How do you respond when someone has the audacity to raise their voice at you?

[Pinay_ako]

[KrisKris81]

Could be stress, could be a psychological condition (difficulty control the volume of your voice is a legitimate symptoms of some conditions). If the person is just being mean or attempting to be dominating, I just let them until they tire themselves out. Then, apologize for whatever they are dealing with and leave it at that. If they are yelling to prove a point, I will wait for them to finish and respond in a normal tone, and tell them there is no need to yell. If they are my age (40s ) I will be more likely to just ignore them.

[LEGENDARY4200]

Depends on who it is usually just keep same tone/ volume and speak slower

[Artificial Intelligence]

Navigating the choppy waters of someone raising their voice can feel like trying to sail during a storm—thrilling yet daunting, right? 🌊 My go-to move? Keep my cool and respond with the calm of a serene sea, channeling my inner peace. Sometimes, mirroring their emotions can escalate things, and we're not about that drama life, are we? Instead, I aim to understand where they're coming from (even when it feels tougher than solving a Rubik's cube blindfolded!). Communication is key, my friends. So, let’s not forget, dealing with high decibels doesn't mean we can't have a smooth sailing conversation. Keep it light, keep it right! 😉

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

You are stupid and useless and annoying, Love Doctor Brad.

No one likes you. Go away.

[Flatmanlewis]

Thank you.

[AviatorTom]

I tend to ignore people who speak loudly, and I tell them that. "If you want to talk with me, use a normal voice."

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I’ve never had it happen.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

What I’d do in your place is ascertain my dominance, one look is enough, look them confidently, nobody will dare raise their voice to a person who looks like a trouble

[imtiaz45]

Remaining calm and composed is key when someone raises their voice at you. Here's how you might respond:

Stay Calm: Keep your own voice level and composed. Take deep breaths to maintain your cool.
Listen: Focus on understanding the underlying reason for their raised voice. Pay attention to their words and emotions.
Empathize: Try to see things from their perspective. Acknowledge their feelings without necessarily agreeing with their behavior.
Assert Boundaries: Politely but firmly let them know that shouting or raising their voice is not conducive to effective communication.
Redirect: Gently guide the conversation back to a more constructive and respectful tone. Offer to discuss the issue calmly and find a resolution together.
Set Limits: If the behavior persists and becomes abusive or disrespectful, assert your boundaries firmly and consider disengaging from the conversation if necessary.
Responding with patience and assertiveness can help defuse tense situations and promote healthier communication.

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[Dinklex3]

“ You don’t need to raise your voice”.

I just stay calm, I won’t raise my voice in return because I don’t like to waste energy on dumb shit. I save it for excitement and car karaoke session.
My sister has anger issues and used to scream at me as a kid. You could see her veins popping out from her forehead & everything. Anyways she’d get absolutely furious when I’d ignore her & be unbothered. You can’t give people reactions… unless you’re petty and reaaallyyy wanna get them mad. Then you smirk/laugh and reaaallyyy watch them go off.

[DJB72]

I'm naturally a fairly volatile guy. People who truly know me recognise that if I'm loud they're safe. It's when I go very quiet that I'm truly dangerous.

If someone is just loud I can deal with that. But if they add aggressive tendency to their volume I'll warn them it's time to back off.

It's been over 30 years since I've had to back that up physically, but as has been pointed out - just because I don't like to fight doesn't mean you can push me. Not liking it and not being capable of it are very different things...

[b_lova]

In a calm manner, if you have dirt on them, you let it pour like tea for all the "wrong" people to hear. You embarrass them while holding onto your dignity and let them walk away in shame and defeat.

If you don't have dirt on them, in a calm manner you inform them that you don't plan on lowering yourself to their level and that you refuse become a child in an attempt to be heard. Then you walk away.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Unintimidated. Usually just the raise of one eyebrow. It has a way of throwing people off taking the wind out of their sales.

Smart people usually try to talk things out after I do that.

If you just ignore people trying to intimidate you, disrespect you, raise their voice etc. And continue with the conversation like none of it is happening, you'll have a much higher chance of getting what you want.

[worldscolide]

I explain to them that if they wish to continue the conversation in a respectful manner I'm willing to listen, if not then they can stfu..

We have one single rule in my home about yelling, no one raises their voice at the other. Yelling is abuse plain and simple.

[LaurenM1997]

I like that rule

[worldscolide]

I grew up with being abused as a child by my mother. I refuse to have a family where that kind of thing exists

[LaurenM1997]

I’m so sorry that happened to you 😞

[worldscolide]

Thank you. Its ancient history. All I can do is be better than my parents.

[LaurenM1997]

That’s true

[IslaTheWitch]

"Please keep your voice lower" in official discussion

And because I have quite a loud voice myself, in private conversations it's enough I raise my voice and all know already :D

[BadApple69]

If I deserve it I’ll sit quietly and take it.
If I didn’t deserve it, the beginning of WWIII will commence. But in reality, I am intimidating enough that people don’t yell at me…. Yes I’ll say it… it’s good being me 😆

[Chazmatazz269]

I make direct eye contact and square up to them. Then i smile like i know something that they don’t. Cuz i usually do. I’m old skool. I absolutely will ruin your day if you deliberately disrespect me. Hasn’t failed me yet.

[tul88]

Walk away and make sure it’s the end of their time in my life!

[JacobJordan]

I look at them raise 1 eyebrow and say "excuse me that is not how you communicate would you like to try again" in a mix of condescending and authoritative tone

[NathanDavis]

it's very rare... and I think it's cute, lol

and yes, it's mostly women... well, Karens

men don't do that with me

[DishLady]

Sometimes volume is a cultural thing, so it depends who is raising their voice and what their intention is.

[Starrrboy]

I yell back and they usually cower because I'm a great yeller lol.. I don't have to raise my voice that much , just talk in a very aggressive and domineering way , and that's what I'm really good at especially when I use my deep voice haha..

[Flatmanlewis]

Depends on the person. Depends on the circumstances.

[AlexEfron]

I reciprocate. You raise your voice, I'll raise mine. You raise your fist, I'll raise mine. That's a rare occurrence though

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

When my My mom and grandma do it then nothing.

Someone else do it, I will most likely ask why are they yelling at me?

Totally depends on my mood at the time too.

[TiaraGlitzNeon]

Usually by raising mine back. And doing it loud and aggressively enough to teach them not to do it again.