I’ve been depressed about the amount of women coming forward telling other women to never get married and have kids. I want to. How should I do this?

[Anonymous]

I’ve dreamed of finding a great partner for myself and being a wife. I also want to be a mother. However everywhere every woman is complaining online that men are really abusive and now I’m not looking forward to it. I’m scared that I might not find someone who loves me. They say most men don’t love their wives.
Anyway I know there are a lot of bad men out there but I have believed there are so many goods ones too.
How do I stop feeling depressed and change my perspective?

[NamerOfStars]

You ask them a very simple question: why are there tides?

Oh, I know that on the surface, it seems like you're trying to change the subject. But you're not. You're trying to establish it. They'll murmur something about the Moon- don't let up. They'll say something like "the gravity field of the Moon pulls the water towards it". Then you ask why, if that's the case, there are two high tides a day when the Moon only goes around once. They won't have an answer.

What's the point doing all this? To show yourself that you're not hearing something reasoned out or seen from experience, just reciting dogma. They're not trying to inform, or even warn, you; they're trying to get you to signal your allegiance to their mindset by validating their declarations. There is no thought behind their words; "... the sour faces of the multitude, like their sweet faces, have no deep cause, but are put on and off as the wind blows and a newspaper directs", as Emerson so eloquently put it.

Learn to stand on your own, even if that means against the will of the masses, and the problem will go away- and you'll be a lot happier, too.

The other problem is that you're looking online- social media is naturally a hotbed for groupthink, and often for groupthink of the least pleasant and reasonable kind. Hop off for a while and interact with people in the real world, and you'll find more sense and less histrionics.

[JacobJordan]

Shitty women are shitty. They are a minority just like the bad men. If they want to give bad advice. You can give advice. You can also realize that they the reason they are doing this is likely because no man wants them and rather than take some time to reflect on that they naturally blame men.

[Anonymous]

“Everywhere every woman is complaining online”, there’s the problem, you are chronically online and easily impressionable. Once you put the phone down and be alive in the physical, real life moment, you’ll notice how many people aren’t matching what you see/hear online. I meet at least 2-3 people every day who barely use social media. Also, random women shouldn’t dictate your choices. You wanna be a mom, be a mom. Wanna get married, get married. Why be depressed over other women’s life choices? Why even let them have such influence?

[Asker]

Girl I really needed to hear this. Thank you so much.

[Opinion Owner]

No problem! Online can be great to pass time but also toxic af. Don’t listen to those women and do what feels right for you.

[Asker]

💕💕

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

You're just gonna have to have faith that what you're looking for is going to come to fruition. There are bad guys out there and raising kids can be frustrating, but it can also be very rewarding as well. You just have to accept that it's not going to be perfect.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Navigating the sea of negativity can feel like you're adrift without a paddle, but let's throw in an anchor of positivity here! The internet can be a whirlpool of extreme views, but remember, it's not the whole ocean. Focus on the stories that inspire you, the couples who adore each other, and the families that thrive together. They're out there, sailing smoothly!

Your desire for love, marriage, and motherhood is beautiful and totally achievable. Here's a little lovebomb for you: Keep your heart open, filter the noise, and believe in your journey. Trust me, the right partner isn't just a fantasy; they're your future reality waiting to be discovered. Avoid the ghost ships of doom and gloom and navigate towards the islands of hope and love. Start with loving yourself, maintaining positivity, and being clear about what you want in a partner. And remember, your love story is yours to write, so grab that pen with confidence and excitement! 🚀💖

[Bricealan]

That is entirely up to you to do that. Don't let others influence you as to how you feel about marriage and family. My marriage failed, but many do, but that is not to say you will not be successful. I live next door to the happiest married couple that I know, and they have two young children. They are a team, and they pull together. If you find a partner, like that, you can only succeed as a happily married mother.

[CriticalCatDad123]

Those women are part of the 4Bs movement which is a feminist movement. 4B (or " Four No's ") is a radical feminist movement which is purported to have originated in South Korea in 2019. Its proponents renounce dating men, marriage, sex with men and having children.
Fight back against this movement. It is toxic.

[Asker]

I’m Christian and conservative. Family is so important to me.

[CriticalCatDad123]

Doesn’t matter

[Anonymous]

By using your head and NOT making the mistakes those women made. Because that is the REAL reason they're telling you not to get married. And remember it IS better to be single than with a man that does not truly love and respect you. Take your time. There's no reason to rush this. Love happens when it happens. And let me tell you, those partners that truly get you are not everywhere. In my life I've only met 1 or 2.

[strateguy632]

only hav kids in stability... ergo join a church n meet a serious Christian. those are *ryt about depraved atheism culture!

[DrPepper12]

It's drama and BS. You'll fing him and be a great mom

[exitseven]

kids are not for everyone. they are a lot of work and they don;t always turn out good. They also coast boatloads of money.

[Anonymous]

I felt the same until I had children. Now I know what they were saying. But it's your life. Live how you want to live

[Asker]

I appreciate your insight on this. If so conflicting. I’m just concerned because now I don’t know what to do with my life. If it’s really that rough I’m not sure where else to put my energy and focus. I was always looking forward fo it.

[HighValue]

Stay away from those types because they will sabotage any relationship you do have.

[Unit1]

Touch grass and forget what they said

[KrakenAttackin]

American women are fundamentally damaged.

[LazerBean]

Get off the Internet