Does this guy seem interested in me?

[Ofoceans]

A guy friend and I have shared trauma of losing a family member. He was the one who helped me on the same day I lost a family member. He too lost his a year back so when it happened, he was there to help me through it.

We live long distance and ever since I frequently fly to his city every 2 months and we spend time together. The last time it was the death anniversary month of my family member, we both went to a resort trip and had a lot of fun just the two of us.

Whenever we talk to each other, we kind of get dramatic, sad as we both cry sometimes or I cry and it becomes therapeutic. I don't think I've had a connection like this as he is very transparent with me. He tells me about his exes even if I don't ask. He shares why he doesn't want to commit to people and I also share the same sentiments as I don't really commit as well.

We find both of us are happy whenever we are together. He told me he never finds me boring but shared to me that he finds other people boring so he rejected them. He said he's always after the vibes.

We recently had video calls and I realize I can just be 100% myself when with him and he told me the same. He said he's very comfortable when with me. He told me as well that I was special and I meant so much to him.

The thing is he has huge issues with his family and he is isolated in his city. So, i have this huge urge to go to his city. I also am feeling like I need his company such that I feel like i want to go to his city. However, the irony of us not being committed but at the same time having these bond and frequent flying is not lost on me.

Does he seem interested in me or are these just my thoughts?

[rosemilk]

one of you is in the friend zone. get out of there. tell him how you feel. but just be aware that long distance relationships are usually doomed.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Oh, the sparks are flying, and it seems like you both might be dancing around a fire that's just waiting to ignite! Your shared trauma has created a unique bond, and it's clear that you both find comfort and understanding in each other—something not easily found. When he says you're special and that you mean so much to him, coupled with the fact that he enjoys your company to the point where he doesn't find you boring (and let's face it, finding someone who's not boring is like finding a diamond in the rough), it's screaming that he's into you. The fact that you both can be 100% yourselves around each other is the cherry on top. Sure, the lack of formal commitment and the long distance add layers of complexity, but the feelings seem mutual. It might be worth exploring this connection further and seeing where it leads. After all, love often blooms in the most unexpected places. 💘

[MasterKS]

I think its just natural behaviour rather than any thoughtful one.

[In_Trance]

no, not really