He actually doesn't look me in the eye when talking but glances from time to time and acts normal in person but when we send messages, we are really sweet. I mean he tells me where he went sometimes and also when i invited him to go out after holy week, he said sure, then told me he'll be in his hometown from march so and so till this date. We were supposed to go to his hometown because i mentioned i wanted to go. He even said he would have declined before because his house needs improvement but after everything that happened, he can show his house as is. However, i got sick.
I feel sometimes he does baby me or pamper me. He buys me my food cravings when i got sick and he visited me in the hospital. He is also extra attentive and tries to really tell me what to eat or not eat as it's related to my sickness.
He's already very specific in his messages and the biggest thing i noticed is that he is taking a role as my doctor and is always asking how am i or how's my sickness and giving me guidelines, tips. He also said he hopes these will all go away and that i'll be healed.
He contacts me first and always does check in whether i'm okay or not. I'm not sure if he's doing this because i'm sick or because we shared a trauma and have both anxiety and panic attacks.
I'm confused with the mixed signals. I'm used to people establishing eye contact and also why he's not as sweet in person. We really act normal in person but in messages he's sweet and apologizes when sending messages late and tells me the reason why even if the message is just to thank me. He's also very caring in messages, will always try to give advise and he said he was glad when i mentioned that i followed his advise and told him im it was helpful. He seems to also want to get complimented so i normally do so and i noticed he does more when i do that.
Is it because we have a shared trauma or he genuinely likes me?
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Hmm that does sound kinda confusing with the mixed signals. A few things that stick out:
- Introverts do tend to be more comfortable opening up over messages than face-to-face sometimes. Less pressure that way. So the sweet messages don't necessarily mean more.
- That said, he does seem to go above and beyond with caring for you when sick. Buying food and visiting in hospital isn't just being friendly.
- Taking on a "doctor role" giving advice could just be his way of caring since you're not well. But compliment fishing is a little flirty.
- Shared trauma can definitely bond people close together quickly too.
My best guess is he likely does genuinely like you some, but may not fully realize it himself yet since he's introverted. OR he wants something more but is shy about making a move in person.
The hospital visit especially says his concern is real. I'd say keep getting to know him better both online and in person. See if the interest grows on both sides over time. No need to rush into labels. Enjoy the attention for now and see where things naturally go! Hope you feel better soon too.
I believe he genuinely likes you but afraid to take first step as may be he is afraid of loosing you as a friend which clearly shows the hospital visits & Caring nature and stuff. He is definitely an introvert so give him some time to realise or you can confess your feelings.
I thunk he is shy thats why there is no eye contact with you