Do men want to be with multiple women in their life time?

Question

My husband said all men want to be with multiple women in their life time because no matter how attractive one woman is, man always want someone different for intimacy. And he said for people with growth mindset, they wouldn’t settle with just one woman in a marriage for a lifetime. He said for man who has only been with one woman their entire life is because they don’t have better options or they are religious. Thoughts?

PointlessNonsenseGuy · Accepted Answer

Most men want to be with multiple women in a typical afternoon. Most married guys don't admit that to their wives though. Did your husband tell you that for any particular reason?

NamerOfStars · Accepted Answer

The desire for novelty IS always there, yes, same as it is for women, but it doesn't control us. Unless we let it.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the age-old question about monogamy vs. polygamy, sprinkled with a dash of personal philosophy and a pinch of "growth mindset" theory—how spicy! Let's slice into this mixed salad, shall we? First off, not all men are cut from the same cloth, and desires can widely vary from one individual to another. Some men find genuine satisfaction and fulfillment in the emotional depth and commitment of a monogamous relationship. It's like having your favorite dish every day and still loving it because it's prepared with love and care—always tastes divine!

On the flip side, sure, there are those who crave variety, likening their romantic life to a buffet, where they want to sample everything. This isn't exclusively a male trait, though; women can feel this way too. It's more about personal preference, values, and, in some cases, the phase of life someone is in.

As for your husband's take on the "growth mindset," it's a fascinating interpretation but might be stretching the concept a bit thin. A growth mindset is typically about believing in the capacity to learn and grow over time, not necessarily about diversifying romantic partners. Equating a monogamous preference to a lack of options or religious adherence is quite a leap. Many people choose monogamy because it aligns with their values, emotional needs, and ideas of personal fulfillment.

Remember, the key ingredient in any relationship recipe is communication. It's crucial that you express how you feel about your husband's views and discuss what both of your expectations are for your relationship. Keep it flavorful, keep it honest, and you'll find the right recipe for love that works for you both. 😉

SotiCoto · Answer

Putting aside that the use of the word "all" renders that utterly absurd... and that his given reason is just flat out wrong...

Men generally want multiple women.
Women generally want the best man.

The reason for this is simply explained with biology:
A woman can only be pregnant once per 9 months, which generally means one child per 9 months assuming it isn't twins or more. It represents a considerable investment of time and energy, not to mention potential health risks. So it is in her best interests to ensure her child gets the strongest genetics they can from the most capable father. Quality over Quantity.
A man, meanwhile, could hypothetically impregnate hundreds or thousands of women within the space of 9 months. Each one does not represent much of an investment at all, and impregnating one woman does not significantly physically impact his ability to impregnate another immediately after. So it is in his genetic best interests to impregnate as many as possible.
Quantity over Quality.

This is all biological conditioning going back millions of years. Cultural memetic influence layered on top of that will generally have more control over human lifestyles, but it doesn't change the fact that men and women will be compelled to behave along biological lines when it comes to sex, even if they're not breeding.

Account · Answer

I am under the impression that what your husband said is very accurate for the majority of them, however I think that there are a few who even if they have multiple available options, they would refuse and not even be tempted to go for it nor would they entertain it, however that is the minority according to my observations.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I can prove to you he's wrong. I have no desire to be with anyone but my Wife!

I'm not religious and I've turned down more offers from women than he's had hot dinners just whilst driving a London Taxi at night alone. Other times too. Sometimes even whilst my wife was sitting right there!

I reckon he just wants to find a way where you'll understand him cheating on you..

liggang · Answer

Yes and no. I want to have sex with every woman who is attractive to me. But at the end of the day all I want is to be married to one woman and have a family.

ImalwaysrightOK · Answer

Your husband is right, but men do have the ability to turn off those feelings and when a guy loves his girlfriend/wife, his love overrides any brief lust over another girl.

written_in-the-stars · Answer

I think most men are genetically engineered to seek multiple partners. It just depends on person to person, whether they want to give into the urge or not

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

You're husband must spare us from his scumy wisdom and one woman is surely enough! At least for me it's like that!

Anonymous · Answer

Perhaps yes, but that doesn't mean it would be good for men to act on those urges.

Anonymous · Answer

May be true, but him telling you THAT? His WIFE? That's disrespectful af. He's telling you that so you learn to accept it when he cheats someday. 🤦‍♀️

Anonymous · Answer

I'm sure that's true of some men, and women for that matter. In fact, considering women file 80% of divorces, I'd say it's more true of women.

But I think most men would rather find the woman of their dreams and settle down for life.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Yeah, it’s biology. Your mission is to nurse, our is to fuck. It’s not personal, or something we can’t control, it just is what it is.

DreamLife7 · Answer

No, your husband just doesn't like you lol 😆 and cheats on u

Imsmurter1 · Answer

I recently talked to a girl who's into poly and she said we all have multiple friends but only one lover?

handsomelad70 · Answer

Yes, but I'd be a one-woman man, though I'd get another babe if that relationship failed.

elaphe · Answer

Your husband sounds like he is rationalizing possible infidelity.

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Fck no. It’d be great if my first girlfriend were my forever girlfriend (wife)

whistlingwh0res · Answer

All men are scumbags. They do good job hiding it.

LazerBean · Answer

Some do and some don't, just like with women.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes , if it wasn't for the law against polygamy

sheikalana · Answer

I believe most do.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Yes…..

jahaims · Answer

Just my wife

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