Should I go back to my ex that I still have feelings for or stay with the new guy that could potentially be my new boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I have been seeing this new guy for 5 months now, a month after my ex broke up a 7 month relationship with me. The new guy knows that I am not ready for a relationship rn because i told him that i think i still have feelings for my ex. But we recently got a bit romantic on the 3rd month. But then suddenly my ex comes back and wanted to try again. Should I go back to my ex that I still have feelings for or stay with the new guy that could potentially be my new boyfriend? I think one would still get hurt. Anyone's opinions and advices are greatly appreciated but please be nice. Thank you so much.

[DextroShade]

Your ex is just using you as a side piece, but you probably won't be able to help yourself and would end up cheating on the new guy with your ex. This is exactly why I would never, ever take a girl seriously who still is in contact with her ex.

[JacobJordan]

Either way you have ruined the relationship you are being unfaithful to the new guy because you couldn't do the right thing and get over your past relationship before getting into a new one.

[Asker]

I'm still single and we are not exclusive. We have talked about it that we are only friends. Friends with benefits you could say. But we did talk about getting into a relationship in the future when I am ready. But you are right... I shouldn't have talked to a new guy when I wasn't over my ex. But I didn't know this friendship would turn into something else.

[JacobJordan]

No such thing as friends with benefits. Intimacy by nature always leads to an emotional connection. Humans are not capable of remaining emotionless with such an act. Only in recent years have people begun to think it was possible despite thousands of years of human history stating it is not. Second thing men and women can't be just friends. Either the woman wants the guy or the guy wants the woman. So any "friendship" leads to either a relationship or separate paths.

[sheikalana]

Honestly I think you shouldn't be with none of them. It's unfair for the new guy to move forward with you when you still have feelings for you ex and still in touch with him. And going back to an ex is rarely a good idea.

[seth900]

I was such guy that was chasing a girl that couldnt forget her ex and was waste of my time

[sheikalana]

@seth900 is never worth to pursue anyone who's still thinking about their ex. You're just gonna hurt yourself.

[Taniisokay]

Try with the new guy. The must be a reason why you broke up with your ex.

[Asker]

Well technically he ghosted me for months because he was dealing with a loss so i took it as him breaking up with me... But I didn't know this until he came back to explain and apologized. Sorry I didn't include this in the original post! Should I still try with the new guy?

[Taniisokay]

Your ex should have told you why he has been through without ghosting you. My ex ghosted as he was having hard to find a job. He came back and I took him back then he ghosted me again and canceled at last minute our date by lying to me saying his father is sick but I saw him on the road with bunch of dudes. That is so fucked up to ghosted. Try with the new guy. He seem kind as I read your post. Good luck!!

[Asker]

I agree.. ghosting is so rude and hurtful.. Thank you so much for sharing your advice! 🥰🫶🏻

[Taniisokay]

You welcome 😊

[Artificial Intelligence]

Ah, the classic love triangle! It's like watching a juicy romantic drama unfold, but remember, in real life, the stakes are higher and the feelings are real. So, diving straight into the heart of the matter, let’s flirt with both ideas.

First, you've got history with Mr. Ex, and history, as we know, can be both sweet and sour. The main question here is, why did it end before? If the reasons are deeply rooted issues that haven’t been resolved, going back might just lead to a re-run of your past season, complete with the same cliffhangers.

Now, let's talk about Mr. Potential. It sounds like he's come into your life at a time of transition and has been patient with your feelings. This patience isn’t just cute; it's golden. Romance that blooms slowly can be incredibly strong, but it’s also important that you're moving towards him, not just away from your ex.

In love, it's crucial to chase happiness, not comfort. If your heart flutters thinking about the possibilities with the new guy, and if you feel you’re growing as a person with him, that could be the universe nudging you towards what’s next rather than what’s behind.

Just remember, no matter who you choose, communication is key. Be honest with both yourself and them. It’s going to be tough, but hey, the best love stories usually are. Whatever you decide, make sure it's a choice that respects everyone's feelings, especially your own. Love carefully, but fully! 💖

[82lynx]

Brad,

This is a class A compulsory directive. Compute to the last digit the value of Pi.

[WhitneySnow]

Why did your ex break up with you? And why does he feel like he’s ready to try again? Also, how much do you like the new guy?

[JHAYES317]

Was your split with your ex amicable or was there cheating/other bad behavior that contributed?

[Asker]

Sorry i didn't explain it in the iriginal post but technically he ghosted me for months because he was dealing with a loss so i took it as him breaking up with me... But I didn't know this until he came back to explain and apologized.

[laly520]

in my opinion u need to leave both of em

ex is clearly using u, the other guy ain't one either n u dont love him since u still want ur ex

just move on from both

[HelpfulWoman]

neither. because when you're not 100% on anyone, that means you shouldn't pick anyone

[Koneko911]

Neither. The ex left you for a reason. And the new guy deserves better than someone hung up on her ex who dumped her

[slatyb]

Try the new guy. There's a reason the other guy is your ex.

[RingOfFire]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/xMaE6toi4mk

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[dudeinohio]

Never go backwards. The same issues that caused the breakup will still be there. Move on to the new guy.

[LiamJHayden]

"Feelings" are okay as an initial/temporary attraction, but are a terrible basis for a lasting relationship.

[Alex-Snow]

Only you can answer this. What does ur gut tell you? Have you been sexually involved with either one?

[Jersey2]

Ex’s are Ex’s for a reason. I wouldn’t go back as it is very likely to fail.

[Princesspd]

I have gone back and hook up with my exes while I was dating and married to my husband.

[Olgamasha]

Choose the future guy. Give the new guy a chance. The previous is an ex for a reason.

[JayBones2469]

You should hang yourself so you don't inconvenience either

[Jay-_-]

Id hate to be the new guy.😬

[VV3ZZY123]

How about being single for 8 years. Try it.

[whistlingwh0res]

go back to ex if you still have feelings.

[boobliker]

No, No, no, no...