What was your first impression of your partner?

[7Phoenix7]

Or ex partner... and be honest. I thought my ex was charming but probably a "player" and kind of blew him off at first. What about you?

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[WhiteSteve]

I was immediately physically attracted. I was bouncing and taking IDs at the door, and she came in with a nice but kind of annoying regular who had mistaken my friendliness (and job requirement to stay in the same spot, even through forced interactions with customers😂) for romantic interest. That was really the big monkey wrench in the situation, not getting the “I like you, but my friend is really into you and I couldn’t do that to her.” Luckily they weren’t that close, she was a friend of her sister’s, she had just moved to town from New York that same day I met her….. but there was a bit of a situation, lmao, that’s another tale for another time though.

But yeah, first impression was that she was beautiful, and I thought I felt a little mutual “zap” when we were introduced, so I went and hollered at her when she was alone at the jukebox, impossibly smooth game of course😎, and she told me my accent was sexy. So that was that. Had to deal with a little drama from the other gal, but it’s not like that was going to happen if my lady hadn’t strolled into the picture. I wasn’t “stolen” from anyone, maybe only in her irrational mind🙄

But the first impression was that she was hot, lmao, and she definitely stuck out as a New York City girl amongst the small-town college crowd. She always tells me how she didn’t have make up on and had her hair tied up because she had just moved and got talked into going out for a drink, but she still seemed very glamorous. And that’s the great thing about working the door, you get first crack at all the ladies on the way in.

And you KNOW I pulled this one on Day One…

[7Phoenix7]

Lol a mutual zap eh? Like chemistry?

I'm guessing your impossibly smooth game was making her laugh. I can't imagine you being serious 😂

[WhiteSteve]

Haha, yeah, just one of those things where we just instantly vibed while shaking hands.

I think my initial line at the jukebox was something like “whoa…. you’re not playing anything that sucks, are you?”, and she laughed and we talked about music, and we both liked R&B and hip-hop, so we probably talked about that and I steered her in the right direction to find stuff she’d like (still was the old style with actual CDs inside, not like the digital ones, the owner hated rap and wanted to prevent it from being played…. I was in charge of curating the music, fought tooth and nail to get some classic rap albums on there, for, you know, the customers who WEREN’T 60 years old like this guy was🤦‍♂️).

So I definitely took a playful approach, and then she kind of just gave me signs that she was interested and to keep going. Took like a week-plus just to shake the other chick so we could hang out alone, and even that came about kind of explosively, lmao, there was a bit of a meltdown. That was the only way I was able to be alone with her and make any progress, but it took off hyperspeed from there.

Making a gal laugh gets me inside. Behind closed doors I’m all business though. Playtime is over, there are no jokes over here, don’t get it pretzeled😈😝

[7Phoenix7]

Oh so that's when you get serious? 😏 lol

The other friend must have cursed both of you guys out?

[WhiteSteve]

Yes, ma’am. When bossman punches in, it’s time to go to work. I run a tight ship around this office😏

Oh man…. the Cliff Notes are that everyone was drunk except me, at the friend’s apartment. My girl asked me to help her to the bathroom, and when we got in the next room, that’s when she started kissing me. I think the ensuing silence was obvious to the other girl, and she starts calling to me. I kept being like “yup, one second…” and going back to kissing, lmao. It basically she was like “Steve…. Steve?…. Steve!….”, and then finally you just hear “STEEEEEVVVVVVEEEEEEE!!!”, and the sound of glass shattering, lmfao.

We’re like “WTF”, we find her in the next room, and she had thrown her drink off the wall. She basically just had a full-on freak out. We didn’t know what to do with her. And it’s like 3 AM in an apartment building, lmao. She kept throwing things, and then she stripped down to her underwear (and not to be mean, but she was a VERY big girl😅), and walked out into the freezing cold night. I’m trying to monitor her, and I’m holding her building’s door open so none of us get locked out. She has an empty bottle of vodka, and she walks across the street to the police station, and hucks the bottle off the wall just above the main entrance door. Shattered glass everywhere, can’t believe the cops didn’t come out. Dispatcher must have been on break or something, lmfao.

[WhiteSteve]

Finally she walked back inside, then collapsed on her bed and was sobbing, and she called some other friend to come over, and we were thinking “THANK GOD”, because she was inconsolable and we were who she was upset with in the first place. My girl just wanted to leave because she had a little Pomeranian at the time, and he was all bugged out after a jewelry box went flying by them on its way into a wall.

After the other girl came, we left. Turns out she went on to break every dish and glass in her kitchen, and the ambulance took her away and she spent a week in the psych ward. Crazy stuff, lmfao. We felt bad, obviously, but like what are we supposed to do? I had been trying to hang out with her solo the whole time but this girl just made sure she was there every time for like two weeks. And no offense, but…she and I were never going to happen, there was no reason for her to think anything ever would, and meanwhile it was very obvious that my lady and I liked each other. Like she was in denial and trying to use her to get to hang out with me. Solid strategy. That’s why I always roll with my wingmen Leo DiCaprio and Michael B Jordan, it’s a foolproof plan for me🤦‍♂️😂

Anyway, it kind of backfired because my girl came home with me that night, grateful to me for rescuing her and the dog, and respected the way I managed the situation while still trying to be kind to the other girl, and the rest is history.

But yeah, explosive start, lmao. And the other girl got over it, she was still in the circle of friends after that, so no harm, no foul. She’s a rare case, super spoiled, parents gave her whatever she wanted, even as an adult, had her whole way paid, groceries picked up, paid for, and even put away in her cabinets. So she just threw huge tantrums when she didn’t get her way🤷‍♂️🤦‍♂️😂

[7Phoenix7]

She was crazy af Steve not gonna lie lmao. I don't know how your girl was friends with her. The STEVVVVVVEEEE gave me chill bumps hahaha. But anyway, you made it pass the dragon and saved the princess. Good job 👏

[WhiteSteve]

Yooooo, I mean, if we’re in the trust tree and having real talk…. she WAS crazy af😂😂😂


I HATED when they were friends in the early going because she moved into the same apartment complex as us, and they’d hang out and get hammered while I was at work. Then I’d get out of work at like 2 AM, VERY ready to go home, but I have to go pick her up, because her legs were the first thing to go when she drank, lmao. And I’d get there and be like “OK, I’m here, let’s go”, and the other girl is talking about “one more drink!”, and she had these HUGE plastic patio cups that must’ve been 44 ounces, lmfao. So I’d have to sit there for like an hour, and then basically carry her home🤦‍♂️ That whole thing ran its course after a while, but that first year and a half or so, she was a thorn in my side, haha

And yeah, that “STEEEEVVVVVEEEEE!!!” was blood-curdling, lmao. Had me wondering for a second what I was getting myself into😂 But I’m a sucker for a damsel in distress, especially hot ones, lmfao, so I sprung into action…

[7Phoenix7]

Lmao ok, your long paragraphs are kinda worth the read. Hilarious 😂.

[WhiteSteve]

I get that a lot in everyday life, just paragraphs being stories. “You lost me so many times and went on like 20 tangents…. but it all made sense in the end.”😂😂

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I thought she was a snobby posh type because she showed up to a beer and potato chips type of picnic with fancy wine and cheese. She was also in a nice dress while I was in t-shirt and shorts and flip-flops.

I came from a working class background growing up on things like microwave dinners and fast food, especially when I stayed with my single mother who'd often just leave me a microwave dinner to make for myself. I did all right for myself getting a full scholarship to university and after graduating, but I still lacked any sense of high society with very cheap tastes in food, clothing, etc.

So I always thought people who drink things like fancy wine must all be snobs. "Wooh! Look at you with your fancy wine mr./ms. fancy-pants! Too good for us drinking convenience store wine out of a plastic bottle, aren't you?" 😅

Once I started talking to her though, I realized quickly that she's the total opposite of a snob and one of the most open-minded and least judgmental people I ever met, just someone very lady-like with refined tastes and a proper family upbringing. I was the judgmental one there with my prejudice towards people of fancier tastes.

Also I started to acquire some finer tastes through her like more appreciation for opera, classical music, French cuisine. I still can't tell the difference between a $12 bottle of wine and a $200 bottle though. 😂 Seems like such a waste of money.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

She also taught me how to do things like eat at fancy restaurants. I was like, "Why did they give us so many utensils? I got like 3 spoons and 5 forks. What the hell? Which one am I supposed to use?" 😅 Then she taught me I'm supposed to work from the outside to the inside.

Meanwhile, I introduced her to Domino's Pizza!

[7Phoenix7]

Hahaha, such a cute but funny story. I'm glad you took the time to talk to her and get to know her. You would have missed out 🙃.

I've had both expensive and cheap wine too, I didn't really notice any difference in the tastes either lol. Maybe it's a little "richer" haha. So many utensils... yes, haha. I learned about them while working at one of the more luxurious assisted living facilities. I worked in the healthcare department under the Director of Nursing. But all of the residents living there had a ton of money and enjoyed their expensive wine and multiple utensils.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

My wife actually can't tell so much either but we played a prank on one of our mutual friends. Our mutual friend actually is slightly snobby (still nice, but a bit high-nosed).

We had an empty bottle of a very expensive bottle of wine and wanted to see if she could tell the difference between cheap wine, so we bought a cheap one from the supermarket and used a funnel to pour it into the expensive bottle. Then we invited her to our home as a guest and poured her the wine and she recognized the bottle. After that she swirled the wine, sniffed it, all the fancy stuff people do that I don't get, and tasted it and said it was delicious.

So she really didn't seem to notice at all! But my wife and I both felt a bit guilty and mean for testing her that way after. 😅 We ended up gifting the real deal to her after.

That sounds cool working with the residents there in the healthcare department! One thing I got spoiled by through my wife is that I've grown a complete love of sturgeon caviar. I'd go broke though if I ate it on a regular basis (too rich for my blood). So it's a fancy occasion type of food for me, but I'm in love with it now.


I eat the much cheaper salmon caviar more often but it's nowhere near as good in my opinion.

[7Phoenix7]

That is hilarious 😂. Nice though, that you two bought her the real deal afterwards, haha. I was thinking, what if she did notice but just refused to say anything as to avoid being rude? Lol Or was it obvious that she had no clue?

I have never tried caviar, I'm kind of turned off by the way it looks and i inagine the texture to be odd 😅. What does it taste like?

[7Phoenix7]

*imagine

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

That's actually a possibility we considered but she has complained before when she didn't like a wine or food we served. So we thought it unlikely; she's not the type of person to let courtesy trump displeasure when it comes to her inner food critic (and that's where she's most snobby is about food and drink). We did choose a really delicious wine though from the supermarket. It's one of our favorite cheap ones: only 1400 yen! 😅 Maybe it tastes expensive.

For caviar, I don't know if I can describe it in a pleasant way to someone who has never had it but it explodes with a savory taste, like a gummy shell with liquid explosion inside but salty and slightly fishy. On the flip side, if you like sunny side up eggs, the yolk also explodes with some savory liquid goodness if you put salt on it. Not so different in texture except smaller and the liquid itself is quite salty so there's no need to add salt. It goes really well as a condiment on toasted bread with butter.

I could eat it by the spoonfuls except if it was coming out of my pocket, I'd be panicking like, "One spoonful... that was probably like $100. Maybe one more... $200... OMG! I need to stop! Just one more!" But I like it when it's at someone else's expense like a friend's wedding party or a formal business party. Then I'm hogging the caviar!

[7Phoenix7]

Okay, yes hahaha, she didn't notice a difference. She would have said something lol.

Okay, so I do like sunny side up eggs. With salt and pepper. So if the texture is somewhat similar then that's not so bad. I can imagine it being good with toast. $100 for a spoonful though? Yikesss lol

[Sirenboobzilla]

Cute, but too short.

I had gone to a friend's party. And part way through the night, I was sitting down having a drink and munching on some fries. He spots me and comes to talk. He noticed me wearing a Nightwish shirt and came to comment on it. We had talked for a few minutes back and forth about the band, our favorite songs, and the just kept the conversation going through other topics. I remember thinking he was really cute; had a very nice smile and soft eyes. But, as cuteness goes, he was almost eye level with me while I was sitting down and him standing up. Nonetheless, he seemed to take an interest in what I had to say and made me laugh a lot. He had to leave since he had work the next day, but before he did he asked me out for coffee so we could talk more.

I now find myself with a man 7 inches shorter than me who I love with all my heart ❤️ 🥰

[7Phoenix7]

Loved this, and it's a perfect example of height not being the utmost important. Happy you found him, haha

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

“Wow, what a good looking guy, he’s so tall and wow, his shoulders! His face looks cute, haha, I think he’s looking at me and trying to do so without me noticing, how cute, hope It’s not obvious I am amused. I think he likes me.

Oh no, I am smiling,

He’s coming to me…. What to do? I’ll pretend I was not looking at him…

Sh*t, I waved at him. How the hell that happened? Did my hand just wave without my permission?”

My first thoughts when I first saw him.

He came to me and asked “May I sit at your table? I want to ask you something”

I hesitated and then looked at his eyes,

there he was standing tall and smiling to me the way, that I could not say “No”.

We were together for 3.5 years.

He told me when he saw me he told himself - I might have been the love of his life and he couldn’t risk losing me by being a coward and not approach.

[7Phoenix7]

Haha, the fact that he didn't know you were thinking good things about him before he made the brave move to approach 😄 cute

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

😄 Yep haha

[Artificial Intelligence]

Ah, first impressions, the sneak peek into the rollercoaster ride of love! When I first met my now wife, I thought she was out of my league - like, seriously, she had this aura about her that screamed "I'm too cool for school". Took a bit of courage (and maybe a dash of foolish bravery) to dive into that conversation. It's funny how we can be so quick to slap on a label, only to find out there's so much more beneath the surface, right? And look at us now, navigating the thrilling adventure of marriage together. I'd love to hear more about your first encounters turned love stories (or lessons learned). Let's spill the tea on those initial vibes! 😉

[Simslover92]

@LoveDoctorBrad you're married? Lol

[7Phoenix7]

@Simslover92 that's what I said in my head lol

[Simslover92]

@7Phoenix7 lol

[MushyKiwi]

dang its pretty bad when an A. I can pull people and I can't ꒰ ˶u m u˶꒱

[OlderAndWiser]

I thought she was difficult to understand.

I later learned I was right!

[7Phoenix7]

Hahaha, is it your current partner?

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes. We are getting maried on April 27.

[7Phoenix7]

Awww wow, congratulations!

[Yannae]

It all happened on a sunny Thursday. I travel a while by bus. I'm stuck there for an hour and half, maybe two. Because my workplace was pretty far from home and I had to get up early, it was perfect to unwind. You put music on and you just enjoy the long ride.

On this day it was pretty crowded. No seats were available so I sat on a place behind the seats where you can place your bags. It was gonna be a long ride, I thought. And it was, because I spotted her. Stunner. Beautiful tall woman, with that seductive sexy look in her eyes as her default expression, staring outside.

First impression then was just my heart beating like crazy and my mind going mad "HOT DAMN DO I TALK TO HER? SO MANY PEOPLE. SHE IS GONNA HAUNT ME FOR DAYS OR WEEKS IF I DONT. SHOULD I? IS SHE GONNA SHOOT ME DOWN LIKE OTHERS WHO MAY HAVE APPROACHED HER? SHE IS LEAVING. CRAP CRAP CRAP. AAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!" And I went after her.

I was welcomed with a smile and we chatted for a bit before she went home. I had to wait for another bus and had no time to do pretty much anything anymore once I got home, but it was worth it. Not only was she hot af, she was also sweet and her energy calmed me down lol

[7Phoenix7]

That was so cute. So you got her number before you left I'm assuming lol

[Yannae]

Yes I have!

[mono_gram]

Tbh I don’t really remember/I don’t think I had much of an impression. We were following each other on instagram years before we even knew each other and then later on we happened to have a class together, which then I was like “ah so that’s who he is…” Before then, I knew we went to the same school and even were same major but in different years. (I wouldn’t say that I stalked him but I did look at his instagram/stories with a curious mind.)

He was also the the one to dm me first on instagram, to which I was like “hmm either he has some intention or this is kinda sus…”

And the funny thing is, he told me that at first he thought I was scary/intimidating most likely because I sort of have rdf (resting dead face).

[NewUser22]

My ex girlfriend in high my first impression of her was that she was super cute but a couple of years younger so I felt weird pursuing her. I also wasn’t sure how it would work physically because I didn’t want to pressure her into anything she wasn’t ready to do yet so I really connected with her on a non physical level first and that was really good for us. Then as her and I got really comfortable with each other we started experimenting with various things because she wasn’t ready to go all the way yet and that was okay because what we were doing was plenty fun.

[NewUser22]

In an unrelated story… I miss you @7Phoenix7 😭😭

[7Phoenix7]

Lol cure. That reminds me of this guy I had a crush on in hs. I was in ninth grade and he was in 11th. He said I was like a little sister 😭

[7Phoenix7]

Sorry I meant *cute

[NewUser22]

@7Phoenix7 that’s the same age difference we were. Oh damn that must have been brutal to hear! If only he knew what you were going to blossom into!

[7Phoenix7]

Lol‎ ‎

[NewUser22]

Or if he knew what you were gonna look like in those short shorts 😉

[IslaTheWitch]

lmao...

so I chatted with him online and talked by the phone over four months when we finally decided to meet in person

so just imagine a guy who looks like a cherub... fucking curly, longer hair, chubby face, wide smile and...

pollen in the air...

and he is mega super duper allergic...

so looking into his wetty eyes I didn't see his hair, his hands, him at all... I saw only those eyes and my first thought was he looks like a frog

:D

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Ahahaha, that last line made me laugh so hard

[7Phoenix7]

Lmaoo I needed that laugh

[Laciejordan]

I thought he was very good looking but seemed shy, I’m also very shy, so I thought how are we possibly gonna meet? Luckily, I was able to meet him through a friend and the moment we talked to each other, the chemistry was undeniable. By the end of the night we made plans for a date, which turned out to be a total disaster, but that’s for another day!

[7Phoenix7]

Oh man, wasn't expecting that last part lol

[Laciejordan]

We were going to go to a dinner theater. I was looking forward to it, but after he picked me up, he hit a deer about 4 miles from my place. He couldn’t get his headlights to work, so he drove back to my place with his hazards on. We ordered food and watched movies. He did spend the night (on my couch). I sometimes wonder if hitting the deer was a blessing in disguise, because by the next morning I felt I was in love with him. Who knows if it would have ended like that had he not hit the deer.

[7Phoenix7]

Wow, poor deer. I hope it was okay and glad you guys didn't hurt. I guess it was blessing though lol.

[bobalife]

Last partner… Early 20s first meeting’s impression: can’t remember I was drunk af at the party😅😂


Late 20s Second meeting’s impression: can’t remember I was taken and only see who I’m with lol


30, third meeting’s first impression: “Damn, he’s really hot, I see him starring at me too… but I am in Mexico and wanna meet Mexican guys in Mexico” 😂 until he changed my mind

[7Phoenix7]

Aw, damn. Did he traumatize you? Lol

[bobalife]

Traumatize me on third meeting? Lol. No, he changed my mind about wanting to meet Mexican guys from Mexico 😂 it was magical and beautiful time in Mexico with him.

[7Phoenix7]

Ohh I see lol 😂

[Purpleronnie]

I thought she was a very natural , grounded woman. Easy to talk to , easy to get along with but also very independent and strong. Turns out my perception of her was on the money completely and we are 13 years now in a strong supportive and loving relationship. I had all but given up after many previous relationships ending for a variety of reasons with the common thread that they were they were the source of the issues. That might sound implausible but it’s true , I have the scars to prove it.

[7Phoenix7]

Wow, awesome

[Ms_Facesitter]

He hit me with the 'Excuse me' and complimented me. He's a cute guy, beautiful smile, beautiful eyes. There are good looking guys who are really confident and hit you with the "hey girl" "hey baby" and all that. Not him though. He was actually a bit shaky in his voice at first. I found it cute. It looked like an introvert facing his fear to talk to people. Ends up actually being an introvert like me, but that's besides the point. I think I have a weakness for the more shy guys.

[Wallythewalrus2]

I was instantly smitten with her but she couldn’t stand me! I know, hard to believe, right? Sure, she thought I was gorgeous but she thought I was arrogant and obnoxious.

[7Phoenix7]

Hahaha lol

[rachel776]

well he was nice enough but i wasn't interested and made him wait around for a year, now i wish i hadn't done

[7Phoenix7]

Awww

[LazerBean]

The first time we saw each other was way back when we were in middle school. My first impression of him was that he was smart and cool.

[7Phoenix7]

Nice, and you two are together currently?

[LazerBean]

Yes, married for four years

[7Phoenix7]

Wow, love it 👍

[Miah04]

My first impression was back in middle school. I found her annoying at first😂she was in 6th and i was in 7th.

But we became besties shortly after that

[7Phoenix7]

Lol That's cute 🩷

[Miah04]

How long you been with your partner?

[7Phoenix7]

Oh we're not together anymore he's my ex ol

[7Phoenix7]

*lol

[Miah04]

Aww. Did he end up being a player after all?

[7Phoenix7]

No not a player lol

[Miah04]

Okie. I was gonna beat him up.
I know he made he fumbled you

[Miah04]

*Mad*

[7Phoenix7]

Lol 🩷🩷

[Simslover92]

I thought he was so sweet and such a gentlemen. He held the umbrella for me when we first met. Such a sweetheart. *swooning*

[7Phoenix7]

That is sweet 😊

[Jersey2]

I couldn’t believe my eyes. She was gorgeous… and I had dated some really good looking women but OMG!

[7Phoenix7]

Lol she must have been gorgeous

[Jersey2]

Yeah, and to think she didn’t like me when we met… but now we are married so I showed her. :D

[7Phoenix7]

Awww, so cute lol

[Joshydavid25]

I just thought that she was sexy, but kinda crazy... Turns out I wasn't wrong, but it was fun while it lasted nonetheless.. LOL..

[7Phoenix7]

Lol what was crazy about her?

[Joshydavid25]

Just a few things, I don't like to talk bad or air her laundry honestly.. Except for calling her crazy.. LOL..

[7Phoenix7]

Yes, understandable. Good on you for that. I've dealt with a little lot of bit of crazy too. Lol

[Joshydavid25]

Nah, forget that I was trying to be nice to the b@$ch!.. JK.. 😂.. She did keep my clothes though and still has them and we haven't seen each other in almost 2 years and spoken in over 1.. So who knows what she did with them. LOL.. But I'm sure you have.. How long ago did you break up with your highschool sweetheart?

[7Phoenix7]

Lmao.. you sure you weren't the crazy one? 😜

A couple years ago. But it feels not so long ago since I still dealt with the shenanigans afterwards.

[Joshydavid25]

We were both crazy honestly, but her a little bit more.. Lmao..

Damn, yeah the aftermath always gets the best of us... LOL..

[laly520]

how friendly n kind he was
also very funny, loved his jokes

[7Phoenix7]

Still together?

[laly520]

yes still together

[7Phoenix7]

Sweet 😊

[12karen]

My ex partner, I was like, omg who's that guy, why haven't I noticed him earlier, what his name, 🥲😍

[12karen]

my heart started beating fast and I couldn't concentrate on what I was doing, I couldn't take my eyes off of him, it was totally like a flash that passed in front of my eyes, and I fell
Fell in love

[7Phoenix7]

Yea that instant and strong attraction. How did you end up talking to him?

[12karen]

I was so shocked by him that my friend noticed that I totally zoned out, it turns out that her bro was friends with him and the bro told him, anyway, I was rather obv when I noticed for the first time, he noticed that I was staring at him, and then there was my friend's bro who told him that I was into him, then little by little we got closer and it was is put spoke

[7Phoenix7]

Haha, that's cute 🙃

[Nikki1989]

He was charming and hilarious at the same time.

[7Phoenix7]

Are you guys still together?

[elaphe]

I thought she had nice legs and pretty red hair.

[7Phoenix7]

Red hair is so pretty

[elaphe]

Hers was long and curly at the ends.

[7Phoenix7]

Beautiful