Is it me or him?

[Anonymous]

I currently have a lot of anger and resentment towards my boyfriend right now and I really don’t know why. This last week i have just gotten the feeling that he is stepping out. No evidence or anything. Like there is literally no reason for me to feel like he is going behind my back or lying about anything. But this gut feeling I have is still there and it’s making me behave in a very toxic way. I’m trying really hard to not throw accusations at him or give him smirky comments. But I like don’t want to be nice to him… at all , and it’s really hard to force myself to not act like a brat.
Any in-site as to why I have gotten like this?

[Anonymous]

Was there anything that he’s doing that’s making you suspicious of him? In my experience, I usually get this way when I’m nearing my period, my anxiety spikes and I get super suspicious of everything he does. Our brain also has a tendency to look for confirmation (even when they’re not real) when we’re feeling a negative emotion intensely. I think you’ll need some space apart, take a breather, write down all your feelings and challenge those negative thoughts. It can be hard to distinguish between your gut feelings and your high anxiety sometimes…

[Asker]

This actually makes the most sense. It usually happens around my period now that I’m thinking about it. I never paid attention to the timing of when I’m feeling like this. So thankyou. Your response really helped

[Opinion Owner]

No worries glad I could help out in some way! I can understand how you’re feeling though, I hate when I feel that way about my boyfriend when in reality everything’s all smooth sailing. Hormones can do some crazy shit to your brain lol

[JacobJordan]

Cause you spend time with shitty women who fill your head with lies. How about. I know this may come as a shock given your shit friends. You try talking to him like an adult instead of acting like a 6 year old that didn't get the candy bar they wanted.

[Asker]

I actually don’t have friend that I spend time with or vent to about my relationship problems. And I never said I act on these feelings I get. I have the self control not to be irrational or immature like you are implying. Maybe try asking questions to get details on a situation before making up a story in your own head about someone else’s life and then offering your opinion about it.

[JacobJordan]

Maybe try providing context so we don't have to fill in the blanks. I know good communication is borderline impossible for women but give it a shot it works wonders.

[stratford]

It's the combinatio of the two of you.

[HighValue]

Has one of your friend's recently had a boyfriend/husband that did something for them that your SO hasn't done for you or bought you and you possibly resent him for that?

[Asker]

No. Nothing along those lines have happened.

[Jay-_-]

Y'all probably just don't click or miscommunication/lack of communication.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Cause you cray cray.