to have good life and mariage and have two kids and we have same practice
You can say we are match 80%
But here only problem with me is my job

[Yannae]

Abusive partners love their partners too.

[Yannae]

It's not enough. You must run in this scenario.

[Gabriel-Chicanito]

U need $, first.

[Sameone]

I think money is not problem for her
Because she doesn't like to spend a lot of money when we go out or shopping