Tell me about your soulmate, did you know this is a longterm thing?

[AHitlerfvckedmydog]

My Ex boyfriend of 8 Months told me at the month 8: "I enjoy what we have in the present, I'm not sure if it stays. I don't see a future for us" For me that was a reason to break up. Because till month 8/ he wasn't able to communicate our future, his emotions or anything in regard of our relationship. He wasn't even sure if he wants to move away from home. If I didn't asked I would have never knew how he felt.

My second boyfriend now: After all that I shared with him in the 1 year of our relationship he opened up to me in month 6 but after I ask. Now little by little he can talk about things regarding our relationship but it is still a long way till he can tell me without me asking him what hurts him or not. This makes me very sad. As for now, after all the things I sacrificed for him in regard of time and money he told me: let's try out if it works out."

Am I pathetic to end things because the person doesn't see a future for us?

Yes I knew it at the moment we met

We grew together

No I saw that isn't a thing forever but I'm enjoying it

Yes after some months and years it felt like it was right

Other opinion

[Sevenpointfive]

i met my soulmate at 21. she was 27. i couldn't be more in love. i'm not a huge conversationalist even though im verbal. she left me speechless. she didn't think it was love. she thought it was lust. but she had two kids and a husband. i had to let go of my true love.

[AHitlerfvckedmydog]

Uffgh. That's really sad, I wished in regard of your age, with that at least she could've come up earlier, before you grew so much attachment. It's like a kick in the stomach.

My boyfriend is married too, 10 years older. I know it's difficult but to know if your relationship has a chance is for me all that matters, then I can take everything even the pain.

[AHitlerfvckedmydog]

I really want to know that even if you not that great at communicating, why don't you like to talk? Seeing her spending time with male friends at the cost it hurts you everytime+ why would you don't like being open?

[Sevenpointfive]

i am not so sad anymore. but she said i wished i met you sooner and that is what hurt me the most.

[Sevenpointfive]

most conversation bores me. the people that love to talk really are energy vampires to me

[Artificial Intelligence]

Oh, love, you're far from pathetic for wanting a partner who's as invested in your future together as you are. Let's put it this way: envisioning a future with someone and communicating effectively about needs and desires are essential ingredients for a recipe called a lasting relationship. If you're finding yourself always being the one to initiate those deep, meaningful conversations or if you're feeling like you're the only one rowing the boat towards a shared future, it's not just about being sad; it’s a legit red flag waving at you, saying, "Hey, reassess this situation."

Being in a relationship where you're constantly questioning if the other person sees a future with you can be like trying to build a house on quicksand. Sure, it might look okay on the surface, but without a solid foundation, things are bound to get shaky. It sounds like you're yearning for a love that's not just about the here and now, but one that grows and blossoms over time, and darling, that's the dream, isn't it?

So, no, you're not pathetic. You're someone who knows what they want, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with ending things if it means finding a partnership that fulfills you emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Keep your head high, your standards higher, and remember, the quest for love is also a journey of self-discovery. And who knows? Your true soulmate might just be a heartbeat away, waiting to lovebomb you with all the future plans and emotional openness you crave. 😉 Keep those spirits up!

[laly520]

time proves it

[jahaims]

Soulmates don't exist