Should women take more leadership roles in relationships?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

From my experiences with girls’ a majority of them want to be with a man she can look up to that takes the lead , Most females want to feel safe and protected by her man , she is drawn to his masculine energy that she doesn’t have within herself , if she doesn’t feel safe and protected by him , she will eventually leave him or cheat on him with another man. I been the other guy a handful of times and when I asked these girls’ why they cheated on her partner with me , she confessed that he is weak and she doesn’t feel safe and protected by him. and that he treats her like shit , At first I thought these girls’ were blowing smoke up my ass , but sadly they all pretty much had the same answer. I also been with girls’ that have a dominate side to them , that do try to take the lead and try to take control over the relationship, The best match for her is for her to find a Simp , a guy that will tolerate her taking the lead , a guy that will constantly kiss her ass , she would have a longer relationship with a guy like that. Me personally, will not stay with a girl that tries to control me and tries to tell me what I can and can not do that doesn’t have any respect or dignity for me but only for herself , a girl that doesn’t follow boundaries the same way she expects me to follow them for her losing a girl like that , is no loss what so ever and no skin off my back , the other guy or girl can have her. So it mainly comes down to what kind of guy you are. Me personally loves submissive girls’ a girl that is submissive to me , a girl that stays loyal and faithful to me , a girl that respects me and appreciates me , She has a way better chance of having a long term relationship with me , a girl that wants to bring happiness into my life , not misery a girl that will speak highly of me and has no problem showing me off to her friends a girl that chooses me over her friends. If I sense that a girl has dominant traits insiide her , and she comes off like she is a dude like Tom boyish more than a girl , I won’t want anything to do with her , I might fuck her, but I won’t commit to her. It’s just my preference and what I prefer. So my advice to all guys’ is to truly figure out who you truly are as a man , before jumping into a relationship with a girl , before having your heart broken or strung along by a girl , that truly doesn’t value you or appreciate you and isn’t meant for you. Why I no longer jump into relationships with girls’ until I really get to know her and figure out what she really wants in a relationship. Most girls’ say they want love and commitment that say they want a guy that stays loyal and faithful to her , that will keep her safe and protected that wants a partner that has her back like he has hers , and yes that’s what I want as well , but sadly most girls’ are liars, because they really don’t know what they want , they think they do but they don’t , if a girl holds her hand out to me asking for money and she doesn’t have a job an no ambition and can’t support herself , kick her to the curb where she belongs , she isn’t a partner she is a user , so another reason I no longer jump into a committed relationship with a girl , why I no longer jump into a committed relationship with a girl , I prefer Girls’ that know that they are girls’ that have more of a girly side to her , that like to wear dresses or mini skirts that love to wear sexy shoes , that love to wear lingerie or thongs , a girl that has no doubts about wanting to please me , that can’t wait to be in my arms , a girl that makes me her number 1 priority that wants the same in return , A girl that works with you not against you , she understands money doesn’t grow on tress and that she is perfectly capable of providing for herself. When I find a girl like that, I do my best to keep her by my side. A dominate girl wants things to go her way or no way She will eventually belittle you, criticize you , compare you to other men , she will prioritize her girl friends over you and tell
You to eliminate your friends for her , she will show a lot of selfish traits and behaviors making you think maybe she might be Gay lr bisexual she just didn’t come out of the closet yet , That’s a girl that turns me off Why it’s important to tell a girl what you are really looking for for and what you will and will not tolerate in a relationship from the beginning , by being honest with her , if you lie to her , then you are an idiot that dug your own grave , if a girl can’t handle your honesty , then she isn’t the girl for you period I don’t care how hot she looks , do not waste your time on a girl that can’t be honest and respectful to you. If she chooses to lie from the beginning, then she just dug her own grave as well. Again , I am only giving advice based off of my own personal experiences, only you can decide what you like and don’t like. Never risk shit for a girl that isn’t risking shit for you , find a partner , not a user

Lliam · Accepted Answer

It goes against my grain to be bossed around by anybody. I don't like authority. If something doesn't make sense to me, I won't do it. I wouldn't expect a woman to bow to authoritarianism, either.

Does my masculine size and strength mean that I am also the most logical and practical? Does it give me the right to act like I'm the law?

I don't see any reason for either party in a relationship to have executive power. I don't tell my wife what to do and she certainly doesn't tell me what to do.

My wife doesn't follow me blindly like an obedient pet dog. In fact, the word she uses most often is "Why?"
We make decisions together. It's not that hard. We respect each other's intellect, logic and opinions.

I'm fine with a stubborn woman. I think when they pose like this it's both funny and scary.

Should women take more leadership roles in relationships?

electromagnetic · Accepted Answer

I think relationships are about working together with your partner. Not about who can lead whom. If I look, he’ll clean. Leading and following is me leading blindly and him following blindly without judgement then him getting upset when we are both lost.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

Relationships shouldn’t be about “leadership” they should be about “partnership” (hence the term “my partner”)

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the classic dance of leadership and love. Well, let me sprinkle some of that relationship magic your way. In the grand ballroom of love and relationships, it's all about the steps you take together, not who leads more. See, the beauty of a partnership is in its balance. Sometimes, she'll lead with a cha-cha of decision-making, and other times, he might take the reins with a tango of planning. What really spices up the relationship salsa is communication, understanding, and mutual support. So, should women take more leadership roles? If it twirls the skirt of happiness and keeps the music going, why not? Remember, it's not about who leads but how you dance together. 💃🕺

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OlderAndWiser · Answer

I thought you were a MAN! If this is what you want, you can have my share! :) :) :)

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I'm a very good leader cause I was persecuted so much in my child hood that I grew up with dynamite courage. If somebody stuck a gun to my head I would not be scared. It's gotten me no where with guys cause guys like to be the strong one and the protector and they want their women weaker so they can feel needed.

Avicenna · Answer

it's whatever both are comfortable with

GuyAnswersGirls123 · Answer

Ideally I think both the husband and wife are capable and responsible leaders so that they can perform each other's leadership roles when the other is away, incapacitated, or dead, as with the case of a captain and first officer. The leadership skills are useful to make them both capable parents as well.

However, I don't believe in "partnerships" without any hierarchy because they lack an effective means of conflict resolution when conflicts cannot be negotiated away. I suspect couples who live in partnerships for too long will tend to work towards an unresolvable conflict given the missing leader to make executive decisions, and they might very well find that missing leader in the form of a judge in a divorce court.

So just as I don't think it's optimal to have two captains of a ship, or two first officers and no captain, I don't think it's optimal for a household to be absent a designated leader. It helps tremendously for conflict resolution to have a responsible leader who will say, "All right, after carefully listening to everyone's ideas, I have decided to select this one as our family's course of action. However, in exchange, I will do everything I can to suffer the consequences of those decisions. I will not fault any of you or transfer needless burdens to you if my executive decision backfires. I will be the first to die if someone has to die."

Typically I think the analogical captain should be the man since many women seem to be disappointed if they have the ultimate leadership burden dumped on them to lead, protect, and provide for their family, and men often end up losing a lot of their sense of self-worth with that lesser responsibility. However, if women don't mind the greater burdens associated and their men don't mind the lesser responsibility, more power to them.

In my particular case with my wife, she voluntarily trusts me to make the executive decisions and that makes it easier for me to take on the ultimate responsibility to protect and provide for my family. However, she is very much like my first officer and most trusted advisor, and is to replace me as the metaphorical captain when I'm away, incapacitated, or dead, and it comforts me a lot in those cases that I married a capable leader to look out for herself and our family.

HawkPerception · Answer

I believe in partnership. If you're making a decision with where you want to live, it should be a joint decision. Same thing with stuff like where you want to vacation next, how you should raise your kids, where you should go out to eat, if you should get a pet... pretty much everything.

I believe that traditional relationships can also have the partnership dynamic, where the woman stays at home and handles the cooking and cleaning and the man is the breadwinner, but they both have input in decisions.

So no matter what kind of relationship you have, it should be a partnership and not one person makes all the calls.

But that's just my opinion of an ideal relationship dynamic. Everyone has their own ideals and anything can work.

laurlaur101 · Answer

The guy should be initiating and doing the chasing that’s what they were built to do by god.
God knows best. Ladies do not approach them. I’d say it’s ok to initiate conversations because they are shy but at the same time it’s up to them to ask you out and contact you further. That’s how I see things. I feel like it’s a masculine thing to do. Ladies we are the prize we need hunted down.
Once a partnership is started things should be equal don’t let the guy do things all the time and be one sided but just in the beginning he needs something to chase or else he will lose interest can’t give in to anything too quickly the chase is over there’s no more mystery.

blueonblack22 · Answer

Most men are not comfortable with this and nor are women. You can’t defy thousands of years of evolution overnight.

But men are getting squashed and confused by society if they straight up day “men should lead”. Many women silently believe this was well but are afraid to speak up about it.

I have briefly dated some domineering women in the past. Initially it was a huge relief because they remove all the guesswork out of everything. It was nice to have them plan dates, pay their tabs (sometimes mine as well) and speak their minds. They often initiated sex which was also nice. They also spoke up directly when they didn’t want it. I knew exactly were I stood. That was huge relief.

But as time went on they acted really controlling and critical. That was a huge turn off and I didn’t tolerate it long. I never stayed in long term relationship with a controlling woman.

Simslover92 · Answer

No. I'm very traditional and I believe the man should take the lead in a relationship. Women should just make suggestions like for example my boyfriend is talking about moving out of the state and I want to move with him. I made a suggestion for places that could be but ultimately he chooses where we will go based on the job he is able to get. I will get a job wherever he goes.

Curmudgeon · Answer

I get why this might appeal to some men, even many men, but the reality is that most women are not like this at all, and the ones that are would only use and abuse and ruin the guy, emotionally, spiritually, financially and even perhaps physically. I have opined on this before, so let me just link. (Some of these were off-the-wall crazy and typical men would never go this far, but the underlying problems and objections I have are the same:

How many boys call their girlfriend "mommy". Is it really that normal?

robhazelnut · Answer

Leadership is choosing to be the first to walk into new territory while others choose to follow of their own accord. It is often mistaken to mean management or control, which is really the opposite, involving staying behind on a high horse. Generally, women feel less able to thrive or even survive alone, and though leadership isn't necessarily solitary, by it's nature it involves being the first to take what comes in that direction. True leadership is usually more difficult for them due to their teamwork- or even parasitic-orientation.

Mr_twoface · Answer

My view is that in many of todays modern relationships, couples strive for equality where both partners share leadership roles and responsibilities. One partner may naturally take on a leadership role in certain areas due to their strengths or interests, whilst the other takes the role in other areas. Its all about complementing each other's abilities.

No couple is equal and hence not all changes fits everyone. No matter the dynamic one has in a relationship and whether or not one should take on a more leadership role should be based on mutual agreement, respect for each other's strengths and preferences, and the unique dynamics of the relationship.

silyt_ghoest · Answer

masculists are the reason america is failing! Go back to traditional america. and get to the kitchen, man! CAWWWWWWWWWW! (the idea that men are better than women or vice versa is a relatively new concept, and the way people make it seem like it always was, was exceptionally rare. Also, if my man doesn't take my last name, his sister will, so...(Kidding))

RingOfFire · Answer

Wow! 64% of women say men should take the leadership role?

Where are these women hiding?

Is there some remote island in the Pacific with wifi that they are voting from?

Maybe they are in an underground bunker in an undisclosed location?

If they ever showed their faces in public the feminazis would have a cow!

Justneedtokno · Answer

There is a video that I saw the other day Where the woman was just like Women went to get jobs because a man said it was too hard to carry the load of providing. Then women started, asking men out because men were afraid to ask women out for insecurities. Then women started proposing to because it was taking too long for them to get married. At the end of the video she was just like what do you want from us? We’re trying to do everything to keep you, but you don’t want us.

Siri137 · Answer

No, because I don't believe any relationship that involves only two people requires that one of them be a "leader". Why? Why would that ever be necessary?

livin_hi_808 · Answer

Uhmmm, I haven't been on in quite a while but I remember you having better questions and topics.

Those 2 options are too closed minded and toxic for me. Option 3: a romantic relationship is a partnership and each person should be yoked accordingly. In reality, as long as there's a balance and respect, then there shouldn't be any problems for either to stay in their respective lanes

IslaTheWitch · Answer

For ages, it has happened. So what is the problem here?

thatshydork · Answer

I think that should depend solely on the relationship dynamic, not on which partner is which sex. If it feels more natural to the couple to have a certain person in the relationship take charge in their relationship, then fine. Who cares which gender they identify as? And if someone outside the relationship cares, why should the couple care about what that person thinks? The only thing that truly matters is that the relationship is a happy and healthy one.

sawno · Answer

To me it's ideal if we are on equal footing, I am perfectly capable and willing to lead but if she doesn't speak up and let me know what direction she wants i'd walk all over her. Likewise I know there's girls out there that are frustrated guys always do whatever the suggest or want, those girls would be a good fit for me since they are also looking for that balance of mutual direction.

RavVid · Answer

Define leadership. In my observation guys and gals take leadership in different areas. The girl most likely will take leadership in social aspects and within the house and the guy in other important areas.

I have no ambition to take leadership on color schemes.

genericname85 · Answer

well if women actually wanna be seen as "equal", they'd better take a lot more responsibility. because that's the one thing they hate to be equal. they want all the good shit but avoid the negative things like the plague.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Yes, if they want to, but a girl doesn’t have to have masculine traits to be a leader

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

No, unpopular opinion but I lead in every aspect of my life. I’d love to find someone who I trust and have them lead so I can in a careless peaceful feminine energy.

2237260 · Answer

Most relationships today are controlled by a woman. Men are weak today and cannot be the leaders God calls them to be. Most men follow the woman around. She runs the show.

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

This why social media needs to be cut off completely. Femenist influencers on tik tok and other social apps promote this. I am glad tik tok will be banned inthe U. S. thank God.

Anonymous · Answer

im a traditional mindset, hence i would say, NO. Man up and take the lead, but im not saying woman can just shake their leg and do ntg, but at least, man shld know what they shld do

SolitarySolace · Answer

Hell no. That would only happen if majority of men become feminine and majority of women become masculine. What good would that do anyone?

kuzgunsteele · Answer

Leadership roles in relationships require balance and harmony between partners. Every relationship is different, and leadership roles are shaped by the couple's dynamics. The important thing is to achieve mutual respect and balance in communication.

Anonymous · Answer

Instinctually, no, but it really depends on what you mean by leadership.

If two like minded people as a couple seek to divide up life tasks depending on their strengths and comfort levels, and to the betterment of both of their long term future, I'm really not sure it matters.

CheeseMonster · Answer

If they want to. Nobody should feel forced or obligated into a certain role in their own relationship. That sounds horrible. Find someone who you work well with naturally, so you're both happy and fulfilled in the relationship.

mobiusforniner · Answer

There are many women who are resilient and capable leaders. However, generally speaking, no woman respects a man who is non committal and unable to make decisions. It’s impossible to love someone you don’t respect.

QuickToAsk · Answer

Should women take more leadership roles in relationships? If she's not doing that already, then yes. Both the man & the woman should be doing that. I never understood this whole idea of man roles & woman roles. To me, they're just roles.

Anonymous · Answer

Should be equal, except in the bedroom, where she should be submissive

Mariena_Anne92 · Answer

Both party need to work together to make relations works

Anonymous · Answer

I can’t stand a man who can’t (or won’t) take the lead in a relationship. That’s the type of man my dad is, unfortunately. Therefore, I can’t be with a man like that.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

No, a woman that leads the relationship doesn't respect her man, and will probably cheat if she got the chance.. With a more dominant man.. Most women don't want a man they have to lead.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Some men are just big insecure babies, so they need some mothering in their lives.

NathanDavis · Answer

people do as they wish, when they're truly happy

Nifrayu · Answer

I guess so. I prefer my relationships without a leadership role.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Women already lead most relationships, whether the guys realize it or not.

Unit1 · Answer

I heard that if women do that, they'll lose respect for their guy and will get weak on their knees for another man, that leads and tells her what to do. Basically its a ticket to get cheated on.

strateguy632 · Answer

not exactly but suggestions good. initiating when she 'in the mood" would help communication.

DreamLife7 · Answer

Marriage is called a partnership and men should lead the household

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

No. And most men can't lead right anyways so it's going to go bad either way.

sheenagwapa · Answer

i'm my own person. i don't think i'm so smart, i'm even weak physically and i am sickly but i am my own person

Hansomedevil69 · Answer

I don’t like either answer, it should be 50/50. I would think both should take turns doing what they want.

Dargil · Answer

Given the modern scene, it would be good for women to initiate the dating process and initiate sexual intimacy.

serious_miss419 · Answer

A woman and a man cannot be compared in the sense that one is always going to be not like the other. We can relate to other animals more than one another it seems. Don’t sweat it.

Wiredone · Answer

I agree with @brainsbeforebeauty. A relationship should be a partnership. You both make decisions equally. That's how it is in my marriage.

LadyKitty · Answer

Best solution relationships should be equal!

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Simply put, I'd get bored very quickly if she was anything other than my equal.

thundercloud · Answer

I think men and women be partners and work together as a team

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I think so because there are men who are shy and have trouble taking leadership with a woman.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Sure if it works for them as people. Some women have more leadership / interest in leading then some men and that's perfectly fine.

DextroShade · Answer

Absolutely not! Women aren't meant to be leaders because leadership requires masculine qualities such as direct communication, decisiveness, being disagreeable, and taking accountability.

jimmy2 · Answer

Time to stop hight count that just really makes you a lose girl

Jennz6 · Answer

It’s in a man’s DNA to be the leader and make decisions.

MysticDevice · Answer

You're confusing "should" with "can". The individual must prove they have the ability. Ability trumps everything else.

SotiCoto · Answer

It isn't my place to dictate what women should or shouldn't do... at least as long as it doesn't involve me.

Anonymous · Answer

That's like asking should men make effort towards whale pigs. Of you're bringing bologna to the table, you can't expect the other person to bring steak.

In other words this is a case by case matter coach.

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