Would you tell your partner if you kissed someone else while drunk or in other situations and regretted it later?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Yes , unless you like being in relationships based off of lies , that’s up to you , It’s better to be honest with your partner if you want your partner to be honest with you. especially if you knew it was wrong to begin with , and you know you wouldn’t allow it to happen again , if you allow it to happen again , then you should really reconsider your relationship with your partner and realize you truly don’t love and care about them , especially if you can easily cheat on them. There were times I was in a relationship with a girl and I was at a party or a club drinking with friends and some random girl would come up to me and say hi to me , and go in for a kiss , pretty much catching me off guard , at that moment I was caught off guard , I would stop her immediately and say sorry but I am already involved with someone else but thank you I am flattered that you approached me , and leave it at that , you are only wrong , if you allow the kiss to continue and you continue making out with them. If you do that , then the right thing to do , is to tell your partner the truth and end your relationship with them right Then and there, because if you truly loved your partner to begin with you wouldn't t continue kissing that other person period. I don’t care how drunk you are , that’s still not an excuse. For your actions . When you allow someone to take advantage of you, you are a selfish person that only cares about yourself , you truly don’t love your partner. You just like the convenience of them Not only are you lying to your partner , you are lying to yourself as well. People that can easily cheat on their partners’ should not be in a relationship period , Cheating is a selfish act , you can’t expect someone to be faithful and honest with you, if you can’t be faithful and honest with them period. Keeping secrets from your partner is only hurting yourself , Do you really want to stay with someone that you are constantly lying to? You will never be happy and content within yourself and in your relationship if you constantly keep secrets from your partner , That’s what they call Fake Love. People that can do that to their partner can be in that relationship all by themselves because they only care about themselves

RebelinSteel · Accepted Answer

No as if I was drunk enough to kiss someone, I would likely not remember it happening. One of the worst things is being drunk single, the girl knowing you are single, then kissing them, they then assume you are interested and expect to date you.

the conversation after that is along lines of,

so are we dating,

no I was drunk,

so you would only kiss me when drunk,

noo it’s just I was drunk,

so you would not kiss when when sober,

yes I would,

go on prove it

… fuck.

Caroline91 · Accepted Answer

No. Absolutely not. But I would reevaluate my relationship. If I'm kissing other guys, drunk or not, I need to look inside for why I would do that because it is a form of cheating. I would not tell my partner because I don't see my own feelings of guilt as a good reason to hurt him. But, I would either break off the relationship before I got physical with someone else again, or I would decide I wanted to stay with my partner and fix whatever caused me to behave like that to ensure it wouldn't ever happen again. I would start by making sure I didn't allow myself to get drunk and do stupid things like that in the future. And if I were in a committed relationship, then I know myself well enough to know that I wouldn't be kissing some other guy unless I was drunk or high and my inhibitions were low. And ultimately I would use the experience as a course correction and be looking to see if there were any other ways that I wasn't giving him the full love and respect he deserves and correcting that, too. Now after saying all of that, I realize that I would have to tell him because of how much more hurtful it would be if he heard about it from someone else. So, either way, he's going to be hurt and I would hate that. I think I would have to frame it that I did something really, really stupid by letting myself get drunk and kissing another guy, but that I have realized how much my actions would hurt him and that I don't want to be kissing anyone but him. I would take accountability for my actions. I would tell him how awful it was because it wasn't him I was kissing and ask for his forgiveness. Then I would outline the things I said above to address what happened and make sure it would never happen again because I love him and he deserves better. And I would have to accept whatever his reaction was because I caused the whole situation. I would ask him what he needed from me to start reestablishing trust again and then I would follow whatever he said to the T for as long as he needed me to do it. And, finally, I would consider myself a very lucky woman if he decided to stay with me.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

He and i had this conversation last night. I dont drink and he's almost 4 months sober. But he's hangin around guys who constantly drink and may peer pressure him to. I told him if he ever did something sexual while drunk, he can either tell me the deets or not but that he better be tested if he chooses not to tell me. And if he does tell me, we won't be together unless he was drugged

AviatorTom · Answer

Nope, that would only cause her hurt and possibly distrust. It's my mistake, and I would make sure I wouldn't do it again.

Apple1996 · Answer

I never drink so I wouldn't have this issue

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I'm really sorry here for judging, but I fail to see why so many people actually have to even answer this.

I mean, I know I'm not perfect. Far FAR from it, but come on. I think shame on ANYONE who gets so blind drunk they can't control themselves enough not to kiss other people!

molonski2 · Answer

I would council anyone who says YES ! The answer is NO way , it doesn't matter , you can't change it , it didn't mean anything , why would anyone want to own up? Absolute total denial , and if a photo were produced " Look , honestly , I dont remember that at all " , thats not me , its a fake piccie , I was so intoxicated , brush it aside = denial , until you believe it yourself.

AaronKrieger · Answer

No, some things are better left unsaid and  you would only be telling them to help yourself feel better . It does not do them any good unless you are telling them so that she hears it from you, since you know someone else is probably going to tell her.

desidoll · Answer

I actually did that one time. This was before I get married to him. I was not drunk. Just caught at the moment. I confessed to him and let him decide if he is willing to accept my apology.

NathanDavis · Answer

not like I would ever do that, but yes... if it happened, I would let them know I made a mistake

dustybiker2 · Answer

I would never put myself into that situation. If I was kissed I would be taken advantage off, been otherwise out of it. Sickness or something. I don't drink but infrequent wine glass through the year and can't even take tylenol.

JacobJordan · Answer

Not something either of us will ever have to deal with. We don't drink enough to get drunk. Heck we don't even drink enough to be intoxicated or tipsy. We have 1 maybe 2 drinks a few times a year

sawno · Answer

Of course, I am loyal to a partner so she would know. Only way I can clear what I have done is to be honest and ask her forgiveness.

Account · Answer

Yes, I would tell them and I would tell them to break up with me after what I did. If they wouldn't, I would break up with them instead.
I wouldn't want to be forgiven, if I ever reached to that point.

Nikki1989 · Answer

We discuss everything we do, but it not like kissing counts for much.

HelpfulWoman · Answer

yes. if i was dumb enough to drink that much and cheat, i should at least be honest about it.

Bricealan · Answer

Heck no. How harmless was that anyway. I was that on Sex And The City.

Drew-1990 · Answer

Yes I would, I could never keep that secret. Even a kiss is wrong when you are with someone. I don't care if I was drunk or not she would deserve to know.

Yannae · Answer

Of course. If I don't, I don't love her enough to even do that. And where is the self respect if you don't?

deus_ex_sisyphus · Answer

I did in the past, and my partner at the time one-upped me and the relationship spiraled. I'm not sure I'd go down that path another time

Anonymous · Answer

It’s fine. You can definitely tell her but she should be drunk when you tell her

ballweevil · Answer

probably, bcs without honesty, any relationship will never succeed, even if price is break up, because i did mistake so should pay the price

Vermillion30 · Answer

I don’t drink, Nor would I put myself in that situation, If I’m dating/Married.

Kelly6 · Answer

@elena_stewart  im always honest with my husband and so is he

andreasderjuengere · Answer

For this to happen, I must be so drunk that I can't remember it myself. = nothing to confess, until accused :)

Tegaknowss · Answer

Can't relate. Why get drunk in the first place when you know you'll be prone to doing something stupid?  And wether you keep it a secret, the truth will eventually come out, in one way or another.

rachel776 · Answer

no and he wouldn't be bothered by it

Anonymous · Answer

That wouldn't happen so it's not a relevant question to me.

lilBigPotato · Answer

Depends on my partner I guess

LaurenM1997 · Answer

No because it wouldn’t happen

Massageman · Answer

Sorry, I don;t get drunk.

Squatting_Slav · Answer

Yes she would 100% deserve to know

OtterMan68 · Answer

yes, honesty is the best policy

jahaims · Answer

I would never cheat because I'm not trash

Jennz6 · Answer

Yes, ngl

MissBoogus · Answer

Yes .

MrDaveAPSI · Answer

yeah

LunarEclipse433 · Answer

For me probably not

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